Excited, nervous, and questioning everything

[Molly_T 5]

A little about me, I have been overweight my entire life, was bullied in school due to my weight. I have tried weight watchers two times, both times I did okay, but 4-5 months later I would gain everything I lost and more. I did the Adkins for a few weeks lost 15 pounds and gained 25, & 2 gym memberships ☹️ After all the failed attempts I decided to go for a consultation with a bariatic. I walked out of the office with a lot of knowledge and felt super confident and booked my surgery. I keep second guessing everything now.... why??? I have anxiety to begin with, but my gosh my heart won't stop pounding, I am worrying how do I know I am making the right choice ( I should know it is, I have a BMI of 45 and would benefit so much, as I have Harrington rods in my back, causing a lot of pain from being so overweight. I guess I'm wondering do you all worry at first? Like what if I regret this? What if I'm starving afterwords? Any advice? How did you know you was making the right choice? And then all these appointments are freaking me out.... ahhhh!!! My husband is very supportive and my parents as well. Just my brain won't turn off. Just a FYI my surgery date is September 29 for a gastric sleeve. Any words/advice/similar situation would be greatly appreciated!!

[kamjmm25 28]

I have a surgery date of August 21st. I am not really nervous about this surgery. I just can't wait to get it done so I can start losing the weight and keep it off. All of the appointments that I have to get done are a bit overwhelming. I have appointments next week for my cardiac clearance, my breath test, the nutritionist, and psych eval. It will be a busy week thats for sure.

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

I'm not really worried about the surgery--I have knee pain and I'd do almost anything to make that better. I know there are many, many other benefits probable or possible, but that's the most important to me in terms of making this decision and pursing it.

I'm a lot more concerned about handling the pre-op diet than starving afterwards--given that the hunger hormone will be greatly decreased by this surgery. If a quarter of a cup of food is going to fill me up . . . no, not worried about being hungry.

You know this is the right thing for you to do. Take a deep breath . . . and for inspiration, look at some of the threads of before/after pictures! Very inspirational.

[Molly_T 5]

Thank you kamjmm25 for your responses. I tend to over worry EVERYTHING! My appointments are for all in July, so I have a little time to get my crap together lol! I am excited to think about the weight loss, it's just leaving that comfort zone. Best of luck during all your appointment & surgery!

[Molly_T 5]

Thank you xyzxyzxyz1955, I hear you on the pain! 90% of my pain will be reduced after I lose some weight. I know your knee will feel so much better too! I am worried about the pre-op diet as well, but was thinking to get myself a bit used to it, I'll do the pre op diet 1 day a week until surgery so I'll at least have a general idea of what to expect. You're absolutely right I need to look for inspirations and look at the before and after! Thank you for your kind words! I wish you the best moving forward on your weight loss

[eccJuly 11]

I for one have felt a lot better after attending ny support groups pre op. I havr my date of July 7th. i would be lying if I said I wasnt scared. But I am more excited about losing the weight. I dount want to go into retirement with diabetes and high blood pressure. I dont think it will be easy but it will be worth it!

[eccJuly 11]

Wow. sorry about the typos. I hope you can understand what I wrote

[Molly_T 5]

Thank you Eccjuly, I can't wait for the next pre op group meeting! Julys meeting was canceled because it falls on the 4th, and the next one is in August, but I may see if any of the local hospitals around me have any that I can go to in the meantime, it can't hurt right?

[eccJuly 11]

Yes thats true. You can go to any one you can find. I have several around me so I am sure I can at least go each month or even more. I have one on July 15, which is 8 days post surgery which I am hoping to attend! Hang in there it will be worth it.

[Molly_T 5]

Thank you!

[getfit4life2017 18]

Yes I am worried as well. Not sure when mine will be but think it will be ether augers or September I'll get my date next time I go. I'm not so much worried about the surgery if self it's the after I worry about. Will something go wrong can I Eat the way they want me to will I ever enjoy food or a snack again. Don't care to over eat just be able to enjoy food when I can eat and feel satisfied. I also no I will have to really push myself to exercise the way they want me to and I think I can do that. I know I will have to change my way of life and the way I think about things. I also worry about after losing the weight will I need skin surgery? I know ins covers the one for your belly but what about between your legs ?? Hummm

[Molly_T 5]

On 7/3/2017 at 1:57 AM, getfit4life2017 said:

Yes I am worried as well. Not sure when mine will be but think it will be ether augers or September I'll get my date next time I go. I'm not so much worried about the surgery if self it's the after I worry about. Will something go wrong can I Eat the way they want me to will I ever enjoy food or a snack again. Don't care to over eat just be able to enjoy food when I can eat and feel satisfied. I also no I will have to really push myself to exercise the way they want me to and I think I can do that. I know I will have to change my way of life and the way I think about things. I also worry about after losing the weight will I need skin surgery? I know ins covers the one for your belly but what about between your legs ?? Hummm

Thank you getfit4life2017, It nice to know we are not alone with all these thoughts! I have been wondering the same thing as well. I actually have a close friend that had VGS + DS she was 500lb before surgery, 1.5 years out she is 200 and is having skin removed on her stomach as it's painful for her, but she also lost 300 pounds. W

[Christine1126 6]

On 7/3/2017 at 1:57 AM, getfit4life2017 said:

Yes I am worried as well. Not sure when mine will be but think it will be ether augers or September I'll get my date next time I go. I'm not so much worried about the surgery if self it's the after I worry about. Will something go wrong can I Eat the way they want me to will I ever enjoy food or a snack again. Don't care to over eat just be able to enjoy food when I can eat and feel satisfied. I also no I will have to really push myself to exercise the way they want me to and I think I can do that. I know I will have to change my way of life and the way I think about things. I also worry about after losing the weight will I need skin surgery? I know ins covers the one for your belly but what about between your legs ?? Hummm

This is how I feel. My surgery is on the 19th of this month. The skin sagging is something that is uppermost in my mind now, but I also love food and wine and I'm afraid that the surgery will completely take that enjoyment away. I don't want to continue with the unlimited eating, but so much of our lives are built around dinners out and family gatherings where there is a lot of food. I also worry that the pain and fatigue will make it hard to go to work, because I only have enough time to cover a week off. I'm hoping that the weight loss will spur me on to exercise. It should help my joints that hurt more and more, and hopefully it will eventually give me more energy to make the time to exercise.

Good luck to everyone here.