I’ve regained ALL the weight back 😢♀️

[summerset 5,265]

I hope people do the same if they decide to e. g. continue driving a car. Many people die in car accidents as well, even if they're good and responsible drivers and they have families that need to be taken care of, too.

Same for smoking. I hope every smoker has a big life insurance policy.

[bellabloom 2,467]

I hope people do the same if they decide to e. g. continue driving a car. Many people die in car accidents as well, even if they're good and responsible drivers and they have families that need to be taken care of, too.
Same for smoking. I hope every smoker has a big life insurance policy.

God I love you ️

[Healthy_life2 8,324]

[Kindle 8,667]

9 hours ago, summerset said:

Overgeneralizing and judgmental. Some people need a second chance.

Nobody gives a flying f**k if a patient needs a second fundoplicatio because of heartburn or a second PTA because that stenosis needs a second dilatation but God forbid that someone needs a second WLS procedure.

My point is, it doesn't matter if you have 10 WLSs, if you don't change your eating habits you will have the same results. I believe too much emphasis is placed on the physical side of WLS, instead of the psychological side. Stories of "failed" WLS all have a common theme, namely, poor choices when it comes to nutrition. With very few exceptions, obesity is a product of addiction, not stomach capacity. And unfortunately surgery and the surgeons that perform them do not address the addiction.

My sleeve definitely helped me lose weight, but it doesn't keep me from gaining it all back. Choosing grilled chicken, a side of greens and Water over a double cheeseburger, fries and coke does that. Took thousand of hours of introspection, therapy, and mental health support to be able to make those choices.

[JerseyJules 862]

On 12/16/2017 at 0:51 AM, bellabloom said:

I don’t like “tough love”. It’s a sugar coated way of just being a narrow minded a*****e.

This I do not agree with. Telling someone that their obesity is going to kill them and its their decision making process that is leading to them being obese, is in no way being a narrow minded a$$ hole... Its simply stating the obvious, yet we live in a society where everyone is so offended at every little thing. Will being overly PC get to the point we cant even communicate with each other anymore? Probably..

People need to face the facts sometimes and its not always what they want to hear. But you cant tell people its their fault for the situations they put themselves in, we have to coddle each other and place blame elsewhere.. Granted, sometimes its a genetic defect or disease that cant be helped that would cause a person to be overweight, but an overwhelming majority of the time its them just not embracing a healthy lifestyle and making poor choices.

If calling that out on someone is being an A$$ - hole, then Im the biggest one, and I called myself out on my own actions, cause I got myself fat, no one else....

Edited December 17, 2017 by JerseyJules

[bariatricbutterfly 113]

I would like to add I eat carbs every day. I consume fruits, rice, potatoes and oatmeal. I carb cycle frequently and has not stopped my body from changing. Any diet that eliminates food groups, in my opinion, is not realistic. I will add, my carbs are all consumed prior to 2 PM and it’s between 90g - 180g per day. I’ve attached before and after pics and I’m 8 years out with no intention of returning to before. It’s all in moderation.  

[GreenTealael 25,336]

The person that began this thread obviously is an adult and WANTED a consensus from the court of public opinion. That individual can chose to accept or ignore the opinions that they choose. That being said the tone of the topic including the honesty about eating habits deserves honest answers, feels like a public cry for help, when it should be one made to that individual's medical team

[bobblesloulou 4]

Thank you for your comment JENN1 , I realize I was being a little glib in my post. My surgeon sold it to me as a "miracle" and I was told I would have "rapid weight loss" this was of course unrealistic. The Dietitian brought me back down to earth. I was dealing with disappointment of the missing magic! lol

I had a follow up with my surgeon 2 weeks ago- I walked into his office and he held his arms open and said "well" " didn't I tell you it would be great" I just sat down and couldn't entertain his enthusiasm.

Its silly really as I am a very grounded & practical person, but I have a long sad tale I wont go into now about a previous Gastric Band and a near death experience - so this was to be my salvation.

I think I was suffering with a bit of post surgical depression (and delusion) and let things get on top of me. But now i feel I am taking control.

I know the simple truth is that I need to be ever contious of my diet and exercise.

I am now starting to really like going to the gym and aim for 4 times a week, getting used to the cardio and increasing each week.

I am losing around 1kilo a week and eating lots of vegetables, eggs and calorie controlled ready meals.

I feel good and with a bit of support I can do this.

Lynn

x

[Stella S 612]

No magic. WLS surgery was a part of something bigger for me

[bellabloom 2,467]

This I do not agree with. Telling someone that their obesity is going to kill them and its their decision making process that is leading to them being obese, is in no way being a narrow minded a$$ hole... Its simply stating the obvious, yet we live in a society where everyone is so offended at every little thing. Will being overly PC get to the point we cant even communicate with each other anymore? Probably..
People need to face the facts sometimes and its not always what they want to hear. But you cant tell people its their fault for the situations they put themselves in, we have to coddle each other and place blame elsewhere.. Granted, sometimes its a genetic defect or disease that cant be helped that would cause a person to be overweight, but an overwhelming majority of the time its them just not embracing a healthy lifestyle and making poor choices.
If calling that out on someone is being an A$$ - hole, then Im the biggest one, and I called myself out on my own actions, cause I got myself fat, no one else....

Becoming obese is not as simple as having a lack of willpower and being a glutton. I know plenty of obese people with rock hard wills and incredible self control when it comes to other aspects of their lives- just not food.

You are over simplifying an issue that is biological and psychological and extremely complex. Insinuating that over weight people are just irresponsible, don’t care about their health and weak is offensive and wrong.

This isn’t about being PC. I’m the last person to care about being pc. It’s not about not hurting someone feelings or babying someone. It’s about bringing awareness to the FACT that obesity is creating by numerous underlying issues in our society and eating patterns and cultural mindset that go far being one individuals liking of cheesecake.

We are dealing with a population of people with extremely disordered eating behavior brought upon them by a lifetime of misguided messages about how to eat, what to eat, how much to eat, and most importantly- what to look like.

What we are not dealing with is hundreds of thousand of people who just can’t resist the delicious crunch of their double decker. Because I promise you, if being thin came down to willpower alone, I wouldn’t have had to remove 90% of my stomach organ to get there.

[JerseyJules 862]

6 hours ago, bellabloom said:

We are dealing with a population of people with extremely disordered eating behavior brought upon them by a lifetime of misguided messages about how to eat, what to eat, how much to eat, and most importantly- what to look like.

Basically proving my point about not accepting responsibility for their actions. I did say there is a portion of people who simply have medical or hormone issues, however the overwhelming majority of the country that is obese are simply misguided, uneducated as to how to properly eat and exercise and are making poor choices at the dinner table.

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

On 12/1/2017 at 10:52 AM, FLLyssa said:

I really hate to see some of the things that have been said in this thread. So, to those wondering about my Drs appointment I said question a revision. I just wanted my Drs opinion, although I enjoy talking to ppl on here. It's all opinions and personal thoughts. My DR said he has had a few stretch their pouches but not many in 20 years. Told me to go back to the basics. Protein first always then Veggies, no carbs. Carbs make you fat and keep you fat. Told me if my sleeve wasn't "working" he hated that term. That I wouldn't be up 30, I woulf be up 100. Just thought some it you would like to know. Thank You for the positive msgs. The negative nasty people, I understand why you were overweight to begin with. Slamming others equals NO self worth or Self Esteem.

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There is a contingent of very nasty people on here, just steer clear and put them on mute if possible.

I am so proud of you for going back to your doctor and discussing this with him!! I am sure it's hard, life happens and what we do with it, how we handle it, is where our success lies. Getting back onto the protocol is the best thing for you, focus on 64oz Water, 90g Protein (Or whatever your protocol states), getting in your Vitamins and then getting back to your 10K steps per day. Follow that and it WILL Happen for you again! You are amazing for going to your doctor and being proactive about this. It's OK to fall as long as you pick yourself back up and get moving again. Good luck love and have a WONDERFUL holiday knowing you are getting back on track!

[Missy161 395]

If we don't face the emotional side of obesity and change the way we eat we will just put the weight back in. No amount of phenteramine will make you successful unless you plan on taking it forever and facing the mindset that got us here. I think it just takes some longer to get there than others or they may not get there at all. I know I've been emotionally eating for a couple of weeks and didn't realize it until a friend mentioned that she hoped I could get my comfort in another way than food. Then the light went on and I realized what I was doing. Thank God I didn't gain any weight back and now I'm trying to plan better Snacks and build time to walk into my day to help with the stress.
I saw my surgeon yesterday for my 6 month follow up- I asked about stretching the sleeve- the response was that you'd have to eat large meals consistently to stretch it significantly.
Bottom line - you have to know yourself and figure out what works for you. Why you sabotage yourself and what will work to end that sabotage. It's not going to be a quick fix.


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