Do people treat you different now that you're skinny?

[Littel_Urchin 24]

I am not skinny yet and am still at the beginning of my weight loss journey. Having said that...I don't really get mean comments anymore once I was able to put more effort in my appearance. Once I started earning my own money, I moved out of my home country (where clothing only comes in sizes S, M, and L) to another country where clothing comes in sizes 0-20 and shoes come in size 42. I'm always skimming at the top but I am still able to find great options that actually *fit* rather than just something I can fit into.

I also enjoy taking care of my appearance (hair salon, mani-pedi, makeup) so I look like some fashionista, only fatter (if I may say so myself). In my experience, I have people open doors for me (some were even cute guys!), strangers struck up a conversation, etc and I have stopped thinking that it's all got to do with me. How people treat you is a reflection of themselves. I've had people open the door for me even when I didn't feel particularly beautiful / made any effort that day so, some people are just nice / respectful, and some are jerks.

However, I do feel the difference when I put on some effort in my appearance and when I don't. People treat you with more respect when you do but I guess the same applies to regular-sized people as well, and I think because when you put some effort you feel more confidence and less sensitive to perceived slights from other people.

I am, however, very interested to know if I'll experience these changes in treatment from stranger that others mentioned.

[kakatlady612 1,053]

I'm told guys develop elevator eyes, where they stand there looking you up and down and up and down. Hasn't happened to me but then I'm still built like a freight elevator at this point.

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[JupiterinVirgo 846]

I would not define myself as skinny, but I have lost 160 pounds and weigh about 160 pounds. People definitely treat me differently, and almost every situation. I am included more in social activities, and frequently told that I am beautiful. I have come to be known in my community has a bit of a party girl, because I am always dancing and smiling. I'll admit that I am also different and more ways than just the shape and size of my body. I hold myself differently. I am happier. I feel better physically. But I have no doubt that the reduction in the size of my body has made a huge effect on how other people perceive me.

[Healthy_life2 8,327]

1 hour ago, kakatlady612 said:

I'm told guys develop elevator eyes, where they stand there looking you up and down and up and down. Hasn't happened to me but then I'm still built like a freight elevator at this point.

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I am still a bit clueless about gestures from the oposite sex..lol some of the guys here have been great to help me interpret men.

I had to look up the makeing it rain gesture..lol

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[joy59 81]

I actually experienced reverse discrimination. I went into the store where I had always shopped where I could buy my size 26 and the saleswoman came up to me and was quite rude and basically told me to leave until I told her I was there for someone else, I couldn’t believe it.

[blizair09 3,250]

10 minutes ago, joy59 said:

I actually experienced reverse discrimination. I went into the store where I had always shopped where I could buy my size 26 and the saleswoman came up to me and was quite rude and basically told me to leave until I told her I was there for someone else, I couldn’t believe it.

I shopped at DXL when I was heavy, and because I spent so much, I got free coupons pretty often. Long before goal (I'd say I probably weighed about 225ish at the time), I went in with a $25 coupon. Now, I knew that there were no clothes there to fit me anymore, but I was going to get socks with it (even though socks came up to my knees lol). The ladies that had taken care of me for years were actually standoffish bordering on rude. I expected them to be happy for me, but they certainly weren't...

[kakatlady612 1,053]

You know that is so sad. Did they think you were going to imperil their paycheck by getting thinner.? I'm proud to know you as a person who succeeded where I yearn to be.

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