Did you tell people?

[Gobonn 20]

I told my husband and two teen daughters. I told 2 close friends. That's it. Work knew I was having an elective surgery and I would be out for a few days. I didn't tell my mother (who was amazingly judgmental) or my sister (because I didn't think she would understand.)
I never regretted my decision. Obviously I've told anyone involved in my medical care. Otherwise, I tell people I keep careful records of everything I eat and log it and exercise way more than I used to. All of which is entirely true. Along with eating a high Protein, almost no carb diet.
If anyone pushes on whether I've had surgery (and it's someone I don't know well or an acquaintance) I ask if they had sex the night before in response. They look at me like I have two heads. Then I say that I prefer not to answer personal medical questions - and I consider that information private, just like my sex life. It usually shuts them right down and makes them laugh when the realize how rude asking that kind of question really is.

Perfect response to the rude question! Love it! [emoji12]

[Gobonn 20]

ɪ ᴄʜᴏᴏsᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴇxᴄᴇᴘᴛ ᴀ ғᴇᴡ ᴄʟᴏsᴇ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ sʜᴀʀᴇᴅ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ sʜᴀʀᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴏɴᴇ.
ɪ'ᴍ ᴀ ᴠᴇʀʏ ᴘʀɪᴠᴀᴛᴇ ᴘᴇʀsᴏɴ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴛʀᴇᴀᴛᴇᴅ ᴀɴʏ ᴅɪғғᴇʀᴇɴᴛ ɪғ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴋɴᴇᴡ ᴏʀ ᴋɴᴏᴡs ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴍʏ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ.
ɪɴ 3 ᴍᴏɴᴛʜs ɪ'ᴠᴇ ʟᴏsᴛ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛɪᴄᴇᴀʙʟᴇ 40ʟʙs ʙᴜᴛ ʙᴇғᴏʀᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ɪᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀs ᴄʜᴀɴɢɪɴɢ ғᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ. ʙᴇғᴏʀᴇ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ ɪ ʜᴀᴅ ʟᴏsᴛ 40ʟʙsᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴀ ʏᴇᴀʀ sᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴇɪɢʜᴛ ʟᴏss ᴡᴀs ᴋɴᴏᴡɴ.
ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ sʜᴀʀᴇ ɪᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ, ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴀ ᴘᴇʀsᴏɴᴀʟ ᴄʜᴏɪᴄᴇ.
ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɴᴏ ʀᴇɢʀᴇᴛs ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴀᴘᴘʏ ɪ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴄɪsɪᴏɴ.

My experience was very similar. I began about 4 years ago losing weight, got stuck and couldn't seem to get any further than the 70 lost on my own, then chose to go the sleeve route just 3 months ago. Most people just notice that I seem to have broken through my plateau. [emoji6]. I told only 2 friends and my close family. I have now told 2 more friends since we eat out with them often. They sensed something was different. I just feel better that this is private. I don't want to answer the curiosity questions and don't want the dumb comments or the constant "so how are you doing?"

[Karcares 34]

I'm day 6 post op. I'm very lucky to have a close friend who is 14 months post op - she's been a god-send - and two coworkers who are 11 months post op. I didn't keep it a secret at work. Figured everyone would know eventually. But I did not tell my or my husbands family. I tested the topic with my sisters last summer, who are both thin btw, and after getting the standard "isn't that for people who just don't have the discipline to eat right and work out?" I decided I didn't need to hear their opinions or worries and kept it to myself. I probably will eventually tell them but I only see them once or twice a year so hopefully I'll be a lot thinner when I do.