chynadoll619 247 Posted June 10, 2017 Basically what the title says.. Now I'm having surgery on Wed with no one there I live out of state away from family.. And the person who was supposed to be there for me threw this is in jail, I'm stressed out hurt mentally and physically and now nervous.. I need some tips on how to manage post op all by yourself self.. Thank you Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LisaKay 77 Posted June 10, 2017 sorry for all your troubles. You CAN do This! I went to Mexico and had mine done. No one could go with me so i did it alone. Even flying 2 days after surgery alone. The laparoscopic surgery really is quick healing. I was able to do everything slowly but i could. I did not have kids only myself to attend to. Have everything you need for eating after surgery pre made and ready before surgery. I was walking a mile by day 5 and off all pain med. You can do this. Have your cell phone and talk to people for encouragement! I wish you the best. 4 Sosewsue61, chynadoll619, Softtacocrumbs and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RobbieBG 14 Posted June 10, 2017 I am sorry you are having such a hard time. First off, I would inform your surgeon of your situation. I am sure he/she would want to know your what you are facing in your life at this time, before your surgery is performed. This is major surgery and we all want to have a smooth and safe recovery. Wishing you the best. Stay strong, 2 LisaKay and chynadoll619 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OutsideMatchInside 10,166 Posted June 10, 2017 I'm single. I had surgery and live alone. It isn't hard. Just have premise Protein Shakes. 3 Rivka7NV, LisaKay and chynadoll619 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Belle_Mimi 22 Posted June 10, 2017 Sorry to hear that. You can do this. You're not the first and you will not be the last to have to be alone post op. Make sure you have filled your pain meds. Get you some gas ex, stool softner, crushed ice, shakes, and a few cans of broths and you will be just fine by the grace of God. You got this[emoji4] 2 LifesJourney and chynadoll619 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Berry78 4,261 Posted June 10, 2017 The surgery will be the easy part. Make sure you will be safe/have a plan for if the person gets out of jail. I also went to Mexico by myself, and had no troubles. When I got home, I wasn't alone, but instead of them taking care of me, it created MORE work for me taking care of them. You'll be just fine! Do make sure you have a ride home from the hospital, and enough food on hand that you don't need to shop for a few days. Get your approved foods (drinks, really) list now, so you can prepare. Good luck! 4 Rita48, LisaKay, chynadoll619 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rivka7NV 40 Posted June 11, 2017 You are stronger without him than with him. I am doing this alone. You can do this alone. Don't bring him back for your recovery thinking you will be able to get rid of him later or that he has changed. I guarantee you that your stomach will become a target the first time he gets angry or resentful. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Honda64 1 Posted June 11, 2017 You are stronger without him than with him. I am doing this alone. You can do this alone. Don't bring him back for your recovery thinking you will be able to get rid of him later or that he has changed. I guarantee you that your stomach will become a target the first time he gets angry or resentful. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pfisher 72 Posted June 11, 2017 I can't say anything that hasn't already been stated here. You are strong and you can absolutely do this! Wishing you all the best. Please speak with your surgeon or nurse about the situation. And please be safe! Keep us posted. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chynadoll619 247 Posted June 12, 2017 Thank you everyone for your kind words I'm ready and getting more excited by the day thank you Sent from my Z981 using BariatricPal mobile app 1 Navigating the Wilderness reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Navigating the Wilderness 824 Posted June 12, 2017 (edited) Wishing you the best of luck and a quick recovery. Don't forget to use us as your 'bariatric family' during this time. Edited June 12, 2017 by Navigating the Wilderness Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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AllenKnight 0 Posted October 17, 2022 On 6/10/2017 at 9:32 AM, LisaKay said: sorry for all your troubles. You CAN do This! I went to Mexico and had mine done. No one could go with me so i did it alone. Even flying 2 days after surgery alone. The laparoscopic surgery really is quick healing. I was able to do everything slowly but i could. I did not have kids only myself to attend to. Have everything you need for eating after surgery pre made and ready before surgery. Some more free papers about domestic violence rehabilitation helped me. Have your cell phone and talk to people for encouragement! I wish you the best. You're a strong person, thanks for encouragement and I hope now everything is ok on your life path. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites