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[nurse4 0]

hi guys me and my mum were banded on thursday, my mum had complications and had to have her spleen removed, she had scar tissue and it was nipped and then the surgen spent 2 hours tring to stop the bleeding.but sadly had to remove it in the end. i am so worried she looks terrible. she has just come out of intensive care and back to her private room. but what now. whats life like with out her spleen. and i was the one who talked her to have it done with me, "new life for us both etc..." what have i done, i am fine i feel like i have pulled a muscle on my left side, but thats all.

:thinkcarina

[lindaa 1]

Nurse--I'm so sorry to hear that things did not go smoothly for your mom. I'm sure it was hard to see her look so badly, but it's good that you guys were in a hospital instead of an out-patient center! She'll look a lot better every day, and you'll start to feel better too. From a mom's perspective I can tell you that I would still be happy for my daughter, even though it didn't work for me. I would be glad that I was the one with complicatons and not her. I would tell her that there is nothing to feel guilty about--I make my own decisions--she didn't talk me into anything I didn't want to do. I would be happy because I have such a loving and caring daughter who wanted to share her journey with me in such a personal way, and that we have this kind of relationship.

[nurse4 0]

:thinkLindaa thankyou so much for youre kind words, we are in england so i am so happy we went for a well known hospital group. but i have been reading up on life with out a spleen on the internet and it says that the morbility rate in the 1st 2 years is 50% because of infection..........have you or anyone out there ever heard of this befor happening to a bandster. i am only greatfull she is here with me today, and so happy i did not loose her in surgery.

but thaks for your very kind words.....just wish i could turn the clock back.

thankyou carina x x x:)