3 months post op...... My mind and soul are turning to mush

[willowwaters 25]

I have just hit 3 months post-op. Yes I'm still losing weight but I feel like it's still a very slow process. I don't understand why sometimes I eat one or two bites and I'm so full and other times I feel like I don't get full even after eating almost a cup of food. Lots of new changes just happened to start at the time of my operation. My son started acting out at school, I had my oldest move back in with her significant other and the baby. They've been in the doctor's office so many times. I lost my father-in-law to cancer. I also started a full-time job sitting all day in a field like I've never done before so my stress of those little higher from that as well. Holy s*** this whole process is truly life changing for me. The only thing that is the same as before as my shoe size.

Right now I don't know if I have buyer's remorse or I should have waited a bit longer to get this done. I know this is supposed to be life-changing. But it seems like my life is turning so many different Corners right now I don't know which way to go.

I am currently lost looking for my way the new me.... apparently what I had in mind was not what the universe had in mind. So now I'm completely lost I'm where the hell I should be. I've only lost 34 pounds since my surgery I thought that number would be a little bit higher. I was expecting one to two pound still a week right now. Yes overall I am halfway to my goal.... I am just not so sure on what I'm doing wrong. Is it normal to feel like the whole world is overwhelming and your going batshit crazy.... I don't feel like I'm depressed right now I just feel very tired... My soul is in need of some good mojo..... I still feel like I'm missing a piece to this puzzle. ....

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[Rainbow_Warrior 996]

2 hours ago, willowwaters said:

So now I'm completely lost I'm where the hell I should be. I've only lost 34 pounds since my surgery I thought that number would be a little bit higher.

Normal progress, give or take a couple of pounds.

I am 15 weeks, 4 days post-op and I have lost only 19.8kg (43.65 pounds) and that is on he back of swimming at least a mile and a half almost every day since mid-November.

Just do the basic eating and drinking right and try to side-step a little of the pain and anxiety of the other changes in your life. It's too late to focus on buyer's remorse or bad timing. Make the best of what you've got.

Re-focus yourself to make yourself the priority. Be open with your house-guests and family and press them for more support.

[willowwaters 25]

yeah i am trying to refocus now.... hopefully I can figure this out... it' just life never slows down at all. Haha... you would think as mich as i run around i would of hit my goal by now

[Sunnyday25 172]

Take a deep breath and I know you have a lot on your plate, but I cant not stress how important therapy is at this point. It is amazing to have someone to help you recognize your mental gains, and value you unconditionally. Not only that they walk with you through all the life crap too.

[lilmissmouse 9]

Hi - I had my surgery on 11/1 so a bit after you but I share all of the same feelings. Yesterday I had my 3 month checkup with the surgeon and felt MUCH better afterward so I will share with you: he told me that at 3 months they would expect to see 45% of excess weight gone. And they measure not from surgery date ( I've only lost 26 since surgery) but from your weight when you started the program. That made sense to me. So applying that math, I have lost 44% of my excess weight. Close, right??

If you apply that equation to your weight loss I think you are winning as well!! It looks to me that you have lost 42% of your total EXCESS ( using 266 as a starting point). Good job girl!!

Life does get heavy sometimes. And this process is work, no doubt about it. Just know that you are not alone.