Do people actually date anymore?

[StephersSweet 78]

I don't know about the rest of you but we live in a world where finding love means swiping right and hoping for the best.

Hello I'm Stephanie, I'm 26 years old. I'm new to the site and would love to make some friends, text buddies, or pen pals.

So I'm what you would call Terminally Single, been that way for about 7 years now and I'm not sure it's ever going to change. It feels like the guys I'm into either A. don't want to be with a fat girl. B. are emotionally stunted, C. into weird fetishes (foodie/feeder I know I'm fat but that doesn't get my jollys off.) or D. Crazy, bat **** crazy.

Maybe I'm too picky, maybe I'm the crazy one, but I found it interesting to find this type of forum on this site. Color me intrigued!

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

I am sure dating has changed. I am 38 and met my wife seven years ago on Match.com
I don't know anything about these dating apps.
Just focus on yourself right now.
These next few months are going to be hard while preparing for surgery.

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[StephersSweet 78]

Lol Walter! I'm definitely focusing on myself! Terminally Single!

[Berry78 4,261]

From what I've seen, the guys that like big women, like big women. And vice versa. Since you are a larger woman that is looking to become a smaller woman, anyone you are likely to attract right now isn't going to be as interested later. Unless, of course, someone out there is on the same journey as you are (and for that, you did come to the right spot!).

So, Walter has a point, in general, don't worry about dating too much right now, unless you aren't really looking for anything too serious. Shoot, well-established relationships frequently can't survive the upheaval that wls causes!

Congrats on beginning your journey, good luck!

[StephersSweet 78]

Thank you Berry!

[christysworld 9]

15 hours ago, StephersSweet said:

I don't know about the rest of you but we live in a world where finding love means swiping right and hoping for the best.

Hello I'm Stephanie, I'm 26 years old. I'm new to the site and would love to make some friends, text buddies, or pen pals.

So I'm what you would call Terminally Single, been that way for about 7 years now and I'm not sure it's ever going to change. It feels like the guys I'm into either A. don't want to be with a fat girl. B. are emotionally stunted, C. into weird fetishes (foodie/feeder I know I'm fat but that doesn't get my jollys off.) or D. Crazy, bat **** crazy.

Maybe I'm too picky, maybe I'm the crazy one, but I found it interesting to find this type of forum on this site. Color me intrigued!

Omg I hear you girl. I'm 44 and terminally single as well. You're young, you have plenty of time to worry about dating later. I'm 3 weeks post op RNY, starting weight 335 to 257 (lost a lot pre op) and it's just too hard to explain to new people why you can't go out to eat, then you got a lot that are judgemental about the surgery. The ones who like the big girls, can't possibly understand why u would go thru this. Lol. The dating sites are brutal anyway with out all this too.

[StephersSweet 78]

1 hour ago, christysworld said:

Omg I hear you girl. I'm 44 and terminally single as well. You're young, you have plenty of time to worry about dating later. I'm 3 weeks post op RNY, starting weight 335 to 257 (lost a lot pre op) and it's just too hard to explain to new people why you can't go out to eat, then you got a lot that are judgemental about the surgery. The ones who like the big girls, can't possibly understand why u would go thru this. Lol. The dating sites are brutal anyway with out all this too.

Haha aint that the truth, I am talking to one guy who seems very interested in talking about my surgery as if he's writing a paper on the subject matter or something, it was super embarrassing because we went out for our first date and he starts asking me about the surgery and what happens if I end up with lose skin. I wasn't used to someone asking so many questions about it beyond the dreaded "why would you do something so drastic when all you need to do is go to the gym" because clearly WLS is the "easy" way out. I'm not worried about finding anything yet, right now I am 100% focused on me.

[Half-Tum 404]

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I'm not worried about finding anything yet, right now I am 100% focused on me.

That is your first step, grasshopper.

Get your house in order. Love yourself. Do what's best for you. Make YOURSELF contented beyond your wildest dreams FIRST.

All of these things produce a light inside you that shines brighter as you progress and it attracts light as well.

You will have your pick AFTER that...you can get what you want, not just something to hold on to.

And that's the straight up truth.

[Half-Tum 404]

2 hours ago, christysworld said:

Omg I hear you girl. I'm 44 and terminally single as well.

THAT is a god damned shame.

[StephersSweet 78]

10 minutes ago, Half-Tum said:

Love yourself. Do what's best for you. Make YOURSELF contented beyond your wildest dreams FIRST.

That's been one of the many reasons why I'm still single, I will not settle for anyone who doesn't love me the way I love me. lol Somedays I still struggle with that but it gets easier every day. Thank you for your words! <3

[sgc 538]

I dabbled in dating but ended up with a cat named James who only seems to show himself when he hears food. I have finally bottomed out on my weight loss and had some skin removal surgery so I will give it one more go. I feel it's best to wait until you are finished product. I'm not even going to tell women I had surgery or was even overweight.

[christysworld 9]

2 hours ago, StephersSweet said:

Haha aint that the truth, I am talking to one guy who seems very interested in talking about my surgery as if he's writing a paper on the subject matter or something, it was super embarrassing because we went out for our first date and he starts asking me about the surgery and what happens if I end up with lose skin. I wasn't used to someone asking so many questions about it beyond the dreaded "why would you do something so drastic when all you need to do is go to the gym" because clearly WLS is the "easy" way out. I'm not worried about finding anything yet, right now I am 100% focused on me.

Yup sounds about Right. My worst encounter was a guy I know that stocks the coke at the grocery store. He was always kinda friendly and flirty starts yelling at me telling me his sister died from the surgery and walked off in a huff. Yup this is the time to focus on ourselves. :-) Good luck

[StephersSweet 78]

2 minutes ago, sgc said:

I dabbled in dating but ended up with a cat named James who only seems to show himself when he hears food.

I have 2 cats and 2 dogs... the cats are the same way could care less about my existence, the dogs however love me unconditionally and don't judge me at all lol

[StephersSweet 78]

Good luck to you as well @christysworld

[Berry78 4,261]

2 hours ago, sgc said:

but ended up with a cat named James who only seems to show himself when he hears food

I totally thought "James" was a person, the lazy S.O.B!!!

Was gonna say James sounds just like my hubby!!!