Losing support from a loved one

[JodiT140 34]

Just going through a rough patch and need to hear from other out there going through the same thing. I have a family member that has beed supportive all the way so far but now that I'm getting closer and closer to my goal that support has disappeared. Trying to stay possive but this was the only person that supported me on this journey.

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[Diana_in_Philly 1,426]

Please don't take this as me being a Debbie Downer, but the way my life has worked, I have learned that I can't count on anyone to support me. Many may say they will, but very few do. My husband has been a solid support, but now that I'm 25 pounds from goal, he is suggesting we eat and do things that are not good for my new lifestyle.

Therefore, buck up, Sister -- you've got this. You got yourself this far and will go all the way. While it is nice to have some help from others, this is something you need to do.

You are fierce. You are stronger than you think. You've got this,

[greensleeves 20]

I have found some family members supportive, some negative, especially ones who may be jealous of the changes you're making because they don't feel capable of making changes to their own lives. You just need to find others who are supportive. You will over time I bet.

[herewegoJ 18]

I have not had my surgery, but i lost all my weight before, being 70 lbs at that time (jojo person here). When i got close to goal, i had people trying to feed me and telling me i was to skinny. I'm looking forward to be able to say that i need to follow my doctors orders to stop people from doing that again. And my mantra will be "nothing taste as good as healthy feels"
You got this! You have support here, be strong and look out for yourself. It is a skill you will need as you reach goal and encounter people who don't know you had surgery.

Now i just hope i get approved

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[Navigating the Wilderness 824]

I'd communicate those feelings to the loved one.

[hmills653 365]

Talk to them and let them know how important it is for you to reach this goal and how much their support means to them. I do better writing my thoughts, so maybe a greeting card that says thanks for your support, you've helped me get this far and I really appreciate your continued support as I progress closer to my goal.

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[Pescador 1,374]

I have learned a lot in my 71 years. I suggest that you go to your surgeons support group and let yourself be the strong and supportive one for YOU. Never depend on anyone for your needs. Unless you have a significant other. You will be fine!!!!!