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I am scheduled and finding myself in a panic over an issue that men here must have an opinion about. Anal sex after the sleeve recovery period. Long term changes to the entire way your digestive system works. I had lost 35 pounds through exercise and discipline, but hit a wall while still at a BMI of 38, stuck for 4 years. I'm not morbidly obese anymore, but definitely eligible with a 45 inch belly to prove it. Also had an umbilical cord hernia mesh fix when I was 22 and a dancer, now in my 50's.

There's a vanity aspect to this because my doctor thinks I'm down to a safer range of numbers - and I've been HIV positive for 32 years and never ill - a real miracle. Being overweight really did mean confirming I was healthy as friends died around me. Now it's really a last chance to live a long life, and not die of obesity related illnesses like my entire family has.

Might I have diarreah or uncontrollable gas or other lower intestinal problems that could affect my sex life?

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@TheBearguy8 Just follow the diet plan you've set out with, drink plenty of liquids. I take a glass of metamucil every day to help keep me regular, and if your are all that concerned, give yourself a nice cleansing enema before engaging in sex. Good luck on your surgery, focus on that...

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Update: things have been very successful. Sometimes it's weird mixing Constipation issues with watery.....whatever....and a growling stomach...but doing ok, and doing it a lot


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