Please Help with This Question

[DR1220 3]

Everytime I come close to thinking of this surgery and going thru with it, there are several people with my husband being the main one, telling me 'you don't want to live this way, having nausea and vomiting all the time", "Not being able to eat normally". I have explained that the co-morbidity issues are far more dangerous to live with than anything else but can't seem to get anyone to listen(my family). All the doctors I spoke to think I am nuts and say "those are rare cases" Not sure what to do or think anymore

[Apple203 1,314]

People seem to have strong negative opinions about bariatric surgery, don't they? My PCP recommended this to me -- my initial reaction was pretty negative, too, but then I started researching and changed my mind. Unfortunately, if your husband won't bother to do his own research in order to support you, you are going to be stuck doing it for him. Just out of curiosity -- is he overweight, too?

What I am surprised about is your statement that your doctors think you are nuts -- why?? What kinds of doctors are they?

[lf1227 129]

I find that opinions like that are baseless yet popular..ignorant I guess you would say. I think a person only suffers from constant purging, and not being able to eat normally if you don't follow the specific set of directions you are given for the rest of your life. Im just about 6 months post op and I drink alcohol (wine), eat steak, treat myself to some dark chocolate or halotop, and sometimes eat taco bell in a pinch and I'm down 86lbs and still going. It is all about getting out of your own way to listen to your body. If you are full after 4 bites then stop eating and save the rest for later because there will be a later. The biggest thing I had to get used to was fixing my portions. Even sometimes now when I am at a restaurant or eating at a party I immediately fix a plate the way I would a year ago and have to take a second to realise well this is just too much and then i make it right. I won't lie, I had my band converted to bypass because my band and i were complete failures so I KNOW what its like to fail with wls and now I know what its like to succeed.

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

There are many different experiences, but speaking personally, I've had no nausea to speak of and vomited very little once, after taking a large Vitamin on an empty stomach--something I've become more careful about now (that I'm eating actual food). This is a safe surgery generally and a safe lifestyle as long as you respect the rules and parameters. And losing weight is a gift that I've wanted for many years and finally received!

Good luck!

[kfulcer 31]

My husband thought I was ridiculous to even consider WLS. As my physical struggles mounted and my diagnoses started to pile up, he became more neutral. What got him on my side was meeting a coworker of his who was 1 year out. She took the time to talk to him, answer his questions, and totally sold him on it.

The hard part is finding someone your husband will listen to. We all know our own husbands won't listen to us! Lol

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[Debbie1220 6]

Thank you all for

lostening. I have my 1st visit with The MGH of Boston WL center this Friday. I’m going to LISTEN TO THEM!! It’s scary but I find the high blood pressure sleep apnea and other issues more scarier❤️