You're not big enough for weight loss surgery" What do you say?

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

This is a tricky one that keeps coming up for me.....friends, family and acquaintances who are heavier people insist that I'm not big enough for weight loss surgery, and almost get mad and take it personally. Like....Hmmm, if she thinks she's so big she needs to do that, she must think I'm outrageously big, too. And they get angry and seem really insulted. Why would you do that? You're not that big!
This is a weird question, but is it better to address it and say.....I'm not judging your choice to be heavy, I love you just the way you are........or is it better to just say....well, my doctor thinks I'm heavy enough and has been asking me to consider this for years. Both kinda fall flat of the diplomacy i'm looking for.
How do I defend my choice without making other heavier people feel criticized? I really don't WANT others to feel hurt by my choice, or feel I'm viewing them critically. Any ideas?

I wouldn’t worry about it. You are doing this for yourself, not to worry about someone else’s feelings. You have to live inside your body and not them. My psychologist always tells me, I cannot make anyone “feel” anything. People are responsible for their own feelings. If they are choosing to be insulted or offended that is on them, f**k them if they don’t understand your reasonings for choosing weight loss surgery.