Angry with myself

[TakingABreak 2,733]

6 minutes ago, dreamingsmall said:

I think I know there is a food versain seen I was given that option. Lol what's harsh ? The food option isn't her option so.. I said I was Confused about the fact she weighed it out then ate it. But she explained she weighs food anyway. I wasn't harsh for asking a question. Goodness me..

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It sounds like to me that she weighed it out because she wanted to be in control of the portion size. What is confusing about that? This isn't a woman who ate a whole bag of chips or box of Cookies. Her choosing chicken, her weighing out her chicken, TELLS ME that she is already moving in the right direction. She will do just fine after surgery.

6 minutes ago, dreamingsmall said:

I'm not going to say that. Cheating is cheating. It's best to try not to cheat. I'm sure we have all cheated. But I won't say weldone for cheating. Yes chicken is on other plans it's not on hers. And I know some surgeons will not do surgery if THEIR plan was not stuck to. Whether it's someone else's plan or not. But if its the better thing to say you say it. And leave me to say what I already did lol.I'm 5 months post. What do you know about what I researched lol seen as I'm doing amazing thanks. My liver was nice and tiny.

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Announcement everyone, there is a new cop in town and her name is @dreamingsmall. Are you going to call her surgeons office and tell them she ate 2 oz of chicken? And for the record, they ONLY care if the liver has shrunk. There are 100's of surgeons that don't even do a pre-op diet. I wonder how ever do they do surgery.

"Cheating is cheating" Had she done something to actually jeopardize her surgery, I'd say... pick up the pieces and make better decisions. However, she didn't.

The reason I joined this forum is because I wanted a support system and to bounce ideas off of one another. Now, mind you, apart of any support system should be someone to hold you accountable. HOWEVER, I think what you are doing is a bit overkill.

I haven't had the surgery yet, but I've done enough research and talked to enough people to know why what she did is not the end of the world. So take your 5 months, and use it for good.

[Khandir 11]

I'm not going to say that. Cheating is cheating. It's best to try not to cheat. I'm sure we have all cheated. But I won't say weldone for cheating. Yes chicken is on other plans it's not on hers. And I know some surgeons will not do surgery if THEIR plan was not stuck to. Whether it's someone else's plan or not. But if its the better thing to say you say it. And leave me to say what I already did lol.I'm 5 months post. What do you know about what I researched lol seen as I'm doing amazing thanks. My liver was nice and tiny.Sent from my Vivo 5R using BariatricPal mobile app

I’m feeling negative energy and this isn’t what I’m here for. I guess this forum isn’t what I was hoping for. This is hard for all of us. We all have our own battle that we deal with daily that may have us 2 seconds from eating an entire box of chocolates. I only want to have good energy and give good energy. I want to give support and encouragement. If can’t do the same I feel so sorry for you. I appreciate you@AshAsh1 and thanks for the link I learned something new today!

[TakingABreak 2,733]

5 hours ago, Khandir said:

AshAsh1 thank you for the helpful and encouraging words. I kinda felt the way you just expressed but I wasn't sure if I was being overly sensitive..

No problem. I'm proud of you for measuring that chicken! That tells me you are going to hit this out of the park!

[alli81 18]

Today was such a horrible day for me. I started my liquid diet the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. I had been doing fine until today. I had 2 ounces of grilled chicken breast. I’m so devastated. I don’t know how this is going to affect me. My surgery is next Thursday the 14th. I’m so angry with myself right now.

We have spent our lives being angry at ourselves, feeling guilty, not good enough...STOP. You are almost there, 2oz of chicken is fine. Do your best and move forward! You got this!

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[TakingABreak 2,733]

Just now, Khandir said:

I’m feeling negative energy and this isn’t what I’m here for. I guess this forum isn’t what I was hoping for. This is hard for all of us. We all have our own battle that we deal with daily that may have us 2 seconds from eating an entire box of chocolates. I only want to have good energy and give good energy. I want to give support and encouragement. If can’t do the same I feel so sorry for you. I appreciate you@AshAsh1 and thanks for the link I learned something new today!

I hope you continue to post on the website because for every one of her, there is someone else who can really help you! PM me anytime you need to chat!

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

I think I know there is a food versain seen I was given that option. Lol what's harsh ? The food option isn't her option so.. I said I was Confused about the fact she weighed it out then ate it. But she explained she weighs food anyway. I wasn't harsh for asking a question. Goodness me.. Sent from my Vivo 5R using [mention=320479]dreamingsmall[/mention]. Are you going to call her surgeons office and tell them she ate 2 oz of chicken? And for the record, they ONLY care if the liver has shrunk. There are 100's of surgeons that don't even do a pre-op diet. I wonder how ever do they do surgery. "Cheating is cheating" Had she done something to actually jeopardize her surgery, I'd say... pick up the pieces and make better decisions. However, she didn't. The reason I joined this forum is because I wanted a support system and to bounce ideas off of one another. Now, mind you, apart of any support system should be someone to hold you accountable. HOWEVER, I think what you are doing is a bit overkill.

I haven't had the surgery yet, but I've done enough research and talked to enough people to know why what she did is not the end of the world. So take your 5 months, and use it for good.

Did I tell you I am concerned about what you think of me ? You haven't even had surgery yet and you want to be going off like you are. Don't worry when your time will come you will understand the importance on attention to detail . You have missed the point. Your acting like you know every surgeon. You know nothing about were I am. I am in the UK AND no they don't just care if your liver has shrunk they care if your able to stick to their plan this is not about other people who don't need a pre op diet. It depends on the person the surgeon.the hospital. Your weight. Pre existing conditions. So don't try and educate me on what you don't know. I'm not wasting my time on someone who thinks they know it all before they have even started. I HAVE seen UK forums were people have said their surgeon postponed surgery because they didn't stick to plan their liver would have shrank as they didn't have anything substantial but he wanted to see them change their ways before surgery to increase likely hood of success after. In the UK surgery for most people is on the nhs and the waiting list is unbearably long so if someone doesn't stick to it exactly as that hospital dictates they can move on to the next person they feel is more deserving who stick to requirements. I never said it was the end of the world. Neither am I judging the individual. But a Stern word helped me many times. I have no reason to want someone to fail so I will be honest and frank. I'll not comment on any topics you post. But I've lost 60 lbs and I just hit my 5 months and I can say some Stern words along my journey has kept me straight. This is not all sunshine and rainbows. If you don't like it shutup and block me. Because I won't change. I wish the op the best. Calling me out on each post as if it will make a difference to me. Your wasting your time. I'm unsubbing this post. So please feel free to reply. I won't read it. I can see you can argue with a paper bag. You don't seem to need a response. So I won't give you one. Sent from my Vivo 5R using BariatricPal mobile app

[TakingABreak 2,733]

Did I tell you I am concerned about what you think of me ? You haven't even had surgery yet and you want to be going off like you are. Don't worry when your time will come you will understand the importance on attention to detail . You have missed the point. Your acting like you know every surgeon. You know nothing about were I am. I am in the UK AND no they don't just care if your liver has shrunk they care if your able to stick to their plan this is not about other people who don't need a pre op diet. It depends on the person the surgeon.the hospital. Your weight. Pre existing conditions. So don't try and educate me on what you don't know. I'm not wasting my time on someone who thinks they know it all before they have even started. I HAVE seen UK forums were people have said their surgeon postponed surgery because they didn't stick to plan their liver would have shrank as they didn't have anything substantial but he wanted to see them change their ways before surgery to increase likely hood of success after. In the UK surgery for most people is on the nhs and the waiting list is unbearably long so if someone doesn't stick to it exactly as that hospital dictates they can move on to the next person they feel is more deserving who stick to requirements. I never said it was the end of the world. Neither am I judging the individual. But a Stern word helped me many times. I have no reason to want someone to fail so I will be honest and frank. I'll not comment on any topics you post. But I've lost 60 lbs and I just hit my 5 months and I can say some Stern words along my journey has kept me straight. This is not all sunshine and rainbows. If you don't like it shutup and block me. Because I won't change. I wish the op the best. Calling me out on each post as if it will make a difference to me. Your wasting your time. Sent from my Vivo 5R using BariatricPal mobile app

Oh I know you won’t change. People like you rarely do. But I’d choke on my words if I said what you do sometimes. So keep on a truckin. Insulting one person and degrading another...

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

Oh I know you won’t change. People like you rarely do. But I’d choke on my words if I said what you do sometimes. So keep on a truckin. Insulting one person and degrading another...

I've actually never insulted anyone. If I had I would not be on here as that's against the rules. So nice try lol. As I said on the other post. Mrs obsessed. Please continue to call me out. It will look abit embarrassing when I don't respond . You clearly love me or something as you keep trying to get my attention lol. All the best kiddo .

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[TakingABreak 2,733]

I've actually never insulted anyone. If I had I would not be on here as that's against the rules. So nice try lol. As I said on the other post. Mrs obsessed. Please continue to call me out. It will look abit embarrassing when I don't respond . You clearly love me or something as you keep trying to get my attention lol. All the best kiddo .

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How old are you? Obviously I love you [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]. Good grief, I think I just peed a bit from laughing so hard. Your humor is better than your advice.

[Cowgirl12 29]

Khandir,

it’s been awhile since I’ve been on the site but like you I like to read what others are going through and see if anyone else is having the same thoughts as myself.

Dont beat yourself up over a small cheat, it was only 2 oz and it was protein... not a bag of cookies..

I just asked the nursing dept for the program I’m on at the hospital I’ll be having my surgery ( by pass) about the 2 week diet as well because I’ve been mostly on Protein Drinks due to a good allergy and finding your me to eat during the day ( stressful job). Yes, the 2 week diet is for shrinking the liver but my surgeon also has people on the Clear Liquids the last few days before surgery to keep any food residue from leaking into the stomach cavity and causing any infections... I’m glad he’s that thorough on this. But unless you had eaten a lot, I would just check in with your nursing staff and not beat yourself up over it and keep up the good work with your progress!!!

Ignore the nay sayers and just know there are all kinds of sabotagers, just ignore them.

Let us know how you are doing!

[KimTriesRNY 1,853]

My surgery was rescheduled twice. The second time shaved four days off of the liquid diet for me. I was really worried that my liver would be too large, but the surgeon was able to do my bypass without difficulty. I remember asking him the next day how my liver looked lol.

Get back on plan, you’ll be fine. I’m sure lots of people have a nibble here or there. It’s a huge change going to a liquid diet. I found eating warm items like cream Soup if you can have them helped me feel less hungry.

[Khandir 11]

Khandir,
it’s been awhile since I’ve been on the site but like you I like to read what others are going through and see if anyone else is having the same thoughts as myself.
Dont beat yourself up over a small cheat, it was only 2 oz and it was protein... not a bag of cookies..
I just asked the nursing dept for the program I’m on at the hospital I’ll be having my surgery ( by pass) about the 2 week diet as well because I’ve been mostly on Protein drinks due to a good allergy and finding your me to eat during the day ( stressful job). Yes, the 2 week diet is for shrinking the liver but my surgeon also has people on the clear liquids the last few days before surgery to keep any food residue from leaking into the stomach cavity and causing any infections... I’m glad he’s that thorough on this. But unless you had eaten a lot, I would just check in with your nursing staff and not beat yourself up over it and keep up the good work with your progress!!!
Ignore the nay sayers and just know there are all kinds of sabotagers, just ignore them.
Let us know how you are doing!


Thank you so much for the support. I really felt like I didn’t want to come back to the site but I decided not to let bad energy affect my body or mind. My surgery is Thursday and I’ve only had that one punch since starting the shakes.

Now the only other thing for me is I’ve been hearing people say they had to do a laxative the day before their surgery. I wasn’t told that at all. Being on this forum has really shown me that each surgeon has a very different program.

Thanks again and good luck to you!! Positive vibes always rock!! :-)

[Khandir 11]

My surgery is the 14th too! I'm not sure why, but no one put me on a liquid diet. I've been on 6 months supervised diet/weigh ins and I'm down 15 lbs since Aug. However, after all the research and reading, and listening to all of you, I'm starting liquid Monday before Thursday surgery just to be on the safe side. Good luck, you will be fine. LEAN, STRONG, HEALTHY, HAPPY! that is my mantra :-)

Awesome December 14th!!! Since I started my liquid diet I’m down 15lbs. But I’m down 32lbs in total. I’m excited for Thursday!! I wish I could blink and yay Thursday.

Positive vibes, positive body!!

[insul817 49]

I hate to wish time away, it's the stuff life is made of. However, I wish I was about 2 weeks post-op! Good luck to you! I'll be posting as possible to keep everyone updated. :-)