Want opinion on do I tell

[TammyLee66 152]

Hi everyone I'm newly dating someone and soon I will be my VSG surgery. My question is do I tell this guy I'm dating or not

[Redmaxx 740]

Ask yourself this, would you want him to tell you if he was having this surgery?

[Navigating the Wilderness 824]

Its all a personal choice, and I bet people in here would be split pretty evenly between tell or don't tell. I personally would tell them. You are going to have the surgery and eventually that person will probably put 2 and 2 together, so you might as well test the waters.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

13 minutes ago, TammyLee66 said:

Hi everyone I'm newly dating someone and soon I will be my VSG surgery. My question is do I tell this guy I'm dating or not

If you have to ask, the answer is probably no.

If you were in a place with him that you had a deep connection/relationship, you wouldn't be asking us you would just tell him.

I wasn't dating anyone at the time I had surgery. The people have I dated post-op, I have been honest with about losing weight and trying to get in better health, but I haven't mentioned surgery. None have ask and most aren't curious that I have lost/am losing weight. They just like that I'm pretty and look amazing in a dress.

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

I guess the only issue you are going to have to address is recovery. You don't want to ghost on a new guy if you like him,

I dunno if it isn't serious I would probably just break it off. You need to be focused on yourself and you food. It takes a lot of energy to get this right post-op. Then when you get into post-op hormone based mood swings. I wouldn't subject anyone to that I didn't have a really strong connection to. I'm lucky I have kept all my friends

So dish on this guy so we can give better advice. How long have you been dating? What are your ages? Is he divorced? Where did you meet him? Have you been to pound town yet?

[LittleLizzieLilliput 919]

I'm terrified of dating now, them seeing my body now that it's all melted. I'm having a really hard time emotionally with that myself. I am really into this guy and he's into me but I'm too afraid to pull the trigger because then I have to have to deal with how disgusting I feel I look without cloths on. But then I don't want to wait 2+ years for the full-body life to have sex. lol! Oh man, I'm such a mess. This is the one area where I have no idea what to do, how to start, etc.

[kbellakat 69]

Hi everyone I'm newly dating someone and soon I will be my VSG surgery. My question is do I tell this guy I'm dating or not

Well if you really like him then be honest & tell him if you plan on still seeing him ... cos think he's gonna know somethings up eventually right ...then u will see if there is a stronger connection.. ..
especially when u start dropping all the weight.. .. lol otherwise if you don't wanna keep seeing this guy then no don't .. & ghost him lol.. good luck Tammy ! [emoji4][emoji106]

[odontask 13]

Good luck. Just be weary. You never know who's going to have an opinion about your surgery and he might have a negative reaction you didn't expect. But I do agree with the Person who says he is going to know something is up depending on how frequent you see each other.