Emotional breakdown

[Pakko 76]

Hi everyone, im almost 1 month post op, and i've been taking my food ok, but in this last week i started to feel depressed im losing weight but i dont see any diference, i look in the mirror and i see myself as always, im struggling with my emotions, i dont want to go to work anymore, i just dont have any friends that know they way im walking and i feel trapped, before surgery they were all, you gonna be excellent and stuff and now they have been like "i would love to talk but im a bit busy right now", i started at 335 pounds and now im at 306 right now but i feel im not losing enough.

Have anyone felt the same way?

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[jhope71 105]

I think most of us have gone through some emotional adjustments. Surgery itself is a big undertaking, and some folks get depressed as a side effect from the anesthesia. Losing weight is huge, too, and the whole process is stressful. Don't be too hard on yourself, and give yourself time to adjust to your new body and new way of life. It'll get better, I promise!

[Airstream88 361]

You lost 29 pounds in a month. Have you ever done that before? The effects of the surgery don't happen overnight! When you are over 300 pounds it takes a while for weight loss to be noticeable. There is no magic # of pounds you should lose each month. I lost 37 pounds the first month and 9 the second. Have someone help you take your measurements on a regular basis. Also estrogen is stored in fat and that can wreck havoc on your emotions. Hang in there! You can't fail unless you don't make your Water and Protein goals.

[JohnnyCakes 593]

7 hours ago, Pakko said:

i just dont have any friends that know they way im walking and i feel trapped, before surgery they were all, you gonna be excellent and stuff

what???

[Pakko 76]

what???

My friends basically ditched me out after surgery, before the surgery they were supportive, but now they dont even want to speak to me. In the other hand i dont have any friend that has had a bariatric surgery, so i dont have any support or anyone that understand what im going through.

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[SandraD_PDX 78]

My friends basically ditched me out after surgery, before the surgery they were supportive, but now they dont even want to speak to me. In the other hand i dont have any friend that has had a bariatric surgery, so i dont have any support or anyone that understand what im going through.

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Sometimes when we make serious changes in our lives, it causes others in our circle to reflect on themselves, and sometimes when they don't like what they find, they start to feel challenged by your change. Maybe they start thinking about their eating habits, etc. and then they get defensive. You are on a journey of recovery, you might lose some friends who are threatened by your personal growth, but reach out to people here and also in support groups where you live and make new friends, people who have walked in your shoes and know what it's like to struggle. You are doing so well, look at all of the positives you've gotten this last month and focus on what a healthy lifestyle will be like, you will rock this! And I don't know about you, but I have been the "fat friend" and the fat family member for my whole life. People don't know how to relate to you when you break out of that mold, so just give them time and go and create the life you want. If they are truly friends they will be back, and if they don't then you are better off without them, IMO. You deserve people in your life who want you to be happy and healthy. They are out there, and you can find them. Keep up the good work!

[kathlizzle 13]

Hi Pakko,
I feel your pain. I also agree with Sandra. Please contact your surgeon. I know it sounds crazy, but they are there for you physically and emotionally as this journey involves body and mind changes. There are support groups associated with most medical organizations who provide this surgery. New friends are waiting to be made in those groups right in your community. Make the call to your doctor on Monday. They will take your concerns seriously and provide resources to help you. You are not alone (unless you do not follow up with your doctor).
Let us know how you are doing.

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[Pakko 76]

I think most of us have gone through some emotional adjustments. Surgery itself is a big undertaking, and some folks get depressed as a side effect from the anesthesia. Losing weight is huge, too, and the whole process is stressful. Don't be too hard on yourself, and give yourself time to adjust to your new body and new way of life. It'll get better, I promise!

Ty so much for your support, i really appreciate it


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[Pakko 76]

You lost 29 pounds in a month. Have you ever done that before? The effects of the surgery don't happen overnight! When you are over 300 pounds it takes a while for weight loss to be noticeable. There is no magic # of pounds you should lose each month. I lost 37 pounds the first month and 9 the second. Have someone help you take your measurements on a regular basis. Also estrogen is stored in fat and that can wreck havoc on your emotions. Hang in there! You can't fail unless you don't make your Water and Protein goals.

Ty so much for your words they helped me realize that with time it will get better


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[Pakko 76]

Sometimes when we make serious changes in our lives, it causes others in our circle to reflect on themselves, and sometimes when they don't like what they find, they start to feel challenged by your change. Maybe they start thinking about their eating habits, etc. and then they get defensive. You are on a journey of recovery, you might lose some friends who are threatened by your personal growth, but reach out to people here and also in support groups where you live and make new friends, people who have walked in your shoes and know what it's like to struggle. You are doing so well, look at all of the positives you've gotten this last month and focus on what a healthy lifestyle will be like, you will rock this! And I don't know about you, but I have been the "fat friend" and the fat family member for my whole life. People don't know how to relate to you when you break out of that mold, so just give them time and go and create the life you want. If they are truly friends they will be back, and if they don't then you are better off without them, IMO. You deserve people in your life who want you to be happy and healthy. They are out there, and you can find them. Keep up the good work!

Ty so much for your kind words, im used to be the fat friend, or the "cute" friend but you are right, thank you for the support.

[Pakko 76]

Hi Pakko,
I feel your pain. I also agree with Sandra. Please contact your surgeon. I know it sounds crazy, but they are there for you physically and emotionally as this journey involves body and mind changes. There are support groups associated with most medical organizations who provide this surgery. New friends are waiting to be made in those groups right in your community. Make the call to your doctor on Monday. They will take your concerns seriously and provide resources to help you. You are not alone (unless you do not follow up with your doctor).
Let us know how you are doing.

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Hi kat,

I have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow, for now i've been trying to channel all my inner force to keep doing what i have to do and take the best of this experience, i cant let myself down, i have worked so hard for this second chance, im 24 my life is still in front of me and i have to make the best that i can. Ty very much for your advice