pity party for me

[Sophie74656 1,572]

Just feeling sorry for myself right now...

I've been looking for bathing suits. I haven't had one in many years and I figured, hey I've lost 200lbs I should get a bathing suit. Much crying later I've decided that I will not own a bathing suit this summer, just a tshirt and shorts if I feel like going in my parents' pool.

Yes I've lost a lot of weight and I'm much healthier, but oh my gosh my body is a mess, everything is loose and hanging and lumpy and just awful.

[ambergene 12]

Can I ask what your starting weight is? Do you work out? Also- the two piece bathing suits with high waist skirt shorts are AMAZING

[Sophie74656 1,572]

Just now, ambergene said:

Can I ask what your starting weight is? Do you work out? Also- the two piece bathing suits with high waist skirt shorts are AMAZING

My starting weight was over 400. I do work out some, mostly walking. I've been looking into a one piece with just some shorts over them

[ambergene 12]

My starting weight was over 400. I do work out some, mostly walking. I've been looking into a one piece with just some shorts over them

I really like the high waist skirt. Makes me feel a little sexy even though stuff is getting wiggly(it holds EVERYTHING in) lol. I am still at the beginning of my weight loss and hope to lose about 200 pounds. Just have to wear it in confidence!

[gwbicster 257]

This is one of the things that I'm concerned about, should I be blessed enough to lose the amount of weight you have (I also started off at 4 bills). Not so much regarding wearing a bathing suit, but should I ever convince someone else to be intimate with me again (it will surely be done with the lights off...)

I had to remind myself that I didn't have this surgery to be "hot", I did it to live. My medical situation was to the extent when I chose the surgery that I wasn't sure I'd be alive much longer. I knew that I likely could never afford plastic surgery nor do I desire it. I realized that hanging skin was a likely consequence, but decided that my health was more important.

I know you're probably rolling your eyes hearing this, but remember we are all beautiful as God made us, and our bodies are only our outer shell. That's a message I hope to reinforce in myself through this journey. My brain believes it, and hopefully my heart will very soon.

Good luck!

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

I wear a 3/4 sleeve rash guard because my arms have loose skin and shorts. I don't really swim, I do Water sports so this doesn't stand out at all.

I don't have this one, the one I have is more beachy but..

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=505919022&CAWELAID=120299900000065306&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=36024990456&CATCI=aud-297609326836:pla-71990260162&device=c&product_channel=online&Matchtype=&tid=onpl000017&kwid=1&ap=7&lsft=device:c,cvosrc:cse.google.online_Nonbrand,cvo_campaign:691125975,cvo_pid:36024990456,cvo_crid:155131028364,Matchtype:,tid:onpl000017,kwid:1,ap:7

You can cover up and look sporty without looking so covered up.

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

I'm sure I was beautiful at 8 pounds, 12 ounces, but a lot has happened since then . . .

I'm concerned about the hanging skin issue and know I won't be able to afford plastics, but, like gwbicster, my health concerns beat that consideration by a mile. Added to the mix is that I have a friend who likes my body the way it is now, and I'm worried that he won't be as affectionate when it changes. But my health concerns still top the list of considerations.

[Sophie74656 1,572]

1 hour ago, gwbicster said:

This is one of the things that I'm concerned about, should I be blessed enough to lose the amount of weight you have (I also started off at 4 bills). Not so much regarding wearing a bathing suit, but should I ever convince someone else to be intimate with me again (it will surely be done with the lights off...)

I had to remind myself that I didn't have this surgery to be "hot", I did it to live. My medical situation was to the extent when I chose the surgery that I wasn't sure I'd be alive much longer. I knew that I likely could never afford plastic surgery nor do I desire it. I realized that hanging skin was a likely consequence, but decided that my health was more important.

I know you're probably rolling your eyes hearing this, but remember we are all beautiful as God made us, and our bodies are only our outer shell. That's a message I hope to reinforce in myself through this journey. My brain believes it, and hopefully my heart will very soon.

Good luck!

Yep I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year...the first time the clothes came off i was convinced it was going to be the last, that he would see everything hanging and run screaming. A year later he's still here, but honestly no matter how much he says he loves me and he's not bothered by the loose skin it's still something I'm self conscious about and try to not show much

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

Hey, My arms sag so much it looks like they could be purses sometimes. My thighs and abs look like just sagging, ugly skin. I use suits like this. I love swimming so I searched and found ones that make me feel comfortable and confident. Don't give up, just get inventive!!!!!!!!!!

Suit sets:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MR8Q1A8/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Tops and bottoms separates:

http://www.fullbeauty.com/Search/SearchResults.aspx?SearchHeader=TANKINI V-NECK FLOW &DeptId=All&DeptName=Search All&stype=text

http://www.fullbeauty.com/Search/SearchResults.aspx?SearchHeader=swim capri&DeptId=All&DeptName=Search All&stype=text

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

@sophie66

you've lost 225 lbs!! holy moly . be proud! buy an appropriate bathing suit from a link posted above - they look nice. - it is hard to put yourself out there in the public - but you can do it!!!

better to have loose skin than all that excess weight - anybody you think is staring or something - screw them!! they might not even be staring at you - it's just that you might be self-conscious enjoy the Water and life!! keep up the good job -kathy

[Sophie74656 1,572]

Thanks everyone, I'm looking into some of those links.