Anxiety kicking in

[MelissaRose24 91]

Guys,

Im about three weeks away from surgery. May 2nd is the big day and I'm starting to have a lot of anxiety. Starting to think maybe I shouldn't do this. This had been something that I have wanted for a long time. Im starting to read about complications which I already knew but now its really starting to hit me. Most patients have a high possibility of major complication in the first 30 days after surgery (thats what I read on one website). Im scared and thinking maybe I should just back out. However, im 28 years old. 5'4 260 and I have BMI of 44.5. So Im wondering if I do not do this will I ever lose weight? Will I always regret it? Will I wonder how my life would of been different? What if I do it and I have a serious complication? Will I regret having the procedure? Anyways please help calm my nerves guys. I need help. What have been some of your concerns?

[K_aane 356]

Do what feels right for you. Give it to God. You can stop at anytime right up to when you are getting wheeled into the room. Take a breath, dont dwell on what can go wrong, instead spend your time on what can go right. Imagine how good you will feel as you lose weight. Think of all the fun shopping you will do. I just finished my 3rd month of 6 month pre op, and all i am focused on is getting to the day. I gave it to God, to open the road and clear the obstacles, if its right it will happen and I will have peace.

I too get scared along the way. I had a colostomy 5 yrs ago and got it reversed. I remember when i read all the things that could go wrong i almost freaked out. I decided not to focus on what could go wrong because to get to point B , I had to go through point A. So as John Wayne says, "courage is being afraid but saddling up anyways". I cowboyed , rather cowgirled up, and went for it. I felt it was the right time. When I awoke from the surgery, i found out I didnt get the reversal because they found a large cyst that ate my ovary and fallopian tube and was making its way to my uterus. I had no idea it was there, no pain, nothing. Going in for that reversal was a Godsend. I had to wait another 10 months to try again for the reversal. It went as easy as pie.

So i am going with my gut. I want to do this and i feel its right and that is what i am doing. If God has other plans He will Detour me.

Have faith, trust what you feel, listen to no one but your inner voice and pray. You will find your answer.

[it's time 4 me 14]

56 minutes ago, MelissaRose24 said:

Guys,

Im about three weeks away from surgery. May 2nd is the big day and I'm starting to have a lot of anxiety. Starting to think maybe I shouldn't do this. This had been something that I have wanted for a long time. Im starting to read about complications which I already knew but now its really starting to hit me. Most patients have a high possibility of major complication in the first 30 days after surgery (thats what I read on one website). Im scared and thinking maybe I should just back out. However, im 28 years old. 5'4 260 and I have BMI of 44.5. So Im wondering if I do not do this will I ever lose weight? Will I always regret it? Will I wonder how my life would of been different? What if I do it and I have a serious complication? Will I regret having the procedure? Anyways please help calm my nerves guys. I need help. What have been some of your concerns?

Trust in God and trust in yourself this is something that you really wanted for years go for it. I've been wanting mine for years and I just had my surgery March 28th I am a little tired but I'm only one week out when I'm loving it wouldn't done it anything different hang in there and pray pray pray.

[MrsHTX 51]

My surgery date is May 1st and at first I was feeling the same way. As soon as I finalized the last of the plans I got extremely nervous and it lasted for a whole week. At one point I was thinking that I was going to worry myself into an ulcer or something and then I wont be physically able to have it done. Luckily that only lasted about a week and now Im more excited than anything. I dont even know what changed. I just woke up one day and felt different. Hopefully you will get over it as well. I agree with the others about praying and follow your instincts. Im guessing its natural to worry about what can go wrong, but maybe you can think more about how your life can change for the better instead. That should help you calm down.

We can certainly do this together since we are in similar situations!

[sammy246 235]

It helped me so much to take the pre-op class. There is such a low complication rate, especially when sticking to your plan. Try and calm down and think more on the logical side instead of the emotional. You are the only one who can ultimately decide, but try not to psyche yourself out too much! I'm May 1st, so I'm in the boat with you!

[MelissaRose24 91]

Do what feels right for you. Give it to God. You can stop at anytime right up to when you are getting wheeled into the room. Take a breath, dont dwell on what can go wrong, instead spend your time on what can go right. Imagine how good you will feel as you lose weight. Think of all the fun shopping you will do. I just finished my 3rd month of 6 month pre op, and all i am focused on is getting to the day. I gave it to God, to open the road and clear the obstacles, if its right it will happen and I will have peace.
I too get scared along the way. I had a colostomy 5 yrs ago and got it reversed. I remember when i read all the things that could go wrong i almost freaked out. I decided not to focus on what could go wrong because to get to point B , I had to go through point A. So as John Wayne says, "courage is being afraid but saddling up anyways". I cowboyed , rather cowgirled up, and went for it. I felt it was the right time. When I awoke from the surgery, i found out I didnt get the reversal because they found a large cyst that ate my ovary and fallopian tube and was making its way to my uterus. I had no idea it was there, no pain, nothing. Going in for that reversal was a Godsend. I had to wait another 10 months to try again for the reversal. It went as easy as pie.
So i am going with my gut. I want to do this and i feel its right and that is what i am doing. If God has other plans He will Detour me.
Have faith, trust what you feel, listen to no one but your inner voice and pray. You will find your answer.

Thank you your so right. This feels right to me so im just gonna listen to my inner voice. Give it all up to God and lean on him for strength. Ill focus on the positive I love shopping so I was so happy when you said that. Its like Im worrying so much I have forgotten about the good things that could happen. Thank you. I will have courage like you said cowgirl up!

[MelissaRose24 91]

My surgery date is May 1st and at first I was feeling the same way. As soon as I finalized the last of the plans I got extremely nervous and it lasted for a whole week. At one point I was thinking that I was going to worry myself into an ulcer or something and then I wont be physically able to have it done. Luckily that only lasted about a week and now Im more excited than anything. I dont even know what changed. I just woke up one day and felt different. Hopefully you will get over it as well. I agree with the others about praying and follow your instincts. Im guessing its natural to worry about what can go wrong, but maybe you can think more about how your life can change for the better instead. That should help you calm down.
We can certainly do this together since we are in similar situations!

Yes Thank you so much!!!! Im May2nd so we can keep in touch. Do u have instagram? Im vsg_melissaadriana

[MelissaRose24 91]

It helped me so much to take the pre-op class. There is such a low complication rate, especially when sticking to your plan. Try and calm down and think more on the logical side instead of the emotional. You are the only one who can ultimately decide, but try not to psyche yourself out too much! I'm May 1st, so I'm in the boat with you!

Thank you very much. I will try to focus more on the positive and not the negative.

[MrsHTX 51]

2 hours ago, MelissaRose24 said:

Yes Thank you so much!!!! Im May2nd so we can keep in touch. Do u have instagram? Im vsg_melissaadriana

I just started following you.

Edited April 5, 2017 by MrsHTX

[mlbdl 86]

I felt the same way you did, and I'm much older. I'm 9 months out now, and I wish I had done this at least 10 years ago. But maybe I wouldn't have been ready then. But, if I had done it 10 years ago AND everything went as well as it has now, I would have had 10 years back of my youth that I lost. 10 years of my mental health not screwing with me now. Some people will take offense to that but I'm just talking about myself. Knowing what I know now, and knowing that statistics say the VSG is safer than gall bladder surgery, I regret not doing it sooner. BUT you have to do all your due diligence and make your own decision. I definitely had my fears, even 2nd thoughts, even a few months out. But NO REGRETS for me now. I've also had no complications. Bumps in the road? Yes. Things to work out in my head? Yes. Regrets? No. Feel free to PM me if you have questions. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

[K_aane 356]

21 hours ago, MelissaRose24 said:

Thank you your so right. This feels right to me so im just gonna listen to my inner voice. Give it all up to God and lean on him for strength. Ill focus on the positive I love shopping so I was so happy when you said that. Its like Im worrying so much I have forgotten about the good things that could happen. Thank you. I will have courage like you said cowgirl up!

Way to go girl! Saddle up and ride!

[rosstheboss 21]

I too am questing. I meet again with my nutritionist , SO GLAD! She really went over things and eased my fears. I highly suggest it as it would be different than your initial info visit.

[chynadoll619 247]

How did surgery go?? And congratulations!!

[Okie75 35]

I just came across this post. I'm scheduled for surgery May 31st. I noticed a lot on here have had surgery yesterday or today, (May 1 & 2). Wanted to see how everyone is doing.

[MrsHTX 51]

22 hours ago, Okie75 said:

I just came across this post. I'm scheduled for surgery May 31st. I noticed a lot on here have had surgery yesterday or today, (May 1 & 2). Wanted to see how everyone is doing.

It went well. Actually Better then I expected. I'm sore but other than that I'm fine.

On 4/15/2017 at 8:37 PM, fatchocobomom said:

May 2nd here! Have my final appointment with my surgeon on Monday, and my hospital physical on Thursday. No pre diet, and I'm getting really anxious!