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Will the dietitian clear and approve to move forward if I have gained weight? :( details below... pardon the lack of punctuation, I am on my phone :)

I have my final visit with the dietitian this week. I was doing so well until the mental health professionals threw a wretch and sent me way off track (long story short, I was a victim of childhood abuse and sexual abuse while in college... it pretty much was a how can someone go threw this and hold their life together and said I couldn’t do the surgery because I “needed” there help because well how Can I live when something like that happened) I stood up for myself and yes, the things I have been threw was terrible but I am a stronger being because of it. After the assault, I gained a lot of weight, by a lot I mean like 70lbs in a few short months... then continually climbed due to the depression that had set in. Wanting to have the surgery in the first place is to take back that part of my life. In doing so, I went off track and back to depression. My view was that since I was abused, that is the only thing I will ever be so why bother mentality... anyone had a similar situation?

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First of all, congratulations on being a survivor! My husband was also abused from 5 years into adulthood. My weight gain was from severe depression and insecurities. Plus, I love food. It was my best friend, so I thought.

My doctor told me I had to weigh at least one pound less than the date we met the first time or my insurance wouldn't pay.

I gained during the first four of six monthly visits. I ended up losing the weight I gained and now I'm on my liquid diet and I'm below the cut-off, so I'm good.

Check with your surgeon about the weight gain. Docs and insurances are all different.

Best wishes to you.

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Ive had problems with mental health and at one point I was taken off the waiting list as my psycatrist contacted my team and told then he thought I was too unstable. Been put back on and I have it in 7 days. I have an eating disorder which they have known about from the beginning so I did put on a waight at one point and they just asked me to keep trying and keep going. They have never threatened to take the surgery away or anything and I'm even more stable now and I know the support is there it's made it easier to loose weight and carry on if that makes sense because I sabotage things if 1 I'm scared I will fail so if I balls it up now so I don't prelong it 2 I don't like not knowing and 3 I don't deserve it. But I have worked on them issues and I'm not letting interfere. I think they understand the relationship we have with food as we wouldn't be getting surgery if we could just loose weight like that. I think there understanding and if you are trying and not under the illusion it's a quick fix and you don't need to try they won't take it away from you.

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