2 Weeks Post-Op and feeling a little regretful?

[Honeybee17 65]

I've heard that regret is normal especially immediately after surgery when there are more restrictions. I'll be 3 weeks from surgery tomorrow and I've had a few days that I've felt like this. Today happened to be one of them. I was glad to see your post, I really needed it today. The changes are difficult especially in social/public settings. I did a ton of research before surgery so that I was completely prepared, but that doesn't compare to knowing how I would feel while I'm recovering. I had all the information but emotions can really go out of control after such a major surgery.
I have a co-worker who had bypass a few years ago who keeps reminding me to take it one day at a time. I find it easy to be hard on myself and when I find myself going there I need to stop. Today I stood in the mirror and honestly thought, why not just stay fat? Why did I do this? I had to remind myself that I wanted to cure my milk sleep apnea, improve my chronic ankle pain, get off blood pressure meds, fit comfortably in an airplane seat, play with my niece and nephew, and generally feel better.
I try to think of at least one thing every day that I appreciate about the surgery. I'm going to start writing them down so I can read them when I have a tough day. Today I appreciate that I fit into a shirt that was snug the week before surgery, and it was big on me. I find that I can gauge my progress more based on which clothes I can fit into rather than looking in the mirror.
I hope that you find some method to cope with your feelings of regret when they pop up. If you ever need to chat we're here for you! Best of luck!

That is exactly head-on with whereI was at too! Had at all the info, did the research, tons of soul searching. I felt so prepared. But there it was anyway..staring at me, like an albatross around my neck. Regret. Thank you for understanding like everyone else! I'm glad my post helped you as it helped me and others, I hope.

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[Sosewsue61 3,185]

I am pre-op, so I can't comment on the emotions from this surgery.

But - I had a total knee replacement 7 years ago and struggled sooooo hard with cutting my bones off and getting fake parts - that I waited until I was falling going up and down steps when the knee buckled to have the surgery. I still hated having it. After surgery I had crying-in-my-sleep bone healing pain for 6 months. And painful physical therapy. But I can square dance and hike and it's all good now, yes kneeling is still a ****** but that is why they invented knee pads and foam!!!

I imagine I will have high emotions during this process and hormone disruption (hopefully not worse than menopause), and battles with food desire but I will persevere.

[Deactivatedfatgal 377]

25 minutes ago, Sosewsue61 said:

I am pre-op, so I can't comment on the emotions from this surgery.

But - I had a total knee replacement 7 years ago and struggled sooooo hard with cutting my bones off and getting fake parts - that I waited until I was falling going up and down steps when the knee buckled to have the surgery. I still hated having it. After surgery I had crying-in-my-sleep bone healing pain for 6 months. And painful physical therapy. But I can square dance and hike and it's all good now, yes kneeling is still a ****** but that is why they invented knee pads and foam!!!

I imagine I will have high emotions during this process and hormone disruption (hopefully not worse than menopause), and battles with food desire but I will persevere.

I suffer from depression after surgery, had horrible post partum, felt like I was elevated and couldn't get down! It passed though, and so will this emotional whirlwind. I attribute my struggles now to losing 42 pounds in 8 weeks. My hormones are everywhere.

[Gulleba 8]

I'm 4 weeks po. I'm not regretting, but I must say, it's a little harder than I thought. I've had no complications, and I eat and drink what I'm suppose to.
But I feel very tired, and I feel sort of down atm. Miss my work, miss having energy, weight loss is slow..etc. I always thought I was so strong, so I am a little surprised by it all.

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