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<p>was banded on the 8th Oct and still haven't told anyone. I've told people I'm on a new health plan and I started with a strict detox (week 1 and 2). I've told everyone that I am 'being good' for the month of October. When Nov hits I will be on normalish food but just smaller portions.

I don't see the need to tell anyone but if they ask me outright if I've had WLS then I will say yes. However it's not that common in the UK so I don't expect to get that question :)</p>

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I just received my letter today from the ins. saying that I've been approved so I'll most likely be scheduled in Nov. I didn't want to tell anyone because I'm worried that I may not work or that I wouldn't have the freedom of changing my mind. Also, I lost 125 lbs on my own over two years ago and it was very very hard work. I didn't want to tell people because I didn't want their ignorance of what the procedure involves and the effort that it requires to stick with it to be minimized by then thinking that "the band" did it. I know this sounds weird but it really bothered be before and I know this is more their problem and not mine but it made me not want to share. Anyway, I was a sucker because my aunt who is very overweight started talking about considering the procedure and I cracked because I had done all this research and she knew nothing. Now, everyone knows - argh!

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I am a closet bandster. Only one friend knows. The only thing I wanted to say is that I am not ashamed. I am a very private person and I don't tell people my business as a rule. I have friends, co-workers and family who have had WLS and I'm sure they would be supportive. I have been fairly successful, so I don't think it has anything to do with a fear of failure. I just don't tell people my personal business. It is a personal decision whether you choose to share your experience with others.

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I have been telling everyone as I want to be surrounded by lots of support.

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I agree that it's a personal choice. I told the people I thought would be supportive and who I am really close to.

The rest see that I have lost weight and I tell the truth but leave the band part out. I am making better food choices, eating smaller portions and exercising regularly.

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I've told Everyone!!! And happy that I have. Everyone has been very supportive!

I have people come up to me quite frequently knowing I have the Lapband, because I've attended the graduate meeting a couple times and then went to the Pre surgery meeting and spoke to the audience as a graduate of lapband surgery. So I'm known all over the state. I meet people all over that recognize me, from curves, grocery store, even at work!

I'm not shy and I'll answer anyones questions. I felt like telling the surgeon today when I went for my fill, that I should start getting a cut because I've been sending a lot of people his way!!!

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I only told my hubby and mom and one close friend before the surgery. Since the surgery, I have "come out" more to a select few. I just didnt want any naysayers to try to give me negative comments or feelings beforehand. I also didnt want to have to broach the subject of being self pay and others judging me for spending that kind of money.

Those that I have chosen to tell have been really great. In fact, one of my coworkers told me she had the gastric band (a little different from Lapband) about 10 years ago.

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I told everyone! I only had one person who was not supportive! I figured they are going to know what is up when I am losing 10 lbs a month... only lost 25lbs total on my whole year on WW hahaha!

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Since my surgery I have told more and more people and they have been supportive of me. I have even had a couple say that they would like to get the band. A lot of people have notice the change in the way I look. One of the reason that I did not tell everyone was that I did not wish to here about the negative things.

Chris

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I just was scheduled for Nov 15th today and I want to sing it to the whole world!!!!!!!!! I am so excited and I find people are very supportive and excited for me....

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Heck yeah! Why shouldn't everyone know?! Then again, I have no secrets, really. I'm very open about everything in my life (except finances - that's probably the one private thing I keep). Probably drive everyone batty blabbing on about my shrinking self! LOL

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