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[dreamingsmall 1,125]

I wonder how much of it is biologically programmed in..
When you look at someone that's the opposite gender, there is always at least a fleeting (subconscious) evaluation of whether that person would make a good mate. We can easily perceive whether the person appears healthy and vibrant.
People that appear unhealthy are not good reproductive candidates (and might be contagious), so it's smart, from a biological standpoint, to keep your distance.
When you see someone with horribly rotten teeth, a suppurating wound, are skeleton-thin, have halitosis, or have a misshapen... whatever.. it's an in-born instinct to kind of draw away from that person.
Social niceties have to be learned and observed to overcome this programming, but that takes effort, and most people don't want to do the work.
Why do obese people want to get surgery? To lose weight and... drumroll please... to become HEALTHY. We all know we either are sick or are at risk of becoming that way, and other people know it too.
What's wonderful is that when we DO become healthier, other people can see that and respond in kind.

You say that. But I have a disability and often use a wheelchair. Yet I still get so much attention when I go on a night out. People would be drawn to stay a way from a wheelchair user as clearly we don't look like we are capable of reproducing lol ( I have two kids ) but I'm confident and look pretty cute these days lol so always get people wanting to hang out or take me on a date when I'm out. So there are many exceptions to this rule.

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[dreamingsmall 1,125]

This is going to be controversial but I have to be honest. People get angry that people are not attracted to bigger people I'm not offended. I'm 180 and still considered fat and many people wouldn't look at me. It doesn't mean they don't respect bigger people but you can't help what you are attracted to. I've never been attracted to a 500lbs person. No judgement . I will always show everyone the same respect. But that isn't for me. Were as it is for others. Many things about me people do not feel is for them. And it's okay there is someone for everyone. But I don't judge those who are not into someone my size.

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