Not telling Mom/some others....opinions

[apu 84]

I only told my spouse and children. My wife had a hard time with my decision, she felt like I blindsided her. That certainly wasn't my intention. I need to make a change for my health. She has since come to appreciate that it was the right decision. I was going to tell my life long best friend as he planted the original seed of WLS when discussing his deteriorating health some time ago. Interestingly when I brought WLS in conversation recently he was quite dismissive I decided at that point he was out of the loop and never mentioned my intentions.

[Leviosa 26]

I'm pre-op and have told just my husband so far. I'm an extremely private person, and have been this way for as long as I can remember and therefore most likely won't be sharing my path with anyone. People around me are extremely nosy about things that don't pertain to them and i really don't care to divulge any part of my personal life. Its not like they have anything positive or helpful to add once they do hear about my life - so i choose to do my own thing in private.

My concern is my parents; I do worry that they'd be offended that I didn't divulge this "huge secret" to them or rather, trust them with my decisions. Honestly I'm choosing to be selfish. I dont want to deal with calls or texts while i'm trying to heal my body and my mind. I know that changing my relationship with food will be an uphill battle and I really want to give it my all without any distractions. As much as my parents love me they would be real distractions.

These are my two cents. I recommend that you choose to be as selfish as you can afford. This is your journey and your "rebirth". Decide who is your support system and stick with them and noone else. The rest can deal.

Love!

[ProfessorSlim 115]

On 8/22/2017 at 4:20 PM, Leviosa said:

I'm pre-op and have told just my husband so far. I'm an extremely private person, and have been this way for as long as I can remember and therefore most likely won't be sharing my path with anyone. People around me are extremely nosy about things that don't pertain to them and i really don't care to divulge any part of my personal life. Its not like they have anything positive or helpful to add once they do hear about my life - so i choose to do my own thing in private.

My concern is my parents; I do worry that they'd be offended that I didn't divulge this "huge secret" to them or rather, trust them with my decisions. Honestly I'm choosing to be selfish. I dont want to deal with calls or texts while i'm trying to heal my body and my mind. I know that changing my relationship with food will be an uphill battle and I really want to give it my all without any distractions. As much as my parents love me they would be real distractions.

These are my two cents. I recommend that you choose to be as selfish as you can afford. This is your journey and your "rebirth". Decide who is your support system and stick with them and noone else. The rest can deal.

Love!

This is exactly how I feel !! Thanks again to all for chiming in, I appreciate all the stories/support