Disappointed

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Okay, I realize this isn't the end of the world but it still makes me sad.

I worked really hard to get to goal and I did it. Lost 103lbs in 10 months and two more pounds since then. My goal from Day #1 has been to be banded, lose weight, and have plastic surgery in less than a year, it's what kept me going. That's what kept me in check with calories, running, the works.

I was banded 12/6/06, lost weight, met goal, Tummy Tuck scheduled for 12/03. My goal, right? Everything in a year.

This type of plastic surgery carries more risk than banding, much more risk. Mortality stats are higher, potential complications are higher, rate of complications are higher. Because of all this I wanted my band surgeon IN the OR during surgery and he is sweet enough to comply with my request. While he couldn't do much to help the plastic surgeon *I* know he is a trauma surgeon and if a weird complication did happen I wanted him taking over my case. I wanted him calling the shots if I couldn't for any reason. He has the experience and skill to do so. Besides, I really really can't stand the plastic surgeon. He's a butthead. He is arrogant and I am blunt and to the point. The two really don't mix well.

I went to Mexicali today with a friend and talked to my bariatric (fat) surgeon. He explained that he won't be available for the time I'd need to be in Mexicali, he has to go out of town. I'd be in the hospital a minimum of two days and hotel for at least the remainder of a week.

There is a "thing" about having confidence in your doc and I do have that with my "fat" doc. I don't have it with my plastic surgeon. Yeah, the plastics guy is good and he is very skilled but he's still arrogant and I'm still blunt. It's not a great combo. The time is coming SOON when I will have to tell him how he is.

My "fat" doc asked me to put off the TT for a few days, at least. Due to scheduling he wants me to have the TT no earlier than 12/10/07. Yep, it's only a week but it blows my big huge goal of closing the "fat" chapter of my life in a year. Something I was really proud of.

I know, it's petty. But it's the petty stuff in life that bug me the most. Amazingly, the big stuff doesn't bother me much. :car:

[nina874 48]

Hi WASA

Totally get you hon, these goals are the things that keep us going, I have a similar one myself and will be GUTTED if I dont make it.

Can you not schedule the TT earlier? How flexible is the PS?

Is it this guys skill level or aftercare that is bothering you or is it just the fact that he is an ass? Is there anyone else that you could use instead? I only ask cos if there is something that you arent happy with afterwards and you dont have a good relationship with him, will the two of you be able to sort it out?

Nina x

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Hi WASA

Totally get you hon, these goals are the things that keep us going, I have a similar one myself and will be GUTTED if I dont make it.

Can you not schedule the TT earlier? How flexible is the PS?

Is it this guys skill level or aftercare that is bothering you or is it just the fact that he is an ass? Is there anyone else that you could use instead? I only ask cos if there is something that you arent happy with afterwards and you dont have a good relationship with him, will the two of you be able to sort it out?

Nina x

Nina...

Nope, I tried every angle. Surgery earlier... the works. It just isn't possible. PS is not flexible at all. He is very busy and scheduled well in advance.

The thing that bothers me is that he's an ass. I don't like him, I actually dislike him a great deal. He's an ass and I'm blunt. Honestly, that's not a good working relationship. I just wanna smack the arrogance right out of him!

He is very skilled. I am familiar with his rep, I know some of his patients, I have seen his work, I have verified his credentials, he was referred by my fat doc. I just don't like him... not even a little. When I look at him all I can see is his creepy little eyes and silly blue smock. I see nothing else. Totally me & my issue, I know that. Bottom line, it is still an issue. I won't do the procedure unless my fat doc is there. It is important to me, important enough to cancel surgery if my fat doc isn't there, even if it messes with my overall goal.

Speaking of goals, what is yours? What keeps you going?

[nina874 48]

That is a bugger of a situation ( scuse the language!!)

Is there definately noone else that you would want to do the PS? I have similar issues with ass type people - changed my ob/gyn for that very reason!! Couldn't live with the thought of a prat staring at my bits...

My goal is my 40th next year....sigh.... I have the holiday of a lifetime booked ( 3 weeks in the maldives!!) and I want to be able to look at the pictures without crying...

I have set myself a very tight timescale - I work best under pressure - and I have the PS booked for a FTT, BL/BA and Lipo for the 11th of FEb next year so that the scars have time to fade before September ( when my 40th is)

The PS has said that if I am within a stone or so of goal he is happy to do it, but I want to be AT goal!!LOL

Nina x

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

That is a bugger of a situation ( scuse the language!!)

Is there definately noone else that you would want to do the PS? I have similar issues with ass type people - changed my ob/gyn for that very reason!! Couldn't live with the thought of a prat staring at my bits...

If my fat surgeon can find a doc with a personality that doesn't make me want to beat him to a bloody pulp, that would be doable.

Thing is, this is a small private hospital and not many docs are granted an ability to work there. I want it done at that hospital so my fat surgeon can be there. That cuts things down a great deal.

My goal is my 40th next year....sigh.... I have the holiday of a lifetime booked ( 3 weeks in the maldives!!) and I want to be able to look at the pictures without crying...

I have set myself a very tight timescale - I work best under pressure - and I have the PS booked for a FTT, BL/BA and Lipo for the 11th of FEb next year so that the scars have time to fade before September ( when my 40th is)

The PS has said that if I am within a stone or so of goal he is happy to do it, but I want to be AT goal!!LOL

Nina x

HA! Having PS scheduled that far in advance certainly demonstrates goal! ;o)

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

WasA, you know that no one can relate to you more than me right now! I know you want your surgeon there and that should be the thing to focus on. Somethings are unfortunately out of our control. You did everything you did to close the book on being fat, you can call it a success. Hanging the fat chick in the closet for 1 more week isn't so bad, trust me. You know mine will be with me now for more likely than an extra year. So this is me telling you 1 extra week is not bad at all!

I know you want the fat Dr there, you should do whatever you need to do to have him there, in the end you need someone you can trust and I know you trust him!

Good luck, I am here for you, and I won't lie....I am majorly jelous! :car:

[nina874 48]

If my fat surgeon can find a doc with a personality that doesn't make me want to beat him to a bloody pulp, that would be doable.

LMAO!! Wait til youve healed though wont you!! I am picturing the post op consult right now.........

Thing is, this is a small private hospital and not many docs are granted an ability to work there. I want it done at that hospital so my fat surgeon can be there. That cuts things down a great deal.

Mmmm is your fat surgeon aware of your homicidal thoughts towards his collegue? Have they got anyone else on the books?

For me I would be really worried about his attitude if, god forbid, you werent happy.

How much is it costing you? I only ask cos my PS is in Europe, but specialises in doing surgery on WL/banded patients. Here is his web site addy Docteur PASCAL - LYON - FRANCE

The total charge inculding a week as an inpatient is 12,000 euros for a FTT, Lipo and BL/BA. I dont know if that is too far to travel?

Nina x

HA! Having PS scheduled that far in advance certainly demonstrates goal! ;o)

I am not known for being easy to live with........ :car:

NIna x

[nina874 48]

Still havent got the hang of the quoting thing!! LOL

[METALBAND 0]

What is a couple of days!!! Do not undo everything you have accomplished by missing the date by a few days. Do not be so hard on yourself......

Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.........Look at the big picture, will it matter in 8 or 10 months from now when you are in the body you want to be in???? Will it take anything away from how great it looks or feels??? NO!

You should not be the one to sabotage all of your hard work....that is what you have the evil sister for and your MIL from Hell!!!! :heh:

[TruBlueSue 0]

Girl, I know how you feel about the whole goal thing = take pleasure in the fact that you are at the end of the INITIAL part of the journey, and relax!! It's all going to come together in the end, and 5 or 6 days on either side of that "magic" date aren't enough to stress over....

I am 14 pounds from my goal, and wanted to be there on my bandiversary. Well, didn't get there - and wasn't really due to lack of effort or focus - its just how my body has reacted. Ooookay, so my big 4-0 is 8 december, and that's my new goal date....

just breathe

[DonHoll1 0]

I would wait the week so you can have your doc there. I think you would feel more secure. You should be so proud of what you have done!!! Donna

[Nancy B 0]

Just curious...why are the dates important? Does it really matter in the "big picture"?

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

Just curious...why are the dates important? Does it really matter in the "big picture"?

Yes and no.

In the whole scheme of things it doesn't make a bit of difference.

But for me... I was really proud of the fact that I busted my ass, lost weight, and was going to get plastics all done in under a year. It's been my goal from Day #1. It's what kept me going and kept me running when I absolutely hate running.

Like I wrote, it's petty but it's the petty stuff that gets to me. The big stuff is no biggie.

[Jachut 487]

I'd wait the week and it woud drive me flipping crazy to know that I was missing the goal I'd set by a week. It would niggle at me and make me insane.

But its life, and its only a week and I know that worrying about things like that is pointless. I was SO upset to be having a caesarean with Eliza after two normal, easy deliveries. I was really sad about missing out on the incredible experience of natural chidlbirth. But five years down the track, I dont even think about it, heck, five weeks down the track I wasnt thinking about it. It is completely and utterly irrelevent to my life now.

As it will be with this. Once you're gotten the end result and are living with it, how or when you came by it is not going to matter.

[WASaBubbleButt 41]

J...

I know, I'm getting used to the idea. I still don't like it but it isn't like it is going to kill me. At least like Boo Boo, I don't have to wait a year.

In the end, it will all be good. I just want to stomp me feeties and whine for a day or two.