6 months post RNY, mixed feelings/results

[bostonmama 135]

Hello,

I will share some progress pics soon I need to buy a new full length mirror since my 5 year old knocked mine down a few weeks ago.

I had RNY on Oct 5, I believe I was 260 on surgery day. I made it into onderland at around 5.5 months post op but crept back up to 200-203 and have been stalled there since.

I really am happy I had the surgery, I don't think I could have lost this weight on my own, since I've been trying unsuccessfully for years. I look and feel so much better! My confidence is up and my anxiety has gone down. I'm getting a lot of compliments and attention, which hasn't really happened to me in years, it feels great!

The problem is, I haven't really overcome the issues that made me overweight to begin with. I still struggle to make healthy choices and with emotional eating. I still eat too many carbs, and sometimes the really bad kind of carbs I have no business eating at all. I've seen several posters who had surgery around the same time as me have better results, because they are sticking to the plan better than I have done.

I worry that I will never make it to goal, or even closer to my goal than I am now. I really worry I won't be able to keep this weight off. I feel so guilty that I deviate from the plan nearly every day. I do have good support from my surgeon and am going to a support group meeting tonight.

I hope this post is not too negative. I have a lot of worries but I am still trying to follow the plan and hope I can turn things around!

[Redmaxx 740]

Sorry that you are having issues. Are you still meeting with your surgeon and your NUT? I met with mine at 14 days, 30 days, 90 days and 6 months. My surgeon offers a support group that meets monthly and I haven't missed one since my surgery (first group was 5 days post op). You might want to see if someone from your support group would be willing to help mentor you.

You may also want to talk to a therapist to help you.

[marieac2 85]

It's a struggle. Sounds like old demons are still hanging around. Try counseling with weight specialist, your on right track u know what the problem is just need help working thru it!

[Sherrie Scharbrough 311]

You have GOT THIS!!! You know what and how to do it!! If you have to go back to the basics you will start losing again. You know you have what it takes because look at how far you have come!! The weight you have lost is incredible, you just need to realize that you have the TOOL for success!! TRUST it again you will be amazed that the tool will be there for you!! BTW don't be so hard on yourself. You are human and will hit giltches along the way. Puyll yourself up and KEEP ON KEEPING ON!!

[gjb2017 71]

Hello,
I will share some progress pics soon [emoji4] I need to buy a new full length mirror since my 5 year old knocked mine down a few weeks ago.
I had RNY on Oct 5, I believe I was 260 on surgery day. I made it into onderland at around 5.5 months post op but crept back up to 200-203 and have been stalled there since.
I really am happy I had the surgery, I don't think I could have lost this weight on my own, since I've been trying unsuccessfully for years. I look and feel so much better! My confidence is up and my anxiety has gone down. I'm getting a lot of compliments and attention, which hasn't really happened to me in years, it feels great!
The problem is, I haven't really overcome the issues that made me overweight to begin with. I still struggle to make healthy choices and with emotional eating. I still eat too many carbs, and sometimes the really bad kind of carbs I have no business eating at all. I've seen several posters who had surgery around the same time as me have better results, because they are sticking to the plan better than I have done.
I worry that I will never make it to goal, or even closer to my goal than I am now. I really worry I won't be able to keep this weight off. I feel so guilty that I deviate from the plan nearly every day. I do have good support from my surgeon and am going to a support group meeting tonight.
I hope this post is not too negative. I have a lot of worries but I am still trying to follow the plan and hope I can turn things around!

Saugus here. VSG in July at Tufts. How are you?

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[Pazza 199]

Little late to reply but I wanted to chime in, partially because when I heard mention of Saugus and Boston, I got a little nostalgic.

The mental/emotional aspect is a tough one!!

Nutritionist - I am 13 months out and just had an appointment with my nut for a course correction. They can be really helpful. We all need help.

Counseling - If you can afford it, find a good counselor. If I break my leg I go to the doctor right? Why are emotional/mental/spiritual injuries any different?
We all need help. A good therapist can help diagnose and offer different coping strategies.
If you can't afford one right now try reading.
A few books I recommend are:
The feeling good handbook by Dr. Burns
Bite by bite - really short audio book available through Boston public library
Eating the moment

Don't compare yourself to others too much. I am working on this too. Offer a hug and comiseration.

Time - remember to give yourself time, habits take time to change. It sounds like you know this and really recognize what you want to change. You will make it!!

All the best!

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[marieac2 85]

I had my surgery @ mayo, Jacksonville. I had several Nutrition/Pysch classes 3 months before. My surgery date (mandatory). I loved them, so much info it has helped me.

I love Tuffs Medical Center (originally from Maine) I've had several knee urgencies there.

I find their booklet very helpful, I use https://www.tuftsmedicalcenter.org/~/media/Brochures/TuftsMC/Patient Care Services/Departments and Services/Weight and Wellness Center/GBP Diet Manual12611.ashx

as a guide all the time. Ask for help it's too much to do on your own!!

[Roggr 0]

Do not blame your food cravings on emotional issues, Bostonmama. A good non-surgeon bariatric specialist can evaluate to see if medications or surgery revision is needed. Please do not beat yourself up for the cravings. Your struggles may be as much physiological as psychological and can be addressed by the right medical specialist. Yes, see a nutritionist and psychologist but there are a lot of experienced, talented obesity specialist medical doctors in the Boston area.

[bostonmama 135]

Thanks everyone. I saw my surgeon for my 6 month appt today, and he seemed pleased with my progress so far (83 lbs lost , though its actually been 7 month since my surgery). I felt very guilty going into in thinking about all the bad food I'm still eating, but he believes in all things in moderation. I'm not really sure if that is the best strategy for me personally.

I asked him about a goal weight and was surprised to hear that he thinks I should only lose another 15 lbs. I'm about 35 away from the "normal" BMI range. He also said I only have another 6 months or so to reach the goal before my metabolism slows down to my new body and weight loss becomes very difficult again.

Any thoughts on the "overweight" goal?

[marieac2 85]

My surgeon gave me a goal weight of 138! Last time I was close to that weight was when I got married 42 years ago!! I'm sure I can lose another 24lbs, already lost 54 in 6 months!

You will be fine, get help if you think you are out of control! Keep on this site for support!! I'm 66 so if I can cope anyone can!!!!