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Has anyone since loosing weight and getting there confidence back has become a flirt???

I separated 2 months ago and since I started going out but I notice that since I have lost weight and I am single that I am becoming a big flirt. I also find that men notice me a lot more and I don’t know how to handle it, I go out every other weekend I am always meeting new people and I can’t find to stick to one because the attention feels good. Anyone share the same experience or am I becoming a “Band Ho” for attention.

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I never had low self-esteem (except in middle school), the only way I came to terms with being so fat is that I had problems walking.

ALWAYS flirting.. :)

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Gosh, no, I'm a crusty old married 40 year old, lol.

But I get lots of male attention these days and I'm not exactly averse to it, tee hee.

Except when Im running. The honks, yells and being stared at at the traffic lights give me the shits. I only want to be looked at when it suits me!

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I would not classify myself as a "flirt"...I do however find myself making eye contact, that I had avoided for years.

When you are fat, you get horrible looks of derision from complete strangers! Now I might have imagined some of those looks, but the feeling I got from it was just the same. So I avoided eye contact.

Not so anymore! I meet their eye, and smile back. I am treated differently by both men and women....but not just in a flirtatious way. Although men DO without a doubt react differently---and I still have a ways to go!!!

Kat

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I would'nt say that I had no self esteem but the thought that I was so much bigger I myself didnt like me most of the time but I sure did have attention since I have always been a social person, but the difference now is that I feel prettier than before and more attractive.

The other problem I have is that I can't see myself smaller because besides the flirtting I feel like I am the same person and I can't except a compliment very well. I now I tend to be hard on myself.

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