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If you aren't ready, then don't rush into it.
Try some more controlled eating and exercise.
If you can do it on your own, then great.
I personally know I cannot do it without the tool of WLS.
This is a major decision, so take your time and don't rush.



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I guess the thing that is sort of rushing my timeline is that Im 30 and I want to have a couple babies as soon as possible...and I would like to be at an ideal weight before that happens...but they also say not to get pregnant for at least a year after wls....soooo times a ticking

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@hardwork&dedication - I'm 8 months out. I'm 55. I wish I had done this sooner. As for the kiddos - I was 37 when I had my first and 41 when I had my second - they are now 17 (graduating high school) and 14 (finishing 8th grade). By the time you are ready to fly to Paris, if you want a macaron, you can have one. Just adjust the rest of your calories that day.

I've lost 72% of my excess weight and am 30 pounds from goal. I'm not sure I'm going to get to the goal I set because I'm putting on a lot of muscle with the exercise I'm doing. I've gone from squeezing into a size 22 to being comfortable in a size 10.

Your family is concerned because surgery, any kind, is risky. Having kids is risky. There are 18.5 maternal deaths in every 100,000 live births. Is that going to keep you from having children?

In terms of VSG vs. bypass - talk to your surgeon - s/he is the expert and can tell you what would be best for you given your physical condition. I had a sleeve and am very happy with it.

Best of luck.

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I guess I'm really scared too because I personally know someone that died from weight loss surgery. The mother of one of my friends in high school had weight loss surgery and died. He had to go live with his grandparents in Texas after that because she was a single mother. It's probably why my family is so against it as well.

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My bmi is 46 and I have high cholesterol and am pre-diabetic. Apart from that, my life is awesome. I mean of course it could be better. Not having a mental breakdown every time I go clothes shopping because nothing will fit me would be nice. Having more energy would be nice. However, I have dealt with chronic diarrhea, stomach cramping, and nausea in the past...and that is not something I ever want to go through again. Also, given that 1 in every 200 wls result in death....I'm worried I'm the 1.

I'm interested to know where you got your statistics for wls death rates. Death is a very low risk with this surgery.

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From this website...click on patients>weight loss surgery information>side effects and complications. You have probably heard it quoted as "less than 1% mortality rate"...which is true...but 1 in 200 is still a lot.

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