Help, Please.

[Deleted Account 151]

I am in the first phase of simply losing the required weight to have my surgery.

For two weeks I have done everything right (to the best of my knowledge). However, not only am I weak as a kitten and feel like I have the flu, I haven't lost any weight!

I am retired, and haven't been able to go for a walk in years. I felt better when I was eating bad food.

With the scales not even budging, I am getting so discouraged and depressed.

Any help or suggestions would be so appreciated.

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

When is your surgery?

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[Deleted Account 151]

3 minutes ago, Walter.Sobchak said:

When is your surgery?

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December

[Apple203 1,314]

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. Have you started pre-surgery consults and tests? They might uncover a hidden condition that is making it harder for you to lose weight, or perhaps its a medication you are taking.

[SuperDave 1,115]

Here's the deal. You have to decide if this is what you want to do and if it is going to be worth it to you. Only you can make that choice. You are discouraged over a 2 week diet when you haven't even had surgery yet. The ups and downs you are going to face going forward will make this seem like nothing. Are you ready for that? You must decide.

I don't say this to discourage you more. Having weight loss surgery is the best decision I ever made. But I have learned from people on here and others I have met that it is not for everyone. Either go all in and truly commit yourself or don't, but do not ever assume it will be easy. This is not magic. You will feel terrible. You will have long periods of zero weight loss. You will question your decision over and over and over. You will hate what you are "allowed" to eat and crave what you can't have. It sucks, but that is the truth.

Having said that, I would do it all again. For me, it was 100% worth it.

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42 minutes ago, Apple203 said:

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling. Have you started pre-surgery consults and tests? They might uncover a hidden condition that is making it harder for you to lose weight, or perhaps its a medication you are taking.

Thank you for your kind reply. Yes, I have had numerous tests and x-rays already, but I will keep this in mind. Thank you.

[Deleted Account 151]

33 minutes ago, SuperDave said:

Here's the deal. You have to decide if this is what you want to do and if it is going to be worth it to you. Only you can make that choice. You are discouraged over a 2 week diet when you haven't even had surgery yet. The ups and downs you are going to face going forward will make this seem like nothing. Are you ready for that? You must decide.

I don't say this to discourage you more. Having weight loss surgery is the best decision I ever made. But I have learned from people on here and others I have met that it is not for everyone. Either go all in and truly commit yourself or don't, but do not ever assume it will be easy. This is not magic. You will feel terrible. You will have long periods of zero weight loss. You will question your decision over and over and over. You will hate what you are "allowed" to eat and crave what you can't have. It sucks, but that is the truth.

Having said that, I would do it all again. For me, it was 100% worth it.

I joined this forum for encouragement, not to be told off by someone who ASSUMES I'm not all in, and assumes they know me.

We are each different with different makeups and age. I am much older than you, and you have no clue what it's like to be my age.

When I say that I haven't lost weight in two weeks and that I am discouraged, it's because this is extremely unusual for me.

I wouldn't have made my original post if I didn't feel like something was off.

Here's the deal. Respect your elders, and stop assuming.

[SuperDave 1,115]

51 minutes ago, Elise24 said:

Here's the deal. Respect your elders, and stop assuming.

I assume nothing. I simply stated that this is nothing compared to the challenges that you will face in the future. That is a fact. I also stated that this choice is not for everyone. Also a fact. Those things aren't negatives or telling you off or meant to be discouraging. They are simply facts.

I also said it was 100% worth it for me. But hey, why dwell on the positive when you can "assume" you are being attacked?

[Jeaniered 183]

A very harsh response to someone asking for help, care and compassion is far more helpful. The forum is to encourage and support - not to show off!

Keep going Elise, all of a sudden you will start to see results, you have plenty of time still, one day at a time. It's worth it in the end (I hope). I'm 4 weeks post and currently on a platuea and getting frustrated, but I know it will come right in the end.

[Deleted Account 151]

7 minutes ago, Jeaniered said:

A very harsh response to someone asking for help, care and compassion is far more helpful. The forum is to encourage and support - not to show off!

Keep going Elise, all of a sudden you will start to see results, you have plenty of time still, one day at a time. It's worth it in the end (I hope). I'm 4 weeks post and currently on a platuea and getting frustrated, but I know it will come right in the end.

Oh, thank you so much! A little encouragement goes a long way! ❤️

[Deleted Account 151]

10 minutes ago, SuperDave said:

I assume nothing. I simply stated that this is nothing compared to the challenges that you will face in the future. That is a fact. I also stated that this choice is not for everyone. Also a fact. Those things aren't negatives or telling you off or meant to be discouraging. They are simply facts.

I also said it was 100% worth it for me. But hey, why dwell on the positive when you can "assume" you are being attacked?

I don't know what your problem is, but would you please just stop?

How do you know what challenges I have already been through? I don't owe you explanations as to what I have been through medically or otherwise. And, I don't see the need in having a contest as to who has been through more surgeries, etc.

Please just go on your merry way, and leave me alone. I don't need know-it-alls in my life.

[gwbicster 257]

I am a vet, and I thought the response was a bit negative sounding. I'm sure Super Dave meant well but, in this case, I found it a little much. Some of us respond to tough love (which isn't always effective with strangers) and some of us need more stroking and encouragement (that's me).

As for me, my pre-op diet was the hardest thing I've had to deal with so far, so. For me the first day was the worst. I adjusted a bit, but it wasn't easy. It didn't help things that I got fired from my job midway through this!

I did lose 20 pounds so that helped to encourage me, but I didn't weigh myself outside of a doctor's appointment a week in. If I had been flat I think that would have made me crazy. So I understand and emphasize.

Don't worry so much about the weight loss. The diet is to reduce the size and fat deposits around your liver. The liver covers the stomach and the doctor's have to pull it back to operate. As long as the liver is losing weight, it's not so important you are. That will happen AFTER! (YAY!)

[Deleted Account 151]

12 minutes ago, gwbicster said:

I am a vet, and I thought the response was a bit negative sounding. I'm sure Super Dave meant well but, in this case, I found it a little much. Some of us respond to tough love (which isn't always effective with strangers) and some of us need more stroking and encouragement (that's me).

As for me, my pre-op diet was the hardest thing I've had to deal with so far, so. For me the first day was the worst. I adjusted a bit, but it wasn't easy. It didn't help things that I got fired from my job midway through this!

I did lose 20 pounds so that helped to encourage me, but I didn't weigh myself outside of a doctor's appointment a week in. If I had been flat I think that would have made me crazy. So I understand and emphasize.

Don't worry so much about the weight loss. The diet is to reduce the size and fat deposits around your liver. The liver covers the stomach and the doctor's have to pull it back to operate. As long as the liver is losing weight, it's not so important you are. That will happen AFTER! (YAY!)

Thank you so much. It helps to know that others understand.

I am so sorry that you were fired, and hope you found an even better position.

Perhaps I should wait and weigh myself at my doctor's appointments only. That may be my answer.

I do want this so much, and am trying so hard.

Thank you again! 😀

[Berry78 4,261]

What sort of diet are you on, since your surgery isn't until December? Maybe we can help make suggestions that will kick start the losses...

[gwbicster 257]

Oh yeah I found a much better job, went from part-time to full-time. And to be clear, the firing didn't have anything to do with me being grouchy from my diet or anything, it was a long time coming. I got a new boss, and she didn't like me from the first day of the school year.