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Hi... my surgery is in 2 days. I have been on liquid for 12 days. I think that I may actually be losing my mind. This has been a 6 month process. The day is almost here, and I am starting to panic. What if this isn't the right thing for me. I only stay on diets for 3 months and quit.. I always fail at diet - I push them to see what I can get away with... I don't want to do that this time... but I am afraid I will. Yesterday I stopped in a convenience store to use the ladies room, for the 200th time, and I bought an ice cream sandwich. I ate it in the bathroom. It was the best thing I have ever eaten in my life and I am filled with remorse. After 12 days - why did I do that - "normal" people don't do that ... I am so afraid I am going to go thru this and fail... help me friends..

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Be Carefull, they told us they can tell if we Cheat. Im now 8 days on liquid diet im a Biz itch lately. I go for the pops n shut myself in my room and drink my Crystal Light, We'll get there. We're lucky we got this far, we're at the finish line. We need to shrink our liver so Doc can get to the stomach. No more failed diets & a thinner Healthier life awaits. ; )

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This surgery is a 6-12 month head start. You will still have to work on your "whys" but this is the best chance I've ever been given to get myself on the right track.

I still fail. I turned down lunch from a fast food place, but bought a lillipop on the way home today. Every day we have to make the right choice, the sleeve just makes it easier.

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I'm worried about this too. My surgery is Monday...but I did fall off the pre op diet when I had to evacuate for Irma. But back on liquids now til Monday.

For me, it's stress that triggers eating. I'm trying to find things to take my mind off stress, like crocheting, yard work, walking the dog, giving myself a pedicure. It's really hard but this is totally worth it.

I would say if you're worried about keeping up with this, try to find a support group or meet with dietitians regularly after or follow a post op blogger for inspiration.

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I hope your surgery went well. I struggle with the same issues. I think we all do. One thing that helped me was reading a book called Never Binge Again. Maybe it could help you too. (It certainly can't hurt!).

Tackling our issues with food is the hardest part of this whole thing. It will be an ongoing battle, but you can do it!

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