To tell, or not to tell...family and friends

[mrsgriffin2u 1]

I am scheduled for July 7th and I have to start my liquid diet on Monday. I am so scared! I have been looking forward to this for so long and now I am terrified of so many things. First, being able to stick to the liquids for two weeks when I get headaches and feel sick when I don't eat. Anyone try Phentermine during the liquid stage before surgery? The Dr. gave me 30mg 1X day and it is making me sick! I have to convince him to give me the 15mg X 2X day. For some reason he is giving me a hard time. Alot of Drs don't give it at all but my hunger is outrageous and how do you stay on 1000 cals of liquid for two weeks when you have two kids home from school with you driving you crazy and you need to feed them? I feel like giving up and forgeting the surgery. I was so excited and have waited months for approval. Can anyone relate? I think about how I let myself get so big and all the times when I was younger and able to exercise and lose weight. Now I have arthritis in my knees and I am too darn tired and in pain. I need some support and no body can really understand. This writing is helping, I think and I am open to all responces. Thanks for letting me vent. I am also getting really nervous about the surgery itself and my husband is really worried about it. He fears that he and my children will lose me.

Barb from Yorktown Heights, NY

Barb,

I know exactly how you feel. My surgery is 7/2 and I haven't been so successful with my pre-op diet. I am taking Phentermine to cut the cravings but trying to take myself off b/c I find that when I stop taking it I get really "head hungry." I'm so terrified right now I almost can't be excited. I'm not backing out, but I'm ready for it to be over so I can look forward to the positive things! :thumbup:

Good luck and please feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk! :cool2:

[mrsgriffin2u 1]

I am having a delima... I am seriously thinking about getting the lap-band. I am attending a seminar next week...My DH is supportive, but I haven't told anyone else. I am so ashamed to tell them, after telling them of every other diet I have tried and failed at. I just don't want them to judge me, however, it is hard to keep to yourself. Any thoughts from people who have been through this.

I also don't want to not tell them, just to tell them after I lose the weight, then they will think i was deceitfull

Hey there! I can tell you that when I decided to get the Lap Band I told everyone and shortly realized that it wasn't such a great idea. Even those close to you may express their disapproval. I made up my mind and no one can sway me from my decision, but I do wish that some people with live by the rule "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

I would be careful about how you tell. I'm not saying that you should lie, it's your decision who you tell. I would never lie to anyone and if someone asked me if I am having WLS I would tell them the truth. I just shouldn't have put up a billboard (not literally) that I'm having it. Just a word to the wise! :thumbup: Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you!

[lapbandbarb 0]

Hi Amanda,

Thanks for the support! Why would you want to go off the phentermine? I did get the 2x15 a day and it does help with the hunger! And I don't feel sick anymore. I feel like taking more for the fact that it does help the "head" hunger. Are you taking 2x15 a day? Your surgery is soon! Get excited, soon you'll be on your way. I can't wait, although I am nervous,too. I feel like these two weeks will never end. Good Luck and thanks! Keep me posted.

[lapbandbarb 0]

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Hi Amanda,

Thanks for the support! Why would you want to go off the phentermine? I did get the 2x15 a day and it does help with the hunger! And I don't feel sick anymore. I feel like taking more for the fact that it does help the "head" hunger. Are you taking 2x15 a day? Your surgery is soon! Get excited, soon you'll be on your way. I can't wait, although I am nervous,too. I feel like these two weeks will never end. Good Luck and thanks! Keep me posted.

[mrsgriffin2u 1]

Hi Amanda,

Thanks for the support! Why would you want to go off the phentermine? I did get the 2x15 a day and it does help with the hunger! And I don't feel sick anymore. I feel like taking more for the fact that it does help the "head" hunger. Are you taking 2x15 a day? Your surgery is soon! Get excited, soon you'll be on your way. I can't wait, although I am nervous,too. I feel like these two weeks will never end. Good Luck and thanks! Keep me posted.

Hey Barb,

For me, I've been taking phentermine for 3 months on and off. I've noticed that when I stop taking it, I get really hungry (I think more mentally than anything else) and I don't want to be that way right before surgery and on Clear Liquids. I'm actually on the 37.5 mg once daily. Good luck!

[lapbandbarb 0]

Hi Amanda!

Now, I do understand why you would want to let go of the meds! I know it is not healthy to be on it for a long time. I don't know how you do 37.5 1xday. WOW! I was sick, nauseus, lifeless and unable to function at 30mg. I guess everyone is different. I'm OK at 15mg. I know I rely on it, though and I'm only on my 3rd day of liquids.

Best of luck to you!! Let me know how evertthing goes.

Barb

[mrsgriffin2u 1]

I haven't taken any today and boy does my head hurt. I've had 1/2 of a Protein Shake - if that much - because they make me nauseous and I can't stand them! I've also had a few cubes of cheese for lean Protein (Dr's approval of course). I can't get rid of these headaches... ugh! I almost am to the point of looking forward to the surgery pain to get rid of the headaches... j/k! :tt1:

[lapbandbarb 0]

Hi Amanda,

Today has been a hard day for me, too. I have only been having the Protein Drinks. I admire you for having a couple of cheese cubes. I would be afraid that I could not stop eating them if I started! Cheese has always been a really tough thing for me to stop eating. I had a splitting headache and was really nauseous and weak before and I had sugar free Jello and feel better now. Try it. It does bring me back to life. I am really looking forward to my surgery in order to get rid of this stress. I know the next step will not be easy, but at least the waiting and horror of the liquids will be over. Hang in there! I'll be thinking about you. I get my surgery 5 days after you have yours. I'm glad we can communicate with each other. Hope you feel better! Barbara

[keeleyv 0]

I'm really considering not telling anyone except Dad Hubby and Best Friend. I too don't want anyone watching me but I also feel a little deceitful. I'll get over it though. This is for me - no one else. Time to take something back I think.

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