Does it really take 2 years?

[Berry78 4,261]

Outside didn't HAVE "a tone"... What the heck! Men DO lose at about twice the rate as women. Period. With surgery, and without. Ever see the show Naked and Afraid? The men always lose a ton more than the women, given the same conditions. Fact of life, sister!

[Travelher 915]

11 hours ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

Hmm yes and no. I mean it all depends on how fast you lose. RNY people with a lot to lose don't lose it all in year one either. Most people with a BMI over 50 to start are going to need 2 years. I started with a 60 BMI and it took me 17 months to go from 370 to 199. I'm 187 ish right now and I expect it will take me another 4 to 6 months to lose the last 20 pounds I want to lose. My expect average weight loss for my start weight was 220,

I hit the average expected weight for the sleeve at 1 year and the average expected weight for RNY in less than 18 months.

Those number above are what you can expect to lose in 2 years not one year. Most people need more than a year to lose their weight. The only reason that is becoming different now is more people are having surgery at lower BMIs. Most people in the past were super morbidly obese.

As you can see the chances of someone with my start weight reaching the weight I am currently at (which isn't even on this chart) is less than 20%. Most people that start in the 300s never see a weight below 200, most get stuck around the 250 range.

It also depends on how low you want to go. I started out wearing size 28/30 now I wear an 8/10 (I could be smaller but I have loose skin). I could be perfectly happy in the 190 range. I stopped my diabetes meds at 2 months, my blood pressure is on the low end of normal. I am losing more to get a cushion for regain as I age. I never want to be over 200 again in my life. If I lose to 170 and regain to 190 in 20 years I won't care.

Edited April 14, 2017 by Travelher
What website is this? I'd love to check it out?

[Berry78 4,261]

http://www.obesitycoverage.com/the-complete-patients-guide-to-bariatric-surgery/

[kinipela24 80]

3 hours ago, Berry78 said:

Outside didn't HAVE "a tone"... What the heck! Men DO lose at about twice the rate as women. Period. With surgery, and without. Ever see the show Naked and Afraid? The men always lose a ton more than the women, given the same conditions. Fact of life, sister!

Wow. I come on here for support. I was referring to the "you don't want to suck do you? and some of the other comments. I don't want to continue to quote one person or attack them. It was the framing what was being replied to me. I did not disagree with the CONTENT. I understand that men lose more. I just did not want to continue a conversation that was making me feel worse (whether that makes sense to anyone or not-Why do it? )not better. I don't want to bully or pinpoint one person. I didn't know what word to use. Maybe "tone" wasn't the best choice. If I was harsh, I apologize. I am sure she appreciates you defending her and I think that is very kind of you. Again, had nothing to do with the content. I am a sensitive person and the way one or two people on these forums "type" (my decision was not just based on this thread but replies on other ones as well-because what was said/typed wasn't THAT bad) is not something I'm used. So, I guess now I'm going to be getting replies about how I need to stop being so senstive or possibly worse. I'm doig the best I can here. I meant no harm, honestly. Again, Men lose more weight I agree and have known that for a long time. Peace, love, understanding, and compassion for all here from me! All the best things for you! Again men lose more weight! Have been aware of this for several years. I just wanted to let all of this go but I had to reply to this.

Edited April 14, 2017 by kinipela24

[kinipela24 80]

2 hours ago, Travelher said:

Kind of you to take the time to do that. I have read all of those things before and the same exact site(s). I started the thread because I wanted to hear people's personal experiences because those resonate with me more than all of the articles I read. I get everyone is an individual and will have different results. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

[Middus 491]

22 minutes ago, kinipela24 said:

Wow. I come on here for support. I was referring to the "you don't want to suck do you? and some of the other comments. I don't want to continue to quote one person or attack them. It was the framing what was being replied to me. I did not disagree with the CONTENT. I understand that men lose more. I just did not want to continue a conversation that was making me feel worse (whether that makes sense to anyone or not-Why do it? )not better. I don't want to bully or pinpoint one person. I didn't know what word to use. Maybe "tone" wasn't the best choice. If I was harsh, I apologize. I am sure she appreciates you defending her and I think that is very kind of you. Again, had nothing to do with the content. I am a sensitive person and the way one or two people on these forums "type" (my decision was not just based on this thread but replies on other ones as well-because what was said/typed wasn't THAT bad) is not something I'm used. So, I guess now I'm going to be getting replies about how I need to stop being so senstive or possibly worse. I'm doig the best I can here. I meant no harm, honestly. Again, Men lose more weight I agree and have known that for a long time. Peace, love, understanding, and compassion for all here from me! All the best things for you! Again men lose more weight! Have been aware of this for several years. I just wanted to let all of this go but I had to reply to this.

You are far too 'nice'.. (I say that in complete jest)

Don't let people who feel the urge to freely express their thoughts and emotions to prevent you from expressing yours.

All the best with your journey!

[kinipela24 80]

5 minutes ago, Middus said:

You are far too 'nice'.. (I say that in complete jest)

Don't let people who feel the urge to freely express their thoughts and emotions to prevent you from expressing yours.

All the best with your journey!

Thank you. I appreciate that.

[Berry78 4,261]

Ok, I thought there was issue with men vs women weight loss. Sorry if I misconstrued.

This topic reminds me of a conversation I had right before surgery. My MIL asked how much weight I could lose after surgery. My starting weight was 305lbs. I told her I could end up anywhere from 155 to 200lbs, or maybe a smidge more.

She frowned and said... It wouldn't be worth it to her to only get to 200lbs. (she is currently 250... With ALL that extra weight in her belly... A 50lb loss would transform that woman!)

Even 200lbs would be sooo much healthier than 300. My daughter is close to that weight, and she looks stunning next to me! Of course I would be happy with that amount of weight loss!

If it takes 2 years, all the better because my skin will have more time to retract. But, it really does seem like most weight is lost the first year, particularly for those that have under 100 pounds to lose.

I'm not a month out yet, so can't say what will happen.

[Mandybb 183]

I'm a slower loser and it will indeed probably take 2 years for me to reach my goal weight. I'm ok with that, it's not all gloom and doom. It took me 38 years to put all that weight on, so to reach my goal in only 2 years is amazing. It's all about prospective. It's not about losing the fastest, it's about learning how to properly eat so you can maintain a healthy weight for the rest of your life. All good things come with time. Trust the process and enjoy the journey. Never compare yourself to others and their journey. Just concentrate on you, one day at a time! Good luck!

[lf1227 129]

Ugh, I tried to be nice. Please don't reply to anymore of my posts. I don't come on here for this kind of tone.

This person is usually always snappy. It's not just you don't worry.

[summerset 5,265]

If it really bothers you, there is always the ignore function.

[lf1227 129]

If it really bothers you, there is always the ignore function.

I never said it personally affected me lol I'm just stating an opinion. Chill.

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

I'm a slower loser and it will indeed probably take 2 years for me to reach my goal weight. I'm ok with that, it's not all gloom and doom. It took me 38 years to put all that weight on, so to reach my goal in only 2 years is amazing. It's all about prospective. It's not about losing the fastest, it's about learning how to properly eat so you can maintain a healthy weight for the rest of your life. All good things come with time. Trust the process and enjoy the journey. Never compare yourself to others and their journey. Just concentrate on you, one day at a time! Good luck!

I feel the same way.
It took me 17 years to get this big (I was in good shape at 21, I am 38 now)
So, if it takes 18 months or 24 months to get to an ideal weight I am OK with that.
I know it is going to take time.
I am just looking forward to having the sleeve as a tool to help me.

[summerset 5,265]

30 minutes ago, lf1227 said:

I never said it personally affected me lol I'm just stating an opinion. Chill.

Just made a suggestion. Chill.

[kinipela24 80]

1 hour ago, Berry78 said:

Ok, I thought there was issue with men vs women weight loss. Sorry if I misconstrued.

This topic reminds me of a conversation I had right before surgery. My MIL asked how much weight I could lose after surgery. My starting weight was 305lbs. I told her I could end up anywhere from 155 to 200lbs, or maybe a smidge more.

She frowned and said... It wouldn't be worth it to her to only get to 200lbs. (she is currently 250... With ALL that extra weight in her belly... A 50lb loss would transform that woman!)

Even 200lbs would be sooo much healthier than 300. My daughter is close to that weight, and she looks stunning next to me! Of course I would be happy with that amount of weight loss!

If it takes 2 years, all the better because my skin will have more time to retract. But, it really does seem like most weight is lost the first year, particularly for those that have under 100 pounds to lose.

I'm not a month out yet, so can't say what will happen.

Thank you for your reply and congrats on getting the surgery. It takes real strength. All the best to you!