BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 13, 2017 I have officially started my vsg journey! Anyone else at this stage? And a couple other questions how is your support system? How is your significant other handling it? I ask because mine says he's supportive but has concerns about after surgery...like if I lose a bunch of weight I will leave him if I start getting attention from other people. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app 3 chamilton0323, sunshinekel and Meguone reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pfisher 72 Posted June 14, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! 😀 Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along. 2 BrandiJo2009 and dennisdj reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hmills653 365 Posted June 15, 2017 I have officially started my vsg journey! Anyone else at this stage? And a couple other questions how is your support system? How is your significant other handling it? I ask because mine says he's supportive but has concerns about after surgery...like if I lose a bunch of weight I will leave him if I start getting attention from other people. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app All men lol. Married 17 years with kids and he says you're not planning on leaving me are you. Really. Sent from my SM-N920T using BariatricPal mobile app 1 sunshinekel reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! [emoji3] Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along.Yay!! Can't wait to see updates from you!! And thank you for the advice! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app 1 pfisher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! [emoji3] Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along.Yay!! Can't wait to see updates from you!! And thank you for the advice! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! [emoji3] Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along.Yay!! Can't wait to see updates from you!! And thank you for the advice! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! [emoji3] Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along.Yay!! Can't wait to see updates from you!! And thank you for the advice! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrandiJo2009 14 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi BrandiJo, I received my referral to the surgeon yesterday. My first appointment with the surgeon is 8/9. Because of insurance requirements, my doctor supervised weight loss program has to be in effect for six months before surgery can be scheduled. My husband is a great support since he just had the surgery in April. He is doing well so far and has no regrets. He is totally onboard with my decision to get sleeved too. I can relate to your SO's concerns tho. We have had several discussions about how we will handle any increased attention from others as our weight drops. Keeping communication open, honest, with a good sense of humor has worked wonders! [emoji3] Wishing you the best of luck! Hope to follow your journey as it goes along.Yay!! Can't wait to see updates from you!! And thank you for the advice! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using BariatricPal mobile app Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leviosa 26 Posted June 15, 2017 In the weight management phase of this process; can't wait! My husband is very supportive of my decision but doesn't seem too worried right now. I think he's just taking it a day at a time and will handle issues as they come. I do keep feeding him information as learn it so as to prepare him more than he is now. He's not a jealous kind of guy so I don't think he's thought about the attention issue in the future. We're very open with each other so if something were to arise, we'd definitely talk about it. The key is open communication and trust; its worked for me so far. We'll see if that changes lol . Good Luck! 2 pfisher and Dee's Journey reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hollyluya 4 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi Brandi! I'm just starting too [emoji3] I have my surgeon and Nurse coordinator appts on 6/30 and that's when I get to officially start my insurance required 3 month supervised weight loss. Expecting to have surgery some time in October. My husband is very supportive. He says he needs to keep in shape to keep up with me after I have surgery. LolSent from my SM-G550T1 using BariatricPal mobile app 2 pfisher and Angel11 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old2NewMe 73 Posted June 15, 2017 All men lol. Married 17 years with kids and he says you're not planning on leaving me are you. Really. Sent from my SM-N920T using BariatricPal mobile appI've had the convo also with mine. 10 years and 3 kids here and I'm thinking the same as you. Told things are about to get a lot more fun! Lol 3 Angel11, pfisher and Newme69 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DedicatedLady 139 Posted June 15, 2017 I've had the same question from my man! I thought it was very odd and unusual, did not realize that many men would also ask that. It seems silly to me, they are generally the person who supports you the most, and helps you most. Its been 3 1/2 years and we literally have invitations out for our wedding in January. Even have a house together, a dog, and want kids in 2-3 years. Why on earth would I leave him for someone else who decides to pay attention to me? I don't think anybody pays more attention or is sweeter and more thoughtful to me than he is. I'd have to be an idiot to leave him Part of the surgery reason is so I can look good on his arm lol 3 pfisher, kcvasquez and sunshinekel reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kcvasquez 39 Posted June 15, 2017 I'm just starting out too! I've been thinking about VSG surgery for a few years but after yet another failed attempt at losing on my own I decided on Monday that I was done with that. So I called and made an appointment and have my first consultation tomorrow morning! I'm nervous and excited all at the same time!My husband is super supportive as he always has been, he's never said that he's worried about me leaving him afterwards [emoji848] maybe I should ask? [emoji23] I'm not sure on what my insurance requires before surgery so I'm nervous as to how long I will have to wait. But either way I will be better off a year from now than I am now! I'm so happy to have found a place to share all these feelings and have people going through it too. As of now I am only telling my husband and sister because I don't need to hear anyone else's opinions on what they think I should or shouldn't do. Lol 2 Almond Joyz and pfisher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pfisher 72 Posted June 15, 2017 4 hours ago, kcvasquez said: I'm just starting out too! I've been thinking about VSG surgery for a few years but after yet another failed attempt at losing on my own I decided on Monday that I was done with that. So I called and made an appointment and have my first consultation tomorrow morning! I'm nervous and excited all at the same time! My husband is super supportive as he always has been, he's never said that he's worried about me leaving him afterwards maybe I should ask? I'm not sure on what my insurance requires before surgery so I'm nervous as to how long I will have to wait. But either way I will be better off a year from now than I am now! I'm so happy to have found a place to share all these feelings and have people going through it too. As of now I am only telling my husband and sister because I don't need to hear anyone else's opinions on what they think I should or shouldn't do. Lol Congratulations on taking this step! Love your attitude as well. We are taking the next right step so we can be healthier versions of ourselves. I can't wait for my appointment with my surgeon. Wishing us all the best as we start this be chapter! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinekel 2 Posted June 16, 2017 My husband asked the same question will i leave after🤔15 years 2 kids of our own plus hee raises my other 3[emoji23]. So i talked him into doing the sleeve also. We can get healthy together and stay together with no doubts. I love this man and i want us both to be healthy and look great [emoji6]Sent from my SM-G925T using BariatricPal mobile app 2 Almond Joyz and pfisher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites