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[hopefulme 0]

I would like some opinions and ideas about letting others know about the banding. So far the only person aware of my possible banding is my husband - he is supportive but very leery about the cost. I am wondering about others opinions of keeping it a secret at least until the band is in place. Any input would give me lots to consider - please reply if you have any thoughts on this.

Donna :eek:

[faithmd 14]

Hello and :welcomeB: There are simply LOADS of threads on here about this topic, here's a few, I hope it helps:

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f17/keeping-secret-31977/

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f15/keeping-my-surgery-secret-most-my-family-has-anyone-else-41689/

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f84/keeping-secret-what-excuse-did-you-use-work-29885/

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f84/keeping-band-secret-28793/

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f15/anyone-not-telling-family-37889/

[hopefulme 0]

Thank you so much for the sites - I've looked over a couple and ----- very interesting. I'll check them all out and make my decision.

Thanks again,

Donna

[Ginaki 0]

I would like some opinions and ideas about letting others know about the banding. So far the only person aware of my possible banding is my husband - he is supportive but very leery about the cost. I am wondering about others opinions of keeping it a secret at least until the band is in place. Any input would give me lots to consider - please reply if you have any thoughts on this.<br /> Donna <img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/car.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Car" smilieid="141" class="inlineimg" />

<br /> <br /> Hi Donna, <br /> im getting banded on the 30th october, i thought about keeping the band a secret from people around me but i couldnt go have surgery and basically disappear for a few days, the people that i told are my closest girlfriends whom i socialize with them on a daily basis and know (hope) they are there to support me when i stumble onto difficult days. If i disappeared for a couple days they would send out a search party to find me, and most importantly of all if they found out later on down the track they will be disappointed in me,,,,,,,,,well there are days i regret telling my girlfriends because i swore them to secrecy cause i dont need the whole community knowing about it.....then again i also tell myself if the girls betray my trust and outsiders find out oh well there is nothing to be ashamed about, im doing this for me not for anyone else and if i can help others and educate them to look into weight loss surgery then BONUS....Im helping others....<br /> <br /> Gina

[hopefulme 0]

Thanks Gina you've given lots to think about. This site is so helpful - I've been sent links where others have discussed this issue and received lots of helpful advice. Good luck with you band - I hope to hear how you do.

Donna

[kwik59 0]

For me the decision to go with the band was very personal choice, but I did share with my children (19 and 13), and a few choice - supportive- friends.