Advice Please! How do I get over this?

[newgirl07 0]

Hi everyone,

A couple of years ago, my BF wanted to buy me some clothes for xmas. I should first say that this guy is totally fashion savvy, always looks like the cover of GQ. Anyway, I told him he should never buy me clothes because I'm super picky about what I wear. Which is only partly true.

The real truth was that I was/am embarassed at my size. Before my band in August I was a 20 and now I'm probably a 16-18 (29# gone). He told me this past weekend that he really wants to go shopping with me and buy me lots of gorgeous clothes.

I guess I shouldn't complain about this "problem" -- most women's partners never want to shop -- but honestly, I am having major anxiety about it! I told him that right now I consider all clothes transitional and that I'd think about it when I get to be the size I want to be.

But I don't know if I'll ever get over the psychological thing. It's always so safe to shop with your girlfriends -- they can relate to having hips. How can I start to feel comfortable about my body enough to actually send a guy out to get me the right size of something when I'm in a dressing room! The thought is mortifying to me.

Does your body image issues get better as you get smaller? It's strange that I'm totally fine with him in the bedroom but can't image the department store dressing room!

Help!

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

Awww new! I feel your pain. I agree a guy will never know what it is like to have hips, boobs, ect. BUT that doesn't mean they can't help and make good decisions! They are good at that!

However I would talk to him, and tell him you should really wait to buy clothes! You will not be wearing them long and you will feel like you have wasted money.

And, no the body issues don't really go away, but we learn to help it happen. Each day gets better!!

[Daisalana 33]

I'm just envious. My husband won't even shop for his OWN clothes.

I do all the clothing shopping here. He tells me his size and says get stuff I want him to wear. Such a bummer, I love clothing shopping and wish he'd go with me.

Is he still your boyfriend? If it's serious and you're comfortable enough to be with him in 'other ways' hint hint wink wink, you shouldn't be uncomfortable with him seeing you try on outfits. Have him pick out what he likes, and you discreetly grab your size.

When husband started doing laundry, I didn't want him seeing my clothing size.. and then I realized he was a dultz and wouldn't even know what it meant!