A question for those who have lost a lot of weight

[CB31 37]

I'm looking forward to my op but I am a bit nervous for down the line. One thing I'm nervous about is, when I lose weight, will I struggle with a disassociation with my body? I've struggled with depression and all sorts over the years. I deal with it and talk about it but it's made me be very aware of myself. I'm curious if you still feel like you. I want to lose weight but not the person I am, if that makes sense. Anyone make sense of my bumbling?

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[MowryRocks 679]

I'm all me. A so much better me.

Your words sound so much like mine to my hubby when I was pre- op. I was scared of being different. All my differences now are positive and I am grateful for every one of them.

[vamping 183]

At worst, you'll be more confident! That wasn't an issue for me as I have always been very confident and social. I think the hardest part with the process for me is trying to make people understand that I didn't change on the inside, in spite of the dramatic change on the outside. Plus even over a year out, I still haven't mentally realized what my outside actually looks like. I don't feel like I lost "me". "Me" just comes in a different package now.

[James Marusek 5,244]

I am over 4 1/2 years post-op RNY gastric bypass surgery. I am still the same me except I am a lot more healthy and able to do many more things.

[Pazza 199]

I think in some ways I have changed but who I am is still the same. I think the things that have changed are confidence and habits.
Dealing with a slimmer body can be difficult to process. It has been for me. I didn't think it would. Two thoughts to pass on on that front.
My doctor told me I needed to develop a new identity as an active "skinny" person. (I don't consider myself skinny but he was making a poont.)
Counseling - I'm a big fan of c.b.t. and working through it. It is worth it though. It may be easy for you to accept the new package too.
All the best

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[CB31 37]

Thanks. I've tried CBT before and it was very effective. That's the part I'm wary of, getting to know the 'skinny' me if and when I get to it

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[shay_148 23]

I'm looking forward to my op but I am a bit nervous for down the line. One thing I'm nervous about is, when I lose weight, will I struggle with a disassociation with my body? I've struggled with depression and all sorts over the years. I deal with it and talk about it but it's made me be very aware of myself. I'm curious if you still feel like you. I want to lose weight but not the person I am, if that makes sense. Anyone make sense of my bumbling?
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I think they are mostly positive changes, but just find people to talk to, I struggle a little as I become more slim, I was so heavy my whole life it’s hard to see the person in the mirror. I’m only 9 months post op.

[CB31 37]

I think they are mostly positive changes, but just find people to talk to, I struggle a little as I become more slim, I was so heavy my whole life it’s hard to see the person in the mirror. I’m only 9 months post op.

That's my fear too. I've been big since birth. I've never been slim, even as a child. But you're right, it's mainly positive changes. That's what to focus on. Thanks

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[rudy7306 14]

I have gone through many changes over the last 10 months. I have felt like myself but didn't notice the physical changes as much as others around me.

I still feel like myself, just a better version of me. I can do the things physically that my mind says I can do.

Embrace the changes and allow yourself time to adjust. IF it happens organically, it will be easier to adjust and to accept the new you.

[Mindy78 372]

I'm 15 months post op tomorrow. Most days I still feel like me some days I don't recognize that woman in the mirror. Don't get me wrong I like me and don't regret it at all just sometimes I don't feel like me at all. Always a bigger girl and getting "noticed" more is a bit awkward.

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[WOW Is this really me>? 2]

On 12/21/2017 at 3:48 PM, CB31 said:

I'm looking forward to my op but I am a bit nervous for down the line. One thing I'm nervous about is, when I lose weight, will I struggle with a disassociation with my body? I've struggled with depression and all sorts over the years. I deal with it and talk about it but it's made me be very aware of myself. I'm curious if you still feel like you. I want to lose weight but not the person I am, if that makes sense. Anyone make sense of my bumbling?

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I've lost a lot of weight. If I remember, it took a little while post op to get "my ol self" back again. I started having fun buying clothes I wanted, not just because it was the only thingt that fit me. Take one day at a time, have someone to talk with, and you will always continue to be you; with different eating habits that you will get used to. Good luck.

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

I'm looking forward to my op but I am a bit nervous for down the line. One thing I'm nervous about is, when I lose weight, will I struggle with a disassociation with my body? I've struggled with depression and all sorts over the years. I deal with it and talk about it but it's made me be very aware of myself. I'm curious if you still feel like you. I want to lose weight but not the person I am, if that makes sense. Anyone make sense of my bumbling?
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Sorry. I lost the person I was. And I'm glad about that lol. Obcourse your going to change alittle. I've lost almost 80lbs everyone changes towards you suddenly you go from invisible to super special and everyone wants to make you happy so yeah I've changed. I value myself more. My standards are higher.and I'm more confident. Yes I don't realise how small I'm getting till people tell me but it's not serious. I'm happy with my progress and it does take the mind awhile to catch up

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[kakatlady612 1,053]

Is CBT cognative behavior therapy?

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[Angel2018 37]

That’s right katatldy612

[kakatlady612 1,053]

Thanks Angel2018, glad you're here with me on Bariatric Pal.

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