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I've yet to reach my goal and I'm not very far, but I still have like 12 kg to go and people are already telling me I should stop losing weight. I think everyone's shocked about my quick weight loss but years ago when I started to gain and I was at this exact weight people (family specially) used to tell me I should lose a few kg bc I was fat. So why is it different now?

I'm decided I want to get to my goal or at least as close as I can. My brain hasn't adjusted to my new body yet and when I go out to buy clothes I always have to downsize the stuff I pick because I see smaller sizes too small for me. So maybe they are right and I'm not seeing it?

What do you do when people tell you that you should stop losing?

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They just aren't used to you looking (relatively) slender. You should work with your doctor to determine a good goal weight, then tell your family and friends that your doctor is helping you decide when to stop losing weight.

Congrats on getting so close to goal already! You should have no trouble getting there!

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I've yet to reach my goal and I'm not very far, but I still have like 12 kg to go and people are already telling me I should stop losing weight. I think everyone's shocked about my quick weight loss but years ago when I started to gain and I was at this exact weight people (family specially) used to tell me I should lose a few kg bc I was fat. So why is it different now?
I'm decided I want to get to my goal or at least as close as I can. My brain hasn't adjusted to my new body yet and when I go out to buy clothes I always have to downsize the stuff I pick because I see smaller sizes too small for me. So maybe they are right and I'm not seeing it?
What do you do when people tell you that you should stop losing?

What are your stats. I can't see side bar stats on the ap

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She's 5'5 (170cm) and currently 182lbs (82.7kg). Her goal is 149lbs (68kgs).

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4 hours ago, Berry78 said:

She's 5'5 (170cm) and currently 182lbs (82.7kg). H er goal is 149lbs (68kgs).

Thanks berry. If you have this surgery to stop losing at 180lbs .. that would be such a disappointed. You are still quite over weight. The people telling you to stop losing must be large ignore them.

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Thank you both! I know I want to get to my goal I won’t stop here [emoji5]


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I'm 5'5", too, and I wouldn't be happy to stop in the 180's with surgery -- still in overweight territory -- especially knowing that people can gain 10-20 pounds down the road in the maintenance phase. Without surgery, 180s is the best I've ever done with diets.

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People love to feel like they have a stake in your body, even though it's not THEIR body. By telling you to stop losing before you've reached a truly healthy weight, they're inserting a little bit of control, or attempting to. It's not up to them at all. It's entirely up to you. I like the response above -- just tell them you're working with your doctor to determine your ideal healthy weight and you'll be sticking to that plan. Best of luck! I too am 5'5" and am currently 181.5, so we're almost exactly the same size right now. I have no intention of stopping here either!

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People say the same thing to me but I don't listen to them. I'm like 20 lbs away from my goal and I'm not stopping til I get there. They're not living in my body, therefore they don't know.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-150
GW-130
Size- 4 or 6, Small in sweats. Medium in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 38D

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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