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I realize on nights like tonight, for the US people, its the superbowl. Centered around food and usually alcohol. I feel out of place in these situations. I am staying home tonight (smooth move tea and I are fighting! Bad day!) Even going to restaurants, parties, get togethers, even game night. They all center around food. I have been avoiding restaurants because in early January we went to Applebees, which was fine. They let me order off the kids menu (4 oz sirloin? $6 and came with salad!) I ended up being in pain the rest of the night. I had an ounce of steak, 2 forkfulls of salad. The issue, I drank Water while eating. Holy moly! It is sheer habit. Does it get easier? How do I break those habits?

SW 350 (11/15)

BSW 260 (10/17/17)

CW 216.1 (2/4/18)

RGW 199

GW 175

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We are staying home tonight too ! To much temptation [emoji20] I too have a bad habit of drinking during my meals .

HW 313
SW. 309
CW. 274
GW 200
Surgery 01/04/2018


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...retracting my comment as pre-surgery...

Edited by Apple203

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Parties don't bother me. I can socialize without eating the food. It's the restaurants that I'm uncomfortable in. I used to eat out 3-4 times a week and now I avoid restaurants. Went out last week to Celebrate my adult sons birthday with family in a restaurant. I told him to order two dishes that he likes since he would be taking them home. I took a few nibbles of one of the dishes and had it packed for him to take home. I prefer to stay home and eat alone these days.

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We have went out a couple of times , and I also have a couple bites off my husband plate . My group of friends always have the best Snacks at our get together so it’s easier to stay home


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I was just thinking about this. I am celebrating a birthday and super bowl this weekend. No alcohol and no pigging out. I am getting through it by going to one of my safe resturants for my Birthday and cooking a healthy meal for tonight. For a cake I got the smallest carvel cake for my family to split.

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Forgot to add that eating out does get better. Especially after the first couple months

HW 309
SW. 274
CW. 217
GW 190
Surgery 09/25/17

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I can sympathize with you somewhat. I'm allergic to alcohol so it's like having a built-in two drink limit. I HATE parties and events where people go primarily to get smashed. I've skipped my best friend's birthday party most years because they're all centered around drinking. There is nothing worse than being the only sober person in the room so I find I'll go to some events like that and leave early before I'm surrounded by incoherent morons. As far as handling things when things are centered around food, I'll be OK since I can at least still carry a conversation while others are eating. I'm already the last one to finish eating, not because I eat too much, but because I like to talk during meals to make them last longer.

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Thank you guys for the input! I am not sure if I will ever be able to eat in a restaurant. Just bad habits that I dont think about. In time i will just have to not order a drink. I dont think it will be hard come summer, as at parties and picnics I tend to mingle more. When we are cooped up in a house full of food. The deserts are what kill me! I have alot of people in my life, myself included, that are awesome cooks and bakers. I did well for the holidays. I will get a piece of something, take a little morsel off and give the plate to my cousin! Lol! Or she will give me a forkful.
I kinda never did fit it, as I am not a girly girl. I usually hangout with the guys. Just that i feel like now I stand out.


SW 350 (11/15)
BSW 260 (10/17/17)
CW 216.1 (2/4/18)
RGW 199
GW 175

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I went to a Super Bowl party tonight and came right home to get on this site to see what others were saying. I felt so out of place and ended up eating a bunch of crap I shouldn't have, and I feel AWFUL! I I didn't have a lot, but a few bites of chips, half cup of chili, few sips of wine and a couple bites of cake. My stomach is punishing me, big time. I know I should be able to go and socialize without the food and drink, but I wasn't successful this time.

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Everyone has been downing the Snacks around me & I have restrained myself until dinner. So I had a piece of pepperoni pizza with parmigiana cheese & half a bottle of Taco Bell fire sauce in the vitamix for dinner tonight. Of course my serving was half a cup but what a treat it was!

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