Always seeing myself the same fat girl

[DeeM 50]

Today is 10 weeks post op....I'm losing slowly and hitting lots of stalls....I know I'm having some progress because my clothes are looser...my coworkers say things complimentary but I feel it's obligatory or just to be nice...I'm down 65#

That's almost 1 pound a day!! And you say you had stalls, which by the way are totally normal. It's just your body playing catch is the way I looked at it. You're doing fantastic. Don't compare yourself to others, it will drive you batty. Also, take measurements today...cause when the stalls start again the measuring will keep you motivated. Even when the scale isn't your friend sometimes....that measuring tape is! Keep up the good work!! Awesome job!

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[teachkdz0507 7]

You are doing awesome!! I can see a difference in your pictures. I agree with other members on this forum. Many of us (myself included) have not been kind to ourselves. We have allowed our psyche to believe we aren't worthy of the kind comments and positive feedback. Try to embrace the success. You look awesome! I predict that you will all of the sudden find a point when you have one extra ounce of energy and you will start exercising. It is addictive once you get started. Keep looking for the right exercise. It took me 50 years but I found tennis and I am loving it! You will find the right fit when you least expect it.

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[healthyminq 6]

You look fabulous and don't let anyone else tell you any different. You sharing has helped me start my day today.

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[salma.aida 1]

Thats an awesome progress. I don't know you so there is no reason for to feel obliged to compliment you. You look much smaller and "healthier". Don't get frustrated. You are on track

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[2anewdiva 18]

I agree with everyone else ... u look great and the weight loss is dramatic ... keep on pushing I think u r going to reach your goal

[laceemouse 631]

First of all quit using the word stall. Are you saying you stalled every time you weighed the same 2 days in a row? Because your rate of loss is amazing. I don't think I have ever heard of anyone losing as rapidly as you are no matter what their starting weight.
How quickly did you think you were going to lose? You are doing amazing!
Please don't think you have to do hours at the gym or run marathons. I met my goal with very light exercise, just getting out and walking a few times a week. You may find it gives you more energy. Just start slow.
But wow, losing a pound a day?? Can't even imagine!

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[starshine123 30]

I think you are doing fabulous. I would suggest to try and think more positively of yourself. You ARE the same person. We are not our weight. Our weight changes as part of this life journey, but it doesn't define us. As you are becoming a better version of yourself, try to remember to love and respect your former self. After all, only you know the struggles that woman faced in her life and overcame.

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[Dawnislas 74]

Congratulations on your loss. You look amazing. Just know that it takes our mind a little longer to readjust to the changes in our physical appearance. I remember thinking the same as you but then one day I passed a mirror on a store and had to stop and take a closer look. This journey is psychological as well as medical. Everything in us needs time to readjust. Just keep going.

[Carefree2003 11]

Great job, keep up the good work. I felt the same way even with losing 85 lb felt like I hadn't changed. It's all in the mind & mirror playing tricks on me. Believe your co-workers.

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[lindabalseca 373]

2 hours ago, laceemouse said:

First of all quit using the word stall. Are you saying you stalled every time you weighed the same 2 days in a row? Because your rate of loss is amazing. I don't think I have ever heard of anyone losing as rapidly as you are no matter what their starting weight.
How quickly did you think you were going to lose? You are doing amazing!
Please don't think you have to do hours at the gym or run marathons. I met my goal with very light exercise, just getting out and walking a few times a week. You may find it gives you more energy. Just start slow.
But wow, losing a pound a day?? Can't even imagine!

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i say stall cuz sometimes its like 9-10 days at the same weight. i was using calendar and everyday i would mark down pounds lost/gained. for awhile it was like seeing big ol goose eggs through what seem like an eternity lol. im less and less stressing out about no losses and worrying more about doing things right.

[lindabalseca 373]

1 hour ago, starshine123 said:

I think you are doing fabulous. I would suggest to try and think more positively of yourself. You ARE the same person. We are not our weight. Our weight changes as part of this life journey, but it doesn't define us. As you are becoming a better version of yourself, try to remember to love and respect your former self. After all, only you know the struggles that woman faced in her life and overcame.

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boy did you hit the nail on the head. neverending struggles finally have slowed down to normal struggles in life. I am grateful to be alive and in a better position in my life. its not so exciting work sleep on the daily. i will take that ten times over than the domestic abusive situations, homelessness, unemployment, hostile work environments, bad relationships. ive clawed my way to finally feel peace.

[Sosewsue61 3,185]

What do you mean you don't finish anything? Of course you do - you work don't you? You didn't get that job overnight did you? You are looking really good, much improved. You need to accept the truth of that. And one other thing - smile more. Get in the habit of smiling.

[lindabalseca 373]

1 hour ago, Dawnislas said:

Congratulations on your loss. You look amazing. Just know that it takes our mind a little longer to readjust to the changes in our physical appearance. I remember thinking the same as you but then one day I passed a mirror on a store and had to stop and take a closer look. This journey is psychological as well as medical. Everything in us needs time to readjust. Just keep going.

thats so very true. but someone told me a very long time ago that im always going to be seen as the fat girl from the people who have known me for so long. i dont think they meant it in a mean way its like how we normally think of people and they ways. oh thats the bubbly girl never sad... thats the one who likes to party a lot....thats the fitness finatic...etc you see where i am going with that lol. until i hit my goal and maintain then they will change their view. but i dont take that to heart cuz i like where im going and I want to see myself differently.

[Healthy_life2 8,327]

On 10/18/2017 at 9:23 AM, lindabalseca said:

Today is 10 weeks post op....I'm losing slowly and hitting lots of stalls....I know I'm having some progress because my clothes are looser...my coworkers say things complimentary but I feel it's obligatory or just to be nice...I'm down 65#

10 weeks~!!! congratulations on your weight loss! You deserve the credit for your hard work and you definitely deserve the compliments. I agree with the above posts. It will take time for your mind to catch up to see your physical appearance.

Comments and compliments on your weight loss are going to continue until your in maintenance mode. The new attention can be a bit unnerving.

Try giving them comment or compliment a scale

(1) appropriate - acknowledge the NSV. Smile and say thank you.

(2) Hilarious - Enjoy the laughter (Please post any funny things that people say to you)

(3) Inappropriate - (a) Creepy (B) People intended it to be a compliment but, It comes out as an insult (c) a straight up insult. - Smile say have a nice day and walk away ( In your head say kiss my ***) Never waste your energy on negative people. Surround yourself with the supportive people that have your back in life.

[lindabalseca 373]

Just now, Sosewsue61 said:

What do you mean you don't finish anything? Of course you do - you work don't you? You didn't get that job overnight did you? You are looking really good, much improved. You need to accept the truth of that. And one other thing - smile more. Get in the habit of smiling.

i would love to smile more but my teeth ugh. next goal lol