Sex life after WLS

[VelvetSpank 36]

Silly question but I'm really curious if sex changes after WLS? I mean both physically and mentally. Is there a notable change in body elasticity, flexibility etc. in my mind I'm thinking it'll be a significant difference like after childbirth (I don't have kids) I suspect it'll be more varied physically but I'm really really curious if the physical changes messes w the head. I kinda don't wanna be thrown by any surprises? Btw, I'm pre-op and usually single but definitely not a novice. I feel like it's an incredibly silly question but I'd appreciate both male and female perspectives.

[PAstudent 117]

Not a silly question at all! I'm 2.5 months post op. I find my libido varies wildly due to the fluctuating hormones. Some weeks I just don't care for any type of contact, some we're intimate 3 or more times a day lol.

Physically, sex feels the same (then again I haven't lost a large amount of weight yet). Still have the energy and endurance I did pre-op, nothing hurts, we can do all the same things we did before. I may be a tad more flexible now, but that may be due to working out and stretching. A fun little result of losing weight is that my boyfriend has an easier time picking me up now so that's a thing.

Now this might just be me and I should probably start scheduling sessions with my therapist again, but I find that I'm a lot more aware of my body and self conscious than I used to be. My partner still finds me attractive and has said that he'll be just as attracted to me when I get to 120 lbs as he was when I was 250 lbs. But, sometimes before or during sex I'll be very aware of my rolls or belly or some other imperfection and get really depressed and turned off. Keep in mind, most people will probably get confidence boosts from losing weight so this likely won't happen to you!

Side note: Fertility will improve as you lose the excess weight. If you aren't already, you'll want to get on some sort of birth control (pill, nexplanon, etc). Condoms are still necessary if you aren't in a committed relationship.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

It is going to vary by the person, their starting weight, how much they have lost, and how far they are from surgery.

My whole vaginal/pelvic region is different after losing 1/2 my body weight.

If you have a big belly now, one difference is you get a lot closer to someone when you have no belly.

I was always high libido, that is unchanged.

[Sosewsue61 3,185]

I can only attest to when I lost 70lbs some years back and unhampered by the big belly could move easier on top. But I have always been very bendy even heavy. I look forward to the changes and especially after maintenance and plastics.

[Joann454 1,329]

I can only attest to when I lost 70lbs some years back and unhampered by the big belly could move easier on top. But I have always been very bendy even heavy. I look forward to the changes and especially after maintenance and plastics.

Bendy! I always say this. I am very UNbendy. Started yoga last week to help be more bendy. We shall see.

[Joann454 1,329]

Silly question but I'm really curious if sex changes after WLS? I mean both physically and mentally. Is there a notable change in body elasticity, flexibility etc. in my mind I'm thinking it'll be a significant difference like after childbirth (I don't have kids) I suspect it'll be more varied physically but I'm really really curious if the physical changes messes w the head. I kinda don't wanna be thrown by any surprises? Btw, I'm pre-op and usually single but definitely not a novice. I feel like it's an incredibly silly question but I'd appreciate both male and female perspectives.

Sex is better and more frequent for me because I feel better about myself and healthier, for me sex starts in the mind.

[VelvetSpank 36]

Oh great! I don't have too much of a belly so that's a plus. I gained most of my weight in the past couple of years and lost some flexibility/bendyness [emoji5] and I'm really looking to get that back.

Also I will need to get on some kinda birth control perhaps an IUD because I've never been one to manage contraception well. I want an option I can totally forget about.

[VelvetSpank 36]

Sex is better and more frequent for me because I feel better about myself and healthier, for me sex starts in the mind. [emoji4]

Yaaay!!!