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Hi All, I wonder how you handle someone who says, "You're so skinny. I hate you."

It is awkward and I have no idea how to respond...thoughts?

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I have a friend that said that. I told her thank you and I love you. She worked it out bc it was her issue not mine...

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It's all about presentation... With a smile, or a fork in the eye?

Assuming its the former, tell her she has the better (shoes, hair, husband...) so y'all should fight it out. Whoever wins gets to be thin AND get her hubby.

And BING! the bell rings...

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Hello

i would not take it personal. Try not to take it in a bad way. By that person telling you just you are skinny, it's a good thing and take it as a complement. Also realize there will be many jealous people out there more than ever. I don't think that person meant to hurt you. They just saying that because they may be unhappy with themselves. I been told so many things and worse things because the people who have told me are actually jealous but I learned to ignore it. There are a lot of things I would tell them but I like to avoid issues because some people do not know how to handle certain things. The best thing you can do is ignore them if you can and if you can't just say "Thank You". 🙂

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LOL.... i've heard that.... my best friend said.... You're so skinny.. i f#cking hate you.. B!tch. But i know she was only joking.... I said.... don't hate... Appreciate!!! B!tch....

But if they just say... your so skinny.... my go to reply is ..... A HUGE smile and say... I KNOW RIGHT.

I have another friend that now refers to me as "thin-mint"... and i love it

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It can be tough especially because we don't see ourselves as skinny for a long time if ever. I just giggle and say thanks when people say I'm a skinny b***h...but sometimes it makes me a little blue especially when I feel there is anger behind the comment. Not much you can do just remember it's their issue. Honestly losing weight has brought up some issues with family members who are annoyed with me losing weight but I just remember I don't have to please them....this is my life and they have the power to make their own decisions.


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