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But.. Not about me.. They were talking about these 3 women infront of us.. It was not overly offensive but more like why bother mentioning them they are fine as they are if they are happy, anyway, I was shocked because no ones ever done a fat joke infront of me because I am fat.. I am still fat! I was like are you blind? your saying a fat joke about someone else when im fat too , and they were like "* confused face" your not fat at all" ( I am 196lbs and 5 foot 2)

Anyway it makes me feel uncomfertable that people just make fat jokes about strangers, this is what people are saying about me and have done, but then it also felt weird because this person did not know me when I was bigger, but it was feeling weird them telling me a fat joke as i still feel as big as i started out so the whole thing was odd.

Just a weird moment.

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In my culture to be called fat is a description (I am African)

once upon a time being called fat is a compliment, in my culture too

I don't think you should feel uncomfortable its the same *to me* as describing someone as black, or short..

e.g Adele is a short, fat white woman with a great voice.

Fat joke is a bit different, but again i'd view it as a short joke

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6 minutes ago, Opp811 said:

In my culture to be called fat is a description (I am African)

once upon a time being called fat is a compliment, in my culture too

I don't think you should feel uncomfortable its the same *to me* as describing someone as black, or short..

e.g Adele is a short, fat white woman with a great voice.

Fat joke is a bit different, but again i'd view it as a short joke

No.. they did not call someone a fat girl , they made a not so nice comment because they were fat lol. I am of African origin, and here in the UK its no compliment a fat joke lol But I dont actually find Adelle fat anymore . she is super curvy and perhaps overweight but I would not say shes fat now lol .

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I see what you mean with "phat" Being a positive term for like 'thick' but good thick lol

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There are thoughtless people everywhere and I am always amazed when in those situations and just how often it happens. I have accidently caught male friends and female friends in little convos that completely took me by surprise. And these were people I would not have guessed to posess such opinions. I have to shake my head and walk away.

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Ugh. What is wrong with people? I don’t understand tearing down others at all — whether for their weight or any other reason. I have been on the receiving end more times than I can count. Honestly, years ago in college when it could be especially bad, I came to see my body as a built-in jerk detector. Lol. My own superpower. It must have been very strange to hear the comment made in front of you with the assumption that you would agree or join in because you are not fat. I suspect if that happened to me (not that I’m in any danger of that at this point), I might haul off and hit the person. I’d at least want to!


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