To tell or not to tell..that is the question?

[itsachipmunk 1]

So I'm in pre op and I was looking for support from my family only to hear negative comments from some of them who are uneducated about it.
Has anyone told people they changed their mind about getting surgery but still gotten it, keeping only a few in the know?

[pita618 1]

I have not had the sleeve yet. But I did go thru lap band almost 9 years ago. No body could tell that I had anything done but eventually ask about the weight loss. I openly answered all question asked. I did not receive any negative feedback. When they see how happy you are with your new good health. They should be happy for you and if not. I would let them know you see no reason to share this journey with them. I hope to have the sleeve procedure my self. The doctor will not consider doing the procedure until I lose more weight. Wants me to be down to 244. I had to have my band removed a year ago in June. It has been a long battle to get to the point I am at now. I pray that he can do it. The program worked for me before. I lost 175 pounds and did change my life in a positive way and do not want to go back to that life I had then.

[Dizzykatja 7]

I have not had the sleeve yet. But I did go thru lap band almost 9 years ago. No body could tell that I had anything done but eventually ask about the weight loss. I openly answered all question asked. I did not receive any negative feedback. When they see how happy you are with your new good health. They should be happy for you and if not. I would let them know you see no reason to share this journey with them. I hope to have the sleeve procedure my self. The doctor will not consider doing the procedure until I lose more weight. Wants me to be down to 244. I had to have my band removed a year ago in June. It has been a long battle to get to the point I am at now. I pray that he can do it. The program worked for me before. I lost 175 pounds and did change my life in a positive way and do not want to go back to that life I had then.

I will never understand the doctors that refuse to do the surgery unless you first lose weight. Like "hello... if I could do that on my own do you think I'd be here?" Hope everything works out for you