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newlifebegins2017    25

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My husband says he is being supportive but this whole week he's done nothing but eat in front of me. I'm not talking normal meals, I'm talking snacking constantly, in addition to the normal meals. I was sleeved on Monday so I'm not even a full week post op and I'm ready for him to go back out on the road again. I know this is a mental thing for me and I need to figure out how to be stronger but shouldn't he be a bit more sensitive to my feelings? I've told him more than once that it bothers me.

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Nancy MBGC    90

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My husband says he is being supportive but this whole week he's done nothing but eat in front of me. I'm not talking normal meals, I'm talking snacking constantly, in addition to the normal meals. I was sleeved on Monday so I'm not even a full week post op and I'm ready for him to go back out on the road again. I know this is a mental thing for me and I need to figure out how to be stronger but shouldn't he be a bit more sensitive to my feelings? I've told him more than once that it bothers me.

Yes he should be more sensitive especially in the beginning.


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Sosewsue61    3,185

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Spouses are weird sometimes, I swear as soon as you say diet they bring home the effing ice cream!!! They get nervous anxiety when things change. I doubt it's on purpose (unless they are truly azzhats) but we are hyper tuned into anyone eating in front of us especially now. Just leave the room, go for a walk - get an audible account and listen to books on your phone with your headphones on and your senses won't be focused on what he is doing.

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Sleeve1stFitNext    924

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Honestly, I don't think he is doing it on purpose. What I mean is, he is most likely eating the way he has always eaten but because you could join in or you would be doing the same, you never noticed how much it was. People tend to notice others doing what they can no longer do. Since you cannot eat currently, you are noticing more of what others are doing. I did it and I still do it.

You are just in the first week of frustration. Once you start eating meals again, you won't notice as much.

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