Can’t stop crying

[Missytee 138]

This is my third day post op and I’m so depressed. My boyfriend is here walking around like I don’t exist. I’m crying from physical and mental pain. You would think after seeing me lying here he would ask how I’m doing or if I need anything. Not him..I just don’t know what to do at this point....just needed to vent since he’s not talking to me..

[Doreen0716 105]

Im sorry ur having these issues, are u up walking every hour to ease the pain ?? , i live alone my boyfriend has his one place so i didnt have anyone here to help me as he had to work, im the firm believer i can do this on my iwn i dont need his help therefore i get up and do what i need to do for me to be a better me, some people dont know how to act or feel about changes we are making they get insecure

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[BuffaloBill 168]

Sorry to hear that. Im 10 days post op. These are mentally tough times. Nothing to do but sit home and let your insides heal up. Can only eat liquids which is super hard for me. I don't have anybody cause im willingly single right now. Tell yur boyfriend u need his support if u do. If he doesn't I'd start thinking about making a new skinnier life without him.

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[Missytee 138]

Sorry to hear that. Im 10 days post op. These are mentally tough times. Nothing to do but sit home and let your insides heal up. Can only eat liquids which is super hard for me. I don't have anybody cause im willingly single right now. Tell yur boyfriend u need his support if u do. If he doesn't I'd start thinking about making a new skinnier life without him.

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Thanks for the advice. He didn’t even come to the hospital

[Doreen0716 105]

Well said buffaloBill

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[Doreen0716 105]

Maybe its time to reevaluate ur relationship

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[Missytee 138]

Im sorry ur having these issues, are u up walking every hour to ease the pain ?? , i live alone my boyfriend has his one place so i didnt have anyone here to help me as he had to work, im the firm believer i can do this on my iwn i dont need his help therefore i get up and do what i need to do for me to be a better me, some people dont know how to act or feel about changes we are making they get insecure

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So true...but at least at Concern.

[Missytee 138]

Maybe its time to reevaluate ur relationship

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I been thinking about it. I don’t want to be with someone who is not supportive. It really doesn’t help.

[Doreen0716 105]

No it doesnt, i know for me i fall into pleasing others to easy so when i decided to do this i now chose me first

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[CrissCriss 97]

22 minutes ago, BuffaloBill said:

Sorry to hear that. Im 10 days post op. These are mentally tough times. Nothing to do but sit home and let your insides heal up. Can only eat liquids which is super hard for me. I don't have anybody cause im willingly single right now. Tell yur boyfriend u need his support if u do. If he doesn't I'd start thinking about making a new skinnier life without him.

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Ditto.

[Chocolatay33 9]

Men dont think like us girly. I'm not making no excuse you'll be just fine. Express how you feel dont wait for him you go to him with your issue on how your feeling today. If he truly cares he'll listen you might even get an apology. I just know men tend to process things differently we're more emotional when men aren't. (We'll majority of men shall I say).. Hope your day gets better :-)

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[Missytee 138]

No it doesnt, i know for me i fall into pleasing others to easy so when i decided to do this i now chose me first

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Same here...he was totally against it

[Missytee 138]

Men dont think like us girly. I'm not making no excuse you'll be just fine. Express how you feel dont wait for him you go to him with your issue on how your feeling today. If he truly cares he'll listen you might even get an apology. I just know men tend to process things differently we're more emotional when men aren't. (We'll majority of men shall I say).. Hope your day gets better :-)

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Your right. Thanks for the advice.

[BuffaloBill 168]

Men dont think like us girly. I'm not making no excuse you'll be just fine. Express how you feel dont wait for him you go to him with your issue on how your feeling today. If he truly cares he'll listen you might even get an apology. I just know men tend to process things differently we're more emotional when men aren't. (We'll majority of men shall I say).. Hope your day gets better :-)

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Yes this is true that's why I said tell him u need his help/support. He could just not being doing anything cause he don't know any better. If after u tell him he stays the same that's when u know u really need to reevaluate yur relationship. He could think u got the surgery to get smaller to leave his ads and he's resentful. Haha. I'm a guy I know how we think sometimes

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[Sosewsue61 3,185]

He didn't go through the surgery and has no idea what you need. Don't make any rash judgements/changes right now, as you are recovering and not thinking clearly. Feelings are magnified while we are in pain and mentally/physically taxed.

My husband is very caring but quite the lump on how to help!!! He just doesn't get it sometimes, it is his brain wiring and not how he feels about me. Take deep breath and just say out loud that you are frustrated and need a - hug, walking pal, cup of tea, or what you need and you will not be a blubbering baby for long.

Good luck.