willowwaters 25 Posted September 8, 2017 I have done my research...... and I am not talking a day or two, I am talking years.... 5....5 years. I am shell fish free, a celiac, dairy intolerant, and now soy. I have been grow tumors since I was I very little. This operation, is many ways, may be the only way I can try and live a more normal life. I have asked so many questions, and continue to ask questions, because I know, "not every one is the same" ..... but why is my counselor trying to almost talk me out of it. she keep throwing all the worst cast in my face, and then all she try to trip me up by asking questions to me like she does not know the answer already. DAMN if I wanted people to debate me with my choice to try and get healthier I would tell people who sell plans like 21 day fix...... Why is it so hard for people to past judgment on me cause I am over weight, and not as healthy as I want..... but as soon as I through in the towel, cause ever diet, exercise, and life style goal have not worked enough they get mad again. Now that I have gone to the point where I am going to change my digestive patterns to add in my ability to lose the fat, they are screaming about that. over and done with people not being happy for me! its not like my weight problem is effecting them! 3 AmandaC86, Rainbowgypsy and readytorunagain reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
readytorunagain 66 Posted September 9, 2017 Woman! Do what is best for you and be secure in your decision. I understand what you mean about judgements. People would say to Me "but your not even big." I hated that. I wouldn't say that to anyone. It's about my health and obviously "big" enough to have comorbidities amd I was living my life in pain and sheltered. I was sleeved on 8/28 and I already feel solo much better and off my meds. You do not need to justify your decision. My psych three things at me too. I ignored her and stuck to my plan. Keep it moving in the direction you want to go in. 3 Rainbowgypsy, Drea8989 and K_aane reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Drea8989 38 Posted September 9, 2017 Thats what I'm saying people be but you not even big its about my health type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, I be like this is my decision then when I tell them its about my health its okay then.. Then some men be like oh if u get to skinny im not talking to u anymore oh well Sent from my LGMS210 using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
readytorunagain 66 Posted September 9, 2017 As far as the men, hell.....there are way too many out there to worry about the ones that say they won't talk to you. You'd probably want one that would like to keep himself healthy so you would compliment each other. 2 Rainbowgypsy and AmandaC86 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Missytee 138 Posted September 9, 2017 As far as the men, hell.....there are way too many out there to worry about the ones that say they won't talk to you. You'd probably want one that would like to keep himself healthy so you would compliment each other. Exactly..... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LetsDoThis! 20 Posted September 9, 2017 Woman! Do what is best for you and be secure in your decision. I understand what you mean about judgements. People would say to Me "but your not even big." I hated that. I wouldn't say that to anyone. It's about my health and obviously "big" enough to have comorbidities amd I was living my life in pain and sheltered. I was sleeved on 8/28 and I already feel solo much better and off my meds. You do not need to justify your decision. My psych three things at me too. I ignored her and stuck to my plan. Keep it moving in the direction you want to go in. I have gotten "you're not even that big" too. Talk about annoying [emoji58] they don't have to live with my pain- like the reason I'm up right now is my aching knee (arthritis) woke me & I had to get my knee brace and take a Tylenol. Day 5 preop- I sorta kinda see a halfway light in the tunnel 🤣 - No idea what I'm doing but I'm here! 1 Rainbowgypsy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
K_aane 356 Posted September 9, 2017 Find another counselor and a baraiatric center of excellence with the whole team of people dedicated to your success. If your pcp is not on board get another one. Don't let anyone stand in your way. Blow past them and make this happen. It's your health, your body and your life. Tell everyone who has an opinion to shove it. Keep your surgery a secret and only tell who you count on for support. Beet decision I ever made. Mine is still a secret and will continue to be. If someone says something negative to me I am ready willing and able to bite their effing head off!Take care and be strong. Make your life the one you want!!!HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSG 5 Hopep4673, Rainbowgypsy, readytorunagain and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
willowwaters 25 Posted September 9, 2017 Its all just over whelming. I know I have tried and tried to beat the scale at it own game. Now I can't "work out", but I can walk .....so I walk every chance I get. even If its only for a hundred yard or so. I count my calories. I keep a food journal, and with the exception of my crystal light consumption (now mind you and most that's 50 calories a day), I don't lie about anything. I own it! She has told me the negative effects weight loss procedures has had on her loved ones. But I know the risks. I know I have to be on point the first few months for sure. I need to be there for my son, otherwise I won't live to see 40 1 Apple203 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
K_aane 356 Posted September 9, 2017 Its all just over whelming. I know I have tried and tried to beat the scale at it own game. Now I can't "work out", but I can walk .....so I walk every chance I get. even If its only for a hundred yard or so. I count my calories. I keep a food journal, and with the exception of my crystal light consumption (now mind you and most that's 50 calories a day), I don't lie about anything. I own it! She has told me the negative effects weight loss procedures has had on her loved ones. But I know the risks. I know I have to be on point the first few months for sure. I need to be there for my son, otherwise I won't live to see 40Ditch that counselor, she is counter productive and bias. Make your own roads and go for it!!!HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSG Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hopep4673 120 Posted September 9, 2017 There are way to many counselors that will completely support your decision to stick with this negative one you r seeing... find someone who will support you and take control of your life and health. 2 RecreatingTraci and K_aane reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
K_aane 356 Posted September 9, 2017 Find another counselor and a baraiatric center of excellence with the whole team of people dedicated to your success. If your pcp is not on board get another one. Don't let anyone stand in your way. Blow past them and make this happen. It's your health, your body and your life. Tell everyone who has an opinion to shove it. Keep your surgery a secret and only tell who you count on for support. Beet decision I ever made. Mine is still a secret and will continue to be. If someone says something negative to me I am ready willing and able to bite their effing head off!Take care and be strong. Make your life the one you want!!!HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSGFind another counselor and a baraiatric center of excellence with the whole team of people dedicated to your success. If your pcp is not on board get another one. Don't let anyone stand in your way. Blow past them and make this happen. It's your health, your body and your life. Tell everyone who has an opinion to shove it. Keep your surgery a secret and only tell who you count on for support. Beet decision I ever made. Mine is still a secret and will continue to be. If someone says something negative to me I am ready willing and able to bite their effing head off!Take care and be strong. Make your life the one you want!!!HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSGHW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSG Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Apple203 1,314 Posted September 9, 2017 This is precisely why I am not going to tell anyone about my plans -- it is a big and personal decision we have to make without everybody else's biases and hangups weighing in. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
readytorunagain 66 Posted September 9, 2017 Its all just over whelming. I know I have tried and tried to beat the scale at it own game. Now I can't "work out", but I can walk .....so I walk every chance I get. even If its only for a hundred yard or so. I count my calories. I keep a food journal, and with the exception of my crystal light consumption (now mind you and most that's 50 calories a day), I don't lie about anything. I own it! She has told me the negative effects weight loss procedures has had on her loved ones. But I know the risks. I know I have to be on point the first few months for sure. I need to be there for my son, otherwise I won't live to see 40The fact that the counselor is bringing up negative experiences that are personal to get shoes her inability to be free of bias. I'd probably tell her that too. Just because those things happened to people in her life doesn't mean it will happen to you. Find another counselor. Sent from my SM-G935T using BariatricPal mobile app 1 Serenity1291 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
