Ginaki 0 Posted October 29, 2007 i want to share with ALL OF U someones comment that made me feel like shit tonight, just came back from visiting my bestfriends parents that have just arrived from overseas,, anyway all us girlfriends were sitting having our coffee and smoke out on the verandah, and my best friends mother turned around out of nowhere and said to me "how did u get so fat? i remember u when u were small u werent this fat" guys i just wanted to disappear,, u can all imagine... How judgemental can someone be,, hello , never judge a book by its cover! Anyway my girlfriends all know im going in tomorrow for surgery so they just ignored it and spoke over her,,,they tried hard to make me feel better because they all know my weight problem is a very personal and touchy topic... After tonight's humiliation i want this band badly , no hesitation now , death or no death!!!!!im going in tomorrow! MIND YOU this woman is a very big lady....... huge! so how dare she put me down like that,, guys u dont understand im realy f***** off! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jelbel 0 Posted October 29, 2007 I'm sorry this happened,I hate that! But think of it as the positive way.... Now you want it no matter what... So do I. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
katiep2003 0 Posted October 29, 2007 I'm sorry she said that to you. People need to really think before the speak. I had a woman at church a few weeks ago, who's known me my whole life come up and pat my stomach and ask how my diets going, then proceeded to lecture me about how bad my weight is for my health. Yeah... I walked out of there in tears. But like jelbel said think postivie now you know you really want this. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
babs0101 1 Posted October 29, 2007 How Rude! And you should/could have spoken up and said so! I know I would. Anyway, I can also understand your humiliation as I too have been there and done that! It sucks. Congrats on your band and best of luck. Come in here and vent anytime, you do have understanding people in the same boat to support you through your band journey. Keep your chin up, you are on your way! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mariposa Bella 3 Posted October 29, 2007 I'm so sorry this woman hurt you. Sometimes people don't have any sense and she obviously doesn't. Good luck with your surgery and take care. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phyllisc 0 Posted October 29, 2007 I had a woman say something just like that to me once. But she was senile, so sometimes you just have to consider the source and not let it get to you. Sometimes people need to keep that foot they just put in their mouth there permanently. Good luck with your decision to move forward. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kagoscuba 0 Posted October 29, 2007 Two ways of dealing with it for me... 1. Because I am passive aggressive, I would have just ignored this obnoxious bit@h for the rest of the day. 2. If I'd had a little alcohol and my inhibitions were loosened, I would have probably said something along the lines of "I don't know; how did you let yourself get so rude?" I had my best friend's mom say the same thing to me, almost word for word, as what this lady said to you. I feel for you, because it's a horrible feeling. Just think about it this way: that's one less person you need to worry about for anything ever again. Forget about her; you are doing what you need to do. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
newimage 2 Posted October 29, 2007 Just know that we are here for you! Ignorant people are just that IGNORANT! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Crispy2 0 Posted October 29, 2007 I like to tell people how ugly they are when they tell me I am fat! Even if they are skinny or fat they can never change the way they look! I know that is mean but who the heck are they to talk about my/your weight. Sorry that happened I feel for you, I have had many of those situations with older relatives and even friends. I have one friend that now tells me I better not get skinnier than her! Ha more motivation for me to show her! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MissSac 0 Posted October 29, 2007 Ignorance is not always bliss. Be proud of you and what you are doing to improve your life quality!!!!!!!! Keep your chin up!!!!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robin Bird 0 Posted October 29, 2007 You should have shoved her coffee up her nose Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
goodtimes 0 Posted October 29, 2007 Just remember that people are always going say something to make themselves feel better. So since u said that she was big too and she saw you, that was for her benefit not yours!!! You go girl and then when she sees you again, she is really gonna be pissed!!! oh well!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
marnie723 0 Posted October 29, 2007 You should have said, " I don't know, I guess I'm taking after you!" and if your really spiteful make sure to go back after you've lost weight & ask her the same question.HA HA Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
juliegeraci 7 Posted October 29, 2007 That would definitely hurt my feelings. What a bitch. Take it in stride . YOu will love being banded. Good luck. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DonHoll1 0 Posted October 30, 2007 Some people are just too stupid for words. You have to ignore them. Donna Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
