Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Hi all,

Having my sleeve done this Thursday. I have told a few people, but don't want most people I work with to know. What reasons do you give for missing work? I work in a place where people will probably ask and it would be weird to say nothing...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

9 hours ago, Vsg10.26.17 said:

Hi all,

Having my sleeve done this Thursday. I have told a few people, but don't want most people I work with to know. What reasons do you give for missing work? I work in a place where people will probably ask and it would be weird to say nothing...

I told my boss it was for a "personal surgery". He won't ask further because he knows if I wanted him to know I would have told him :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I just came out & told people. I found everyone I told was supportive except one. Ironically, she's one who could most use weight loss surgery. She considered surgery "cheating". Anyway, just telling people worked well for me. Good luck to you!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I even tell strangers. I really dislike the stigma and find that explaining it to people increases acceptance. Everybody at work knows but we are a close knit group anyway.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

15 hours ago, Lufifi said:

I even tell strangers. I really dislike the stigma and find that explaining it to people increases acceptance. Everybody at work knows but we are a close knit group anyway.

Not all people dont tell because of a 'stigma' some of us are just private people lol i dont share most things with strangers. Only my family know things about me, i dont feel me not telling a stranger will reduce the risk of acceptance for the next person lol but each to their own :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I simply said I will be out for medical reasons but my job is really big on bringing documentation. Unfortunately the letterhead says bariatric surgery on the top so they know but are prohibited from asking questions.

Sent from my SM-G920T using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

16 minutes ago, inhabitmysoul said:

I simply said I will be out for medical reasons but my job is really big on bringing documentation. Unfortunately the letterhead says bariatric surgery on the top so they know but are prohibited from asking questions.

Sent from my SM-G920T using BariatricPal mobile app

Actually! They shouldn't ask you anything or share with anyone!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Not all people dont tell because of a 'stigma' some of us are just private people lol i dont share most things with strangers. Only my family know things about me, i dont feel me not telling a stranger will reduce the risk of acceptance for the next person lol but each to their own [emoji4]


Never even hinted that anyone here was hiding it because of the stigma. I just am very aware that there is one, and know that with the rapid weight loss people will think that there are other things causing the weight loss. I'd rather be honest than get caught up later. Also, there should be no stigma. Bariatric surgery is just a tool... not a fix all and certainly not an easy way out.



Sent from my SM-G955U using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm in the same boat. While I like my coworkers; it's none of their business. I'm sure they will talk when the weight starts to come off... I'm not telling anyone aside from my husband and my best friend who lives across the globe. I'm not a social butterfly and all of our family lives far away. People will think what they want and personally WLS arguments or negative opinions are not something I care to tackle. I would like to find a WLS buddy to confide in before my surgery though...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, TriGirl said:

I'm in the same boat. While I like my coworkers; it's none of their business. I'm sure they will talk when the weight starts to come off... I'm not telling anyone aside from my husband and my best friend who lives across the globe. I'm not a social butterfly and all of our family lives far away. People will think what they want and personally WLS arguments or negative opinions are not something I care to tackle. I would like to find a WLS buddy to confide in before my surgery though...

I am with you. I have started spreading the seeds of potential major weight loss with my coworkers. I am down 40 pounds since summer, and I am telling people it's all nutrition and that I am starting my exercise program in November (I get sleeved Thursday). People have noticed the weight loss so hopefully it won't be as obvious that I had WLS.

Happy to be your WLS buddy if you need! When are you getting sleeved?

Thanks everyone one for the input!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, Vsg10.26.17 said:

I am with you. I have started spreading the seeds of potential major weight loss with my coworkers. I am down 40 pounds since summer, and I am telling people it's all nutrition and that I am starting my exercise program in November (I get sleeved Thursday). People have noticed the weight loss so hopefully it won't be as obvious that I had WLS.

Happy to be your WLS buddy if you need! When are you getting sleeved?

Thanks everyone one for the input!

I have gone through the majority of the process I still need to get an EKG and a sleep study done I have not sent my date yet. Thank you for your friendship, I would love to be your buddy!

Edited by TriGirl

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LadyVeteran1

      Sleeve surgery is on April 14th.  I am counting the days!!  Can't wait!
      · 3 replies
      1. Brookie2shoes

        Me too girl!! Are you in the full liquid diet right now? It’s sooooo hard!

      2. LadyVeteran1

        Not yet. I was told I only have to do 24 hours of a liquid diet. But I have my pre-op tomorrow so I’m going to confirm if I need to do longer.

      3. buildabetteranna

        Your so close now! It's gonna be great :) Wishing you a speedy recovery and looking forward to seeing how it goes!

    • buildabetteranna

      Down 33 lbs and slightly stalled, but I'm gonna reevaluate and push through. I started back to work last week after 2 years of being disabled due to mental health as well as my weight. It's a great job and I'm just so happy to have this opportunity at a second chance at life. Hope everyone is having their best journey ❤️ Together, we got this!
      · 2 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Great work Anna! Keep it up 😁

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 1 reply
      1. stevieoriole

        Am feeling this right now. My surgery date is 4/1. Sign the consent tomorrow. I feel like I overloaded myself with too much info, too many opinions. Got to the point where I was wondering if I should do this. Then I thought of my reasons for taking this step and that settled my nerves. Still get moments of doubt but am striving forward. Am just going to follow my book from the surgeon. Joined this because I was told by my dietician that I should do this for support

    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×