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Been a LONG time since I've felt attention from strangers, but it's undeniably coming back.

And you know what? I'm not sure how I feel about it.

Part of me is flattered and enjoys it.

Part of me is pissed about the injustice of it.

And then there's this scheming part of me that thinks...fat middle aged women can commit the perfect crimes because they're utterly invisible and no one suspects them.

Do I really want to give that up? LOL:)

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Omg I know exactly what you're talking about! Super annoying!!

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It could also be the way you’re carrying/presenting yourself now.

That’s not to say you weren’t confident or presenting well pre surgery, of course. But I know, personally, that when I’m making healthier choices and feeling good physically, I just exude better vibes than days I’m not. And the more work you put in and the more success you see, I imagine you’ll be giving off a ton of positive and exciting vibes.

Idk, maybe that all sounded super hokey.


5’6”
25 yo
SW: 256
CW: 230.8

*12/04/2017*

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Been a LONG time since I've felt attention from strangers, but it's undeniably coming back.
And you know what? I'm not sure how I feel about it.
Part of me is flattered and enjoys it.
Part of me is pissed about the injustice of it.
And then there's this scheming part of me that thinks...fat middle aged women can commit the perfect crimes because they're utterly invisible and no one suspects them.
Do I really want to give that up? LOL:)



Hahahah me too!!

It's like part of me laughs because before I was sleeved I would get attention but now it's ridiculous and worst yet all my ex's have been trying to contact me [emoji23]


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I'm sure its probably less pronounced for men - but a previous time when I had lost 100 lbs I couldn't figure out why people were staring at me for a while. Then I noticed that people were 100% nicer, saying hi, holding doors etc. It pissed me off because of how badly overweight people are treated - especially since I eventually gained it back and saw it go the other way.

Probably a good study of society in here somewhere. For now it's a good compliment, your changes are obviously noticeable so that's something!

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