Anybody regret getting WLS?

[njgal 535]

Good morning lovely people,

I read all these success stories and that's great, it's motivating and helps me stay on course. I'm about halfway through my qualifying process for the sleeve.

In the interest of getting the whole story though I was hoping to hear from people who regret having done wls?

Thanks for your input.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

Just search youtube it is full of food addict cry babies who are unhappy with their surgery and still eating Pasta. Or you can search regret here and find lots of thread of unhappy people who can't pig out on pizza of chug liquor like it is Spring Break anymore.

Although most of those claims are just click bait, when you watch the actual videos, you will see they are happy with their results even if they never got to goal.

Forums are a skewed representation of life after WLS. First of all it is mainly newbs. I had surgery almost 2 years ago and basically no one that had surgery the same month as me posts here. Even at the one year mark they were all gone. 3 kinds of people post on WLS forums, newbs, successful people and failures/regains.

I'm thrilled with my surgery results, my health improvements were almost immediate. The weight loss is just icing on the cake.

[Middus 491]

2 hours ago, njgal said:

Good morning lovely people,

I read all these success stories and that's great, it's motivating and helps me stay on course. I'm about halfway through my qualifying process for the sleeve.

In the interest of getting the whole story though I was hoping to hear from people who regret having done wls?

Thanks for your input.

A common cause for regret is when there's a complication. I've had none so, I have never bothered searching if there is a forum here addressing it. I've come across a (very) small number of upset people though.

[Deactivatedfatgal 377]

3 hours ago, njgal said:

Good morning lovely people,

I read all these success stories and that's great, it's motivating and helps me stay on course. I'm about halfway through my qualifying process for the sleeve.

In the interest of getting the whole story though I was hoping to hear from people who regret having done wls?

Thanks for your input.

You can google/YouTube vsg regrets and maby type in complications or something. I see many people NOT regret procedure even with complications. There are people out there who want their old 350 pound selves back, for whatever reasons. Gl

[njgal 535]

3 hours ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

Just search youtube it is full of food addict cry babies who are unhappy with their surgery and still eating Pasta. Or you can search regret here and find lots of thread of unhappy people who can't pig out on pizza of chug liquor like it is Spring Break anymore.

Although most of those claims are just click bait, when you watch the actual videos, you will see they are happy with their results even if they never got to goal.

Forums are a skewed representation of life after WLS. First of all it is mainly newbs. I had surgery almost 2 years ago and basically no one that had surgery the same month as me posts here. Even at the one year mark they were all gone. 3 kinds of people post on WLS forums, newbs, successful people and failures/regains.

I'm thrilled with my surgery results, my health improvements were almost immediate. The weight loss is just icing on the cake.

Yep, it's exactly because I considered most complaints to be those of cry babies that I thought I'd try my luck here. I mean, if anybody had a real problem with WLS and was looking to educate people on their point of view I figured what better platform than here... where most people looking to get it done end up, like you said, mostly newbies. I'm not so much interested in the "OMG, I can't eat 3 pizzas, 5 donuts and gulp down a liter o soda to wash it down" types... I was just curious to see if there were actually genuinely serious people who regret their decision.. 5-10 years down the road... I guess not. Another pro goes on my list then

Thanks!

[njgal 535]

21 minutes ago, Deactivatedfatgal said:

You can google/YouTube vsg regrets and maby type in complications or something. I see many people NOT regret procedure even with complications. There are people out there who want their old 350 pound selves back, for whatever reasons. Gl

Thanks! Not sure why anybody would either but it takes all sorts, right?

[njgal 535]

1 hour ago, Middus said:

A common cause for regret is when there's a complication. I've had none so, I have never bothered searching if there is a forum here addressing it. I've come across a (very) small number of upset people though.

Thanks

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

7 minutes ago, njgal said:

I was just curious to see if there were actually genuinely serious people who regret their decision.. 5-10 years down the road... I guess not. Another pro goes on my list then

Thanks!

The only people that post that are long term on forums are either really successful and living a whole new life so they are really happy, and people that have regained. The people that have regained don't usually stick around much.

Even people with complications usually don't regret their surgery.

The only regret I see all the time is people wishing they had done it sooner. I wish I had done it sooner, but I wasn't in the right head space any time earlier in my life to handle it, so I had it at the right time for me.

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

2 hours ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

Just search youtube it is full of food addict cry babies who are unhappy with their surgery and still eating Pasta. Or you can search regret here and find lots of thread of unhappy people who can't pig out on pizza of chug liquor like it is Spring Break anymore.

Although most of those claims are just click bait, when you watch the actual videos, you will see they are happy with their results even if they never got to goal.

Forums are a skewed representation of life after WLS. First of all it is mainly newbs. I had surgery almost 2 years ago and basically no one that had surgery the same month as me posts here. Even at the one year mark they were all gone. 3 kinds of people post on WLS forums, newbs, successful people and failures/regains.

I'm thrilled with my surgery results, my health improvements were almost immediate. The weight loss is just icing on the cake.

I find this offensive on many levels. Your stereotyping and bias is deeply effecting your opinion here and is coloring everyone with the same brush. Offensive. JUst an FYI, I had a lot of fears and regret the first two months and it wasn't because I was throwing a temper tantrum cause I can't funnel food into my face anymore. But thanks for dismissing people's emotions and feelings and stereotyping everyone.

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To the OP:

The first 2 months were very rough for me. I had been basically dying for the 16 months leading up to my surgery. The doctors didn't know what was wrong and I was in and out of the hospital. When they finally discovered it was my gallbladder that was destroying my pancreas, liver and kidneys they asked if I wanted to have the VGS surgery as well. Saying I was completely covered insurance wise and health wise it's what all of my docs strongly recommended. I have 4 weeks to prep with all my tests and milestones I had to meet for the surgery.

After wards I had a very difficult recovery. And in that time I went through a week straight of full on crying regret. It was all so emotionally overwhelming and I just wanted to be a "normal" person. I wanted a normal life back after so long of being sick and then now recovery. And I had no way to sooth myself either. I was physically in pain, emotionally in pain and there was nothing I could do to make myself feel better. I could barely walk even.

But then Trump was elected and that was it, I hit rock bottom. I was crying, miserable, in pain physically, emotionally and now we have THIS to deal with?? lol! I was just moving on to the full food stage and had been avoiding all carbs (My pancreas was severely damaged and I was producing almost no insulin at that point) but said SCREW IT!! I made myself some delicious mashed potatoes. Those mashed potatoes were like Manna to me, it was like my eyes were opening (and I was getting some real calories) and I realized that my life was still OK, that once I healed I could be "normal" again. I wasn't going to sustain on pureed ham and Protein powders for the rest of my life, that I was going to feel better - and soon. I realized that my fears and pain and regret were a form of grieving, of dealing with such a huge change.

I mean, we are REMOVING OUR STOMACHS essentially. lol! If you don't have a few moments or swaths of time where you regret it or have fears, than I say congratulations and I am so happy for you! But if you DO have some moments like that I think that is ALSO totally healthy and normal. It's OK to be human and have fears and regrets. You just want to make sure that you don't allow yourself to dwell in that space. Try to find the thing that will help change your perspective. I hate even admitting that Trump's election did anything positive for me but it is what it is. lol!

[bellabloom 2,469]

Good morning lovely people,I read all these success stories and that's great, it's motivating and helps me stay on course. I'm about halfway through my qualifying process for the sleeve.In the interest of getting the whole story though I was hoping to hear from people who regret having done wls?

Thanks for your input.

I think my story could be interesting for you to read. I do not "regret" surgery. I am glad I did it and have lost all of my excess weight. But it came at a huge cost for me. You can read about my journey in my posts.

I have been asked many times if I regret surgery and would do it again, because of the difficulty I went through. The answer to that is still yes, I would do it again.

I don't think it's as simple as saying, do I regret it. I think it's more about realizing this is a hard process and it's also not a guarantee of weight loss.

If someone does wls and does not lose or regains- you BET YOUR ASS they will regret it. Omg. To think of living with the stomach I have now and also being at my heavier weight. Wow. That would suck. I live with complications but being at a lower weight makes it worth it.

And you can't know for sure if you will lose. I know a lot of people who did not lose much. Our bodies are all different. Our bodies fight back hard against weight loss through dietary restriction. They don't like to be starved. If someone doesn't lose it's because their body is really good at preventing starvation. Or it's their mindset- they cannot break the need in their mind to continue their learned habits. They don't know how to stop the process of guilt eating. It's not their fault.

My suggestion for you is to really consider the cost of this surgery physically, the potential you won't lose, your other options for weight stabilization, how much your weight really matters and effects your life, and wether there are other problems you need to face in your life that could be more helpful than weight loss.

I highly recommend therapy before and after wls from an eating disorder specialist.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

6 minutes ago, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

I find this offensive on many levels. Your stereotyping and bias is deeply effecting your opinion here and is coloring everyone with the same brush. Offensive. JUst an FYI, I had a lot of fears and regret the first two months and it wasn't because I was throwing a temper tantrum cause I can't funnel food into my face anymore. But thanks for dismissing people's emotions and feelings and stereotyping everyone.

I wrote what I meant and I meant what I wrote. If you don't like it add me to ignore. My opinion is my opinion and is completely valid after years of reading absolute dribble.

You are throwing a temper tantrum right now because someone said something you don't agree with. The adult response would be to ignore it.

Edited May 11, 2017 by OutsideMatchInside

[bellabloom 2,469]

Just search youtube it is full of food addict cry babies who are unhappy with their surgery and still eating Pasta. Or you can search regret here and find lots of thread of unhappy people who can't pig out on pizza of chug liquor like it is Spring Break anymore.
Although most of those claims are just click bait, when you watch the actual videos, you will see they are happy with their results even if they never got to goal.
Forums are a skewed representation of life after WLS. First of all it is mainly newbs. I had surgery almost 2 years ago and basically no one that had surgery the same month as me posts here. Even at the one year mark they were all gone. 3 kinds of people post on WLS forums, newbs, successful people and failures/regains.
I'm thrilled with my surgery results, my health improvements were almost immediate. The weight loss is just icing on the cake.

Totally agree this is offensive. This poster likes to be negative towards people and posters like this have chased many veterans away sadly.

It's horrible for a person who has had wls surgery to judge other wls individuals. Not everyone is "successful" and it's a very complicated process for people. Being a failure at wls surgery is extremely common and says nothing about that persons determination or worth, period.

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

1 minute ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

I wrote what I meant and I meant what I wrote. If you don't like it add me to ignore. My opinion is my opinion and is completely valid after years of reading absolute dribble.

You are throwing a temper tantrum right now because someone said something you don't agree with. The adult response would be to ignore it.

lol! right back atcha...I don't considering me telling you you offended me a temper tantrum. hahaha! Again, I think your perspective is skewed.

[njgal 535]

10 minutes ago, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

I find this offensive on many levels. Your stereotyping and bias is deeply effecting your opinion here and is coloring everyone with the same brush. Offensive. JUst an FYI, I had a lot of fears and regret the first two months and it wasn't because I was throwing a temper tantrum cause I can't funnel food into my face anymore. But thanks for dismissing people's emotions and feelings and stereotyping everyone.

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To the OP:

The first 2 months were very rough for me. I had been basically dying for the 16 months leading up to my surgery. The doctors didn't know what was wrong and I was in and out of the hospital. When they finally discovered it was my gallbladder that was destroying my pancreas, liver and kidneys they asked if I wanted to have the VGS surgery as well. Saying I was completely covered insurance wise and health wise it's what all of my docs strongly recommended. I have 4 weeks to prep with all my tests and milestones I had to meet for the surgery.

After wards I had a very difficult recovery. And in that time I went through a week straight of full on crying regret. It was all so emotionally overwhelming and I just wanted to be a "normal" person. I wanted a normal life back after so long of being sick and then now recovery. And I had no way to sooth myself either. I was physically in pain, emotionally in pain and there was nothing I could do to make myself feel better. I could barely walk even.

But then Trump was elected and that was it, I hit rock bottom. I was crying, miserable, in pain physically, emotionally and now we have THIS to deal with?? lol! I was just moving on to the full food stage and had been avoiding all carbs (My pancreas was severely damaged and I was producing almost no insulin at that point) but said SCREW IT!! I made myself some delicious mashed potatoes. Those mashed potatoes were like Manna to me, it was like my eyes were opening (and I was getting some real calories) and I realized that my life was still OK, that once I healed I could be "normal" again. I wasn't going to sustain on pureed ham and Protein powders for the rest of my life, that I was going to feel better - and soon. I realized that my fears and pain and regret were a form of grieving, of dealing with such a huge change.

I mean, we are REMOVING OUR STOMACHS essentially. lol! If you don't have a few moments or swaths of time where you regret it or have fears, than I say congratulations and I am so happy for you! But if you DO have some moments like that I think that is ALSO totally healthy and normal. It's OK to be human and have fears and regrets. You just want to make sure that you don't allow yourself to dwell in that space. Try to find the thing that will help change your perspective. I hate even admitting that Trump's election did anything positive for me but it is what it is. lol!

OMG, your post had me rolling on the floor... thanks for sharing!

[njgal 535]

14 minutes ago, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

I find this offensive on many levels. Your stereotyping and bias is deeply effecting your opinion here and is coloring everyone with the same brush. Offensive. JUst an FYI, I had a lot of fears and regret the first two months and it wasn't because I was throwing a temper tantrum cause I can't funnel food into my face anymore. But thanks for dismissing people's emotions and feelings and stereotyping everyone.

------------------------

To the OP:

The first 2 months were very rough for me. I had been basically dying for the 16 months leading up to my surgery. The doctors didn't know what was wrong and I was in and out of the hospital. When they finally discovered it was my gallbladder that was destroying my pancreas, liver and kidneys they asked if I wanted to have the VGS surgery as well. Saying I was completely covered insurance wise and health wise it's what all of my docs strongly recommended. I have 4 weeks to prep with all my tests and milestones I had to meet for the surgery.

After wards I had a very difficult recovery. And in that time I went through a week straight of full on crying regret. It was all so emotionally overwhelming and I just wanted to be a "normal" person. I wanted a normal life back after so long of being sick and then now recovery. And I had no way to sooth myself either. I was physically in pain, emotionally in pain and there was nothing I could do to make myself feel better. I could barely walk even.

But then Trump was elected and that was it, I hit rock bottom. I was crying, miserable, in pain physically, emotionally and now we have THIS to deal with?? lol! I was just moving on to the full food stage and had been avoiding all carbs (My pancreas was severely damaged and I was producing almost no insulin at that point) but said SCREW IT!! I made myself some delicious mashed potatoes. Those mashed potatoes were like Manna to me, it was like my eyes were opening (and I was getting some real calories) and I realized that my life was still OK, that once I healed I could be "normal" again. I wasn't going to sustain on pureed ham and Protein powders for the rest of my life, that I was going to feel better - and soon. I realized that my fears and pain and regret were a form of grieving, of dealing with such a huge change.

I mean, we are REMOVING OUR STOMACHS essentially. lol! If you don't have a few moments or swaths of time where you regret it or have fears, than I say congratulations and I am so happy for you! But if you DO have some moments like that I think that is ALSO totally healthy and normal. It's OK to be human and have fears and regrets. You just want to make sure that you don't allow yourself to dwell in that space. Try to find the thing that will help change your perspective. I hate even admitting that Trump's election did anything positive for me but it is what it is. lol!

Oh, I don't think that's how it was meant at all btw. I could be wrong of course.