BeachBumforlife 5 Posted June 23, 2017 Hello I am 2 years out haven't reached goal yet. Not sure if I will but I am working hard to get back on track. It's just hard because I want to take care of everyone first still. I feel guilty not taking care of others. I know I should not feel this way I don't have real support at home for the simple reason they do understand. Being an addict of food is the same as being an addict of anything. They just do not get it. I ask please do not bring cakes, ice cream donuts, you know all the stuff that got me to nearly 500 pounds only for it to fall upon deaf ears. I'm hoping to friend the support I so desperately need. Thanks for reading... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Waler 330 Posted June 23, 2017 about the second time you start throwing that stuff in the trash they will get the hint. 4 Ldyvenus, MarinaGirl, byebyedarkpassenger and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBumforlife 5 Posted June 23, 2017 Well I decided that anyone who brings that crap in the house will not find in the trash can you are right. I cleaned out the cupboards yesterday and my neighbor was one happy camper. From this day forward this is all about me .... thanks for you kind words 4 Blue Door, ShinyLady, Missy161 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pam_2-06-2017 375 Posted June 23, 2017 Why is it that mom's feel guilty if we're even thinking about doing something for ourselves? I have officially gotten over that:-). I am the shopper in my home so what comes in is all up to me. If junk gets through my door it better be eaten quick or it will disappear. Honestly! I am nearly 5 months post op so I'm still pretty honeymoon about it. But at this point my family likes the person I've become so appealing to them for understanding is pretty easy. I guess they are also in the honeymoon stage:-/ i still allow some things as my teen-aged son and husband with ravenous appetites and no weight problems need calories. So I practice resisting. I have introduced a few things back into my home and intentionally resisted. I don't beat myself up about it. Things I'm proud to resist are ice cream, crackers, tortilla chips... that doesn't mean I don't eat it. I resist it. Example: if I think about the ice cream in the fridge I resist. But when my son has a bowl I ask him to serve me a bowl with three tablespoons and savor every spoonful and log it in my journal. I want to build a healthy relationship with food. At two years out nobody has to tell you how to eat or how to get over your addiction. You know the plan. You have to find that mojo within yourself that moved you in the direction of WLS. Food addiction sucks but you have a great tool to help you get it under control. Take care 5 Missy161, Kathy812, blue1961 and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBumforlife 5 Posted June 28, 2017 Hi Pam thanks for your thoughts I respect where you are coming from. However, addiction is different for each person as well triggers. Not everyone is as strong as you are. I am very happy you have the strength you do and I hope to find it as well . 1 Missy161 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blizair09 3,250 Posted June 28, 2017 On 6/23/2017 at 1:28 PM, Pam_2-06-2017 said: Why is it that mom's feel guilty if we're even thinking about doing something for ourselves? I have officially gotten over that:-). I am the shopper in my home so what comes in is all up to me. If junk gets through my door it better be eaten quick or it will disappear. Honestly! I am nearly 5 months post op so I'm still pretty honeymoon about it. But at this point my family likes the person I've become so appealing to them for understanding is pretty easy. I guess they are also in the honeymoon stage:-/ i still allow some things as my teen-aged son and husband with ravenous appetites and no weight problems need calories. So I practice resisting. I have introduced a few things back into my home and intentionally resisted. I don't beat myself up about it. Things I'm proud to resist are ice cream, crackers, tortilla chips... that doesn't mean I don't eat it. I resist it. Example: if I think about the ice cream in the fridge I resist. But when my son has a bowl I ask him to serve me a bowl with three tablespoons and savor every spoonful and log it in my journal. I want to build a healthy relationship with food. At two years out nobody has to tell you how to eat or how to get over your addiction. You know the plan. You have to find that mojo within yourself that moved you in the direction of WLS. food addiction sucks but you have a great tool to help you get it under control. Take care I have to agree with @Pam_2-06-2017. You have to find the strength and perseverance within yourself to do what you need to do to reach your goals. It's as simple as that. My partner lost 115 pounds from February 2016 until December 2016. That time period was my six month pre-op diet program and three months of post-op life. He got to his goal of 200 pounds (he's 6'1"). At that time (end of December 2016), I weighed about 250ish, and still had a ways to go to get to my goal. Since then, he has eaten what he wants (and gained some weight back, too). Crap is in the house all of the time. He wants fast food, so we go through a drive-thru. You know what? I buy it at the store for him. I hand him the credit card in the drive-thru line. I hold the ice-cream cone while he gets situated in the car. But I don't eat any of it, because I know that isn't what I am supposed to do. The mental part of this game (whether it is pre-op, immediately post-op, or 2 years out) is the hardest part, and where the war is won. I wish you the best as you continue. I'd recommend working with a psychologist and/or a nutritionist to help you get re-started. Having an experienced person to talk to often really helps. 3 Missy161, blue1961 and Pam_2-06-2017 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Missy161 395 Posted July 17, 2017 It isn't easy. Ever. But I am glad I get to restart every morning and say today is going to be a good day full of self control. So far I've only had 2 days where I fell and ate foods that I shouldn't have. I'm only 3.5 weeks out so I anticipate those will happen from time to time. Both things happened on the same day. The next day I brushed myself off and started over making sure to get my fluids and Protein in. I know that there are foods I just can't have around- others aren't a problem. pizza and pie are the 2 that just can't happen for me. But ice cream, chips, soda. candy so far I haven't even been tempted yet. I'm sure as I become more active and lose more weight I'll have other motivations for sticking with it as well. And I have you all here to pull me through it. Thanks! Hw 223, SW 217 CW 200 GW 135 1 blue1961 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
