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12 minutes ago, Nhope said:

You don't owe anyone an explanation!! Take care of yourself first. Ignore snarky comments as best you can (that's their monkeys and their circus). Be proud of how you handled your dinnertime challenge!

Thank you :) I appreciate you saying that

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I'm all about the secret! I decided not to tell anyone just because I didn't want what or how much I eat to be a topic of conversation. It feels damn good to be normal. The people who pay attention to what I eat are people who want to lose weight or people that want to judge. I'm not interested in being someone's example or target. If I'm asked how I'm doing it I'm as honest as I can be. Low carb, Water, exercise and I take my Vitamins. I rarely go out to eat and when I do I just order what I want and a go box. If it raises eyebrows I just say I read it in a magazine that planning on having leftovers is a great way to eat less. That is absolutely true, I did read that somewhere. I get my meal and pack up half before I start...ha! Any snarky comments would be easily ignored. Early on I got a bit of snark but now that I have lost so much it makes more sense to them. Just roll with it. Eventually, you will feel like you eat more normally and most people generally don't care what or how you eat when your skinny. Not so when I was a big girl.


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So I have chosen not to share my (future) WLS surgery with many people either. Just my support people. Simply because it's not their business. And as far as the food, order what you want, and take the rest to go. That way you can eat on it for several meals. If anyone is rude enough to point out that you didn't eat much, you simply tell them that you are until your body said it wasn't hungry anymore, but that you will definitely be able to enjoy the leftovers tomorrow for lunch.


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